00:00if the hustle and
then will come type of culture got to you.
00:02You know the kind of story
where people talk about a hike
00:05in a million followers in two weeks
or how I made seven figures in the year
00:10makes you feel horrible
and beating yourself up.
00:13You know, you want to make a change,
but then it's really hard
00:16do the things that you know you should
00:19and then you're back to the vicious cycle
of beating yourself up over again.
00:23Then this video is for you
00:26I spend years spinning the same circle,
trying to make a change in my life
00:30and then watching others
who are no smarter than me
00:33moving forward in life and everything else
that they want to achieve.
00:37I always wonder why that was until
00:39I realized something that helped
to make everything click into place.
00:42I went from twice unemployed
to eventually working at Google
00:46and then eventually
running my own business, which is also now
00:49includes creating videos on this YouTube
channel.
00:52And everything that I've done to
this point
00:54feels almost unrecognizable
to the person I was.
00:57And somehow I turn my life around.
00:59were those shifts I made in my life.
01:01I'm going to walk you
through each one of those
01:03so you can start
accelerating your transformation
01:06and stop spinning the same spot
like I did.
01:08And this is not a video about achieving
success overnight.
01:11It's about building a foundation
for a new and better you
01:14that you think you sell for.
01:16When you were little kids,
you probably got told by your parents
01:20and those around you
that life is just the way it is.
01:23You learn to live
within the constraints of it, isn't it?
01:25So then you artificially create the
ceiling in your head that this is highs
01:31And I was exactly like that.
01:32I thought would be only working my 9 to 5.
01:34even though many times I was working
beyond my hours
01:379 to 5 and often on the weekends
I thought that sleep deprivation,
01:41having Monday
blues, it just part of being a doting
01:44I mean, to just suck up and get used to it
01:46And I think when the biggest
transformations came in my life,
01:49I realize that
I was so much more than I can achieve.
01:53I was living in the very limits
a version of me I can demand
01:56more and a better life
because everything is possible.
02:00I think we can all design an ideal life
that we're excited to wake up from rather
02:05than every morning wake up in the snooze
button, find more times.
02:08it really all started with very
insignificant changes and small things.
02:12I was tweaking on an everyday basis
that eventually led to
02:15a massive change years later.
02:17And this really brought to mind this
02:19really interesting theory
called the Butterfly Effect,
02:22which is coined by Professor
Laurens at MIT.
02:25He who talks about this effect of
in nature, where very insignificant
02:30small changes like how butterfly flapping
his wings can cause a tornado.
02:35On the other side of the world.
02:37So in a very complex system like nature,
02:40very small changes can lead to massive
effects into the future.
02:44There were so many things along
my journey that helped me to take
02:47those insignificant, tiny changes
alongside everything that I was doing.
02:53So for example,
listen to inspiring audiobooks,
02:55listen to podcasts,
attending events that inspire me.
02:59And I remember the first time
attended a Tony Robbins event
03:03all the way back in the early 20 tens,
and listening to all the different ways
03:08I can start taking action
03:09on the things I've been planning on
for years and months,
03:13and then also the move on
to reading the four hour workweek by Tim
03:16Ferriss, who completely transformed
the way I think about
03:19how we can spend time effectively
working on things
03:23that helps to move the needle
03:24in our career and our businesses
So think back to yourself
03:27or some of the preexisting beliefs
you were told when we were little
03:31and that you should no longer believe in
and how you can challenge those beliefs
03:36to think differently going forward,
03:38because that's going to be
the seed of everything.
03:40Not every single changes
you have in your life going forward.
03:43And I guarantee you on that one.
03:44The other ship that helped me
to make a massive change in what I do is
03:49of trying to learn to get a high income
job learning a high income skill instead.
03:54to grow up in the household
where money wasn't exactly abundant.
03:57My parents taught me to think
how to get the highest income job
04:01The man can get paid in the high income
job is finite, whereas a high income
04:04skill is infinitely more profitable
in the long term.
04:07So learning digital marketing.
04:09When I was laid off twice
during the global financial crisis
04:12was probably one of the best decisions
I ever made.
04:14The digital world
was just starting to take shape.
04:17And remember the day
when the iPhone launched.
04:19When I realized that this going
to be such a huge opportunity
04:22by having these little devices
in everyone's pockets,
04:25the world's
attention is going to shift to online,
04:28especially as we're carrying these
every single day.
04:30a couple of years later of literally daily
taking my time
04:33to learn as much as I could in the space
I found myself in.
04:37So calling recruiters,
04:38trying to get a job, interviews,
reasons the door
04:41I was invited to go to Google
and work there instead, And after Google,
04:44I spotted the opportunity
04:46that there were many businesses out there
who need advice on digital marketing.
04:49So I launched my business and right now
there's so many potential high income
04:53skills that you can develop digital
marketing, coding, data analytics, A.I.,
04:58these are all areas that you can start
honing your expertise on, and you'll
05:02be able to carve out a future for yourself
as long as you stay interested.
05:05Seeing the curve and start developing
05:08those new skills and get ready
to pivot and change with the times.
05:13Because reinvention of yourself
is part of the process.
05:15I never believed that
05:17you going to be pigeonholing yourself
into a specific area or industry
05:21because that's just not true
and never believe what others are saying
05:23because it's never too late
And we see this with people
05:26like Taylor Swift, who constantly
reinvent herself in the process,
05:30and that makes staying current
with the times and also
05:33becoming one of the most successful
female artists of all time.
05:36So think about yourself in the moment.
05:38What is one high income skill
that you're interested in developing?
05:41Write that down and start looking for
resources around online for you
05:46to find to help you build that new skill
and learn a little bit every single day.
05:51Because you be surprised how much
that add up to the years time as we all
05:55seen this with the way that James clear
top of this and Tommy have it's
05:59just 1% a day every single day means
to become 37 times better in the year.
06:04So imagine where you'll be in ten years
time from here.
06:06And this brings me to the third point,
which is how we should all embrace
06:11I think the ability to stay focused in
a very distracted world
06:14is definitely a superpower.
06:16We're gonna remember
06:16that we're living one
the biggest social experiments of all time
06:19with all these devices and distractions
around us, constantly around the clock.
06:24I remember the time
when I could barely get through a page
06:27or reading a physical book, but yet I can
scroll through Instagram for an hour.
06:32But you got to remember that
the ability to deep work is probably one
06:35the most important skill
in the modern economy,
06:38because by using the word,
you can create the high quality stuff,
06:42the outputs that puts you in the top 1%.
06:45That also allows for achieving
the biggest goals in your life.
06:48And I realized is that I'm able to create
the best videos in this channel, write
06:52the best keynote talks, create the best
training materials for my students
06:57when I want to stay focused and not being
distracted by everything else around me.
07:00and I came across this in Cal Newport's
book, The Work where he shares
07:04the ideas on how you can train your focus
07:08like a muscle
and expand your mental capacity over time.
07:11So I learned to build an environment
that's distraction free,
07:14that allow me to stay focused and start
working on my most important task
07:18first thing in the morning.
07:19I rather block out 3 hours of deep work
to get those things done
07:24than working hours in the day,
throughout the day where I'm
07:27highly distracted and actually doesn't
get anything done at all.
07:30But that also brings me
to this next point,
07:32which is every single thing that we say
we need to do really comes from the back
07:36of self-control, discipline.
07:38But you really know this.
07:39You know that you need to do this.
07:41There's a reason
why you clicked on this video
07:43because you know that there's
something need to change your life.
07:45I think one of the best way to do
this is build that discipline
07:48and self-control
in our daily habits and routines.
07:51if you think about it right,
07:52your life is made up by micro moments
every single day.
07:56How you get up in the morning,
how you show up at work,
07:59how you shop with your family,
And every single moment helps
08:03you embrace those habits,
enabling you to embrace your best self.
08:06You're most authentic self in your goals.
08:08and this was set to go all in.
08:10You ignore all distractions
in order to get you there.
08:13And it's hard, almost seems easy
08:14because I find it really hard
to fight against distractions and thoughts
08:19that are causing
going in the opposite direction
08:22and I find that the human mind doesn't
always
08:25want to listen to what we want to do,
and it's just part of how we are.
08:29And it's one of those things
where I realize also we're living in
08:32a system in hardware that's been designed
for the prehistoric ages,
08:36but yet we're expected
to have the same result and cream the same
08:40outcome of, having much different stakes
now in the modern economy.
08:44So in order to help me stick
to my own self-control and discipline,
08:49I think that an idea
that I really embrace,
08:51which is the keystone
habit, really helped me.
08:54And I learned this
from several individuals
08:56who are well known in the positivity
space, like Charles Duhigg,
08:59who wrote about the Power of Habit,
and also James Clear,
09:02who wrote about this in Atomic Habits,
And they all shared
09:05that there are certain habits
that lead to a cascade of other actions
09:09So for example, James mentioned this
09:11where a lot of people who work out
can relate that when you work out,
09:14which is your keystone habit, you
then start eating better
09:17because you don't want to ruin
all the hard work you did in the gym
09:20and then you end up sleeping
better on the back of that.
09:24And from there you will end up waking up
with a lot more energy,
09:28doing better work, and of creating
much better output on the back of that.
09:32So in his case, because he woke up
a lot more energy in concentration,
09:36he wrote a much better book because of it
and it contributed better work over time.
09:40So I feel the same way
because when I get into a keystone
09:44habit of, let's say in this case
working out first in the morning,
09:48I do a much better
two or 3 hours of high quality work
09:52rather than, let's say I don't go work out
and then I try to go through 8 hours
09:56in the day of counseling, being distracted
multiple tasking with low energy
10:01and feeling horrible by the end of it
because I haven't got much sun.
10:05And I really think that Keystone
habit was the key to how we were to start
10:09producing much more higher quality output
and then be able to achieve my big goals
10:15So I think this Keystone
habit can really help you set your life
10:18and the rest of your day
in a much better place because of that.
10:22I feel like a lot of times
it sounds trivial, but it is actually
10:25the center of everything,
the foundation of it all
10:27to really make
that initial change in your life.
10:30So think about what your keystone
habit could be.
10:32Is there anything you feel like that one
tiny habit can make this
10:37cascade of changes in the rest of your day
with the rest of your life,
10:41and how you can start incorporating that
more into what you do on a daily basis?
10:44And the other part
that I think really helped to help me
10:47stick to what I want to do over time
is by making it fun and also accountable
10:52to other people who have similar goals
to me, who help to lift me higher.
10:56I mean, sounds so it sounds a bit cliche
by this point, but you are the five people
11:01that you surround yourself
with on a regular basis
11:03and who you hang out with really helps you
to stick with that habit
11:07or changes
that you want to make in your life
11:09because you're all accountable
to each other and you're trying to achieve
11:13the same thing like this YouTube channel,
which is a great example.
11:16When I started creating videos,
which is those early days, when you start
11:19posting videos and you get zero views,
no one cares about them.
11:23And you can then go into a group like this
where you're getting their
11:27feedback on your videos.
11:28You came to conversations with others
about how they're doing things,
11:32and when you have accountability
like this, and also people who make it fun
11:37making you feel like you're part
11:38of the community, it makes it a lot easier
for you to stick to that habit.
11:41So it really got me through those days
when I felt demotivated.
11:45I don't oppose any more videos because
it's just not going to go anywhere.
11:49And these have to lift me higher.
11:51They gave me that motivation to keep going
and to persist no matter what,
11:55because we're all going
for the same thing.
11:56We're all working off the same goals
11:59and I think that's exactly the reason
why in everything you do,
12:02every little change, whether it's
in your career, in your business,
12:05whether it's something you want to stick
to as a healthy habit in your life,
12:09have someone around you
or a group of people around you
12:12that also share that same vision
12:14and I guarantee
you is going to be hello, more fun,
12:17but the same time
also allowing to stick to that habit
12:20much more in the long term and then able
to see that result over time.
12:23Thank you so much for sticking with me
to the end. I hope you enjoy the video.
12:26if you like this video,
I think you might also enjoy this one
12:28where it's all about my top
seven life lessons.
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