How We Became the Loneliest Generation | Asmongold Reacts
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The video explores the loneliness epidemic, its origins, causes, and health risks, emphasizing the societal shift towards individualism and technology. It discusses the impact of economic struggles, cultural shifts, and the decline of community spaces on loneliness. Addressing loneliness requires collective action, societal change, and promoting meaningful face-to-face connections. The rise of interactive AI companions and the commodification of emotional support are also touched upon. Gratitude, empathy, and community support are highlighted as essential tools to combat loneliness and improve overall well-being. The video aims to raise awareness about loneliness as a public health concern and the importance of understanding and accepting diverse experiences of loneliness.
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The segment explores the epidemic of loneliness and societal discomfort with solitude.
00:32Individuals are increasingly turning to smartphones over face-to-face interactions due to concerns about privacy.
Close-knit neighborhoods are declining, leading to a rise in loneliness, especially among men.
Gen Z individuals are experiencing a significant increase in loneliness, prompting questions about societal influences.
The discussion suggests that structural issues within society may be contributing to the loneliness epidemic.
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Loneliness is a growing global health risk, comparable to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
05:21Former US Surgeon General Vivek Murthy termed it a 'loneliness epidemic' based on scientific research.
Loneliness is not just physical isolation, but a mental state distinct from solitude.
The video delves into definitions, origins, causes, and solutions to loneliness, highlighting the significance of community spaces like third spaces.
It also raises doubts about claims connecting loneliness to health hazards.
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Loneliness is compared to hypervigilance, leading to feelings of unsafety and dissatisfaction with social interactions.
07:51Chronic loneliness can trigger fight or flight response, resulting in anxiety, depression, and anger.
Dr. V Murthy equates loneliness to smoking in terms of health risks, emphasizing its impact on premature death.
Loneliness is linked to societal issues and individual change, necessitating a shift in the social fabric.
Addressing loneliness requires collective action and societal change, with potential for improvement in health outcomes.
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Impact of 1960s and '70s Social Movements on Loneliness in Western Nations.
11:12Social movements during this time period caused a cultural shift towards individualism, leading to increased loneliness.
Attention shifted from local to national issues, reducing social gatherings and organizational participation.
Rise in hyper individualism in the 1970s due to societal oppression resulted in high inflation, crime rates, and erosion of family structures.
Divorce rates doubled between 1960 and 1980, reflecting growing societal tensions.
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The impact of the decline of religion on society.
14:26Society has shifted towards individualism, leading to more freedom but also increased loneliness and isolation.
Participating in society is crucial for cohesion and emphasizes individual responsibility.
Focus on abstract ideas over local governance may lead to ignorance and lack of accountability from media and government.
Social cohesion and individual responsibility within communities are essential for societal stability.
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The shift towards online communities is causing a disconnect from local culture and community.
19:10Society has moved from a collective mindset post-World War II to a more individualistic approach seen in Gen X and Millennials.
Social media is characterized as narcissistic, promoting self-focused interactions.
Collective identities and culture weakened by 2007, with an increase in the value of independent individuals.
The speaker questions the complete shift to individualism, proposing that people have traded local identities for other forms of identity.
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Impact of technology and social media on human connection.
21:55Emphasis on balancing online and offline interactions to combat loneliness and maintain genuine connections.
Reflection on personal introversion and challenges of navigating social dynamics in a technology-driven world.
Concern over societal shift towards individualistic behavior.
Call to reevaluate the role of technology in our lives and prioritize meaningful face-to-face connections.
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Growing Disparity Between Wealthy and Poor.
26:13Economic struggles are impacting societal cohesion, especially for middle-class families.
A healthy, growing economy is crucial for improving living standards, stable jobs, and relationships.
Rising inflation, stagnant wages, and increasing debt burdens are leading to frustration and longer work hours.
People are working harder to keep up with the challenging economic state.
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Impact of 2008 Financial Crisis on Millennials
27:44Millennials continue to face challenges due to government policies and reckless behavior in the financial sector.
Many young people in the disappearing middle class struggle with multiple jobs to afford housing.
A high percentage of young women are subscribing to online content services.
Job market and economic conditions have shifted, making it difficult for young individuals to secure stable employment and financial stability.
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The rise of content creation as a popular career choice due to autonomy and potential earnings.
33:22Mental exhaustion from jobs leading to less socialization.
Tech and international jobs causing longer work hours.
Economic factors influencing feelings of loneliness.
Increasing trend of people always being 'on call' for work, even if not content creators.
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Correlation between economic status and loneliness.
35:40Decrease in income leads to an increase in feelings of loneliness.
Young individuals are most affected by loneliness.
Personal experiences of losing friends in late 20s shared.
Desire for meaningful social interactions despite economic struggles expressed.
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Loneliness among young people is on the rise.
39:50The speaker grew up in a multicultural neighborhood, making friends easily, but now struggles with loneliness.
They question whether their feelings of social anxiety truly qualify as social anxiety.
A survey shows 61% of individuals aged 18 to 25 report profound loneliness.
Younger individuals are now experiencing similar rates of loneliness as the elderly.
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The speaker discusses loneliness and lack of close friendships among young men in the UK.
42:53Personal anecdotes are shared about strategies to find alone time in crowded living situations.
Factors contributing to loneliness in young men include low self-esteem and lack of romantic relationships.
The speaker talks about a conversation with his father regarding incels and teenage relationships.
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Loneliness has increased among men and women since 1990, with significant loss in meaningful connections among men.
46:00Studies show a rise in the number of people with zero close friends, which can have catastrophic consequences for young men.
Loneliness is pervasive across all regions and age groups, highlighting an important equity issue.
The emotional escalation of differences in political ideologies has led to extreme polarization and heightened conflict between conservatives and liberals, contributing to the overall increase in loneliness and social isolation.
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Loneliness is a global issue, with 33% of adults worldwide reporting feeling lonely, particularly in countries like Brazil, India, and Saudi Arabia.
49:37The spike in loneliness searches in late 2021 and early 2022 is linked to the pandemic's impact, disrupting societal connections.
In Japan, many young people are living as shut-ins or 'Hikikomori', withdrawing from society for extended periods, highlighting the severity of the issue.
The segment emphasizes the lasting effects of government responses to the pandemic on social interactions and mental health.
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The concept of 'hikikomori' and socially withdrawn youth is prevalent in Japan and East Asia.
54:38Individuals coping with loneliness by renting relationships and utilizing AI chatbots for companionship.
Commodification of emotional support through AI technology, with a case of a social media influencer creating a chatbot version of themselves for users to interact with for a fee.
Blurred lines between addressing loneliness and fulfilling sexual desires in virtual companionship, raising questions about true motivations.
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The rise of interactive AI companions like Karen and the potential future of AI clones of celebrities and deceased relatives.
59:31There is a debate on the ethical implications of using these products to cope with grief, loneliness, or boredom.
Concerns are raised about whether the help provided by AI companions is truly beneficial.
The conversation questions the increasing reliance on such technology and its impact on society.
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Loneliness is a serious health risk that can lead to heart disease, stroke, dementia, and other health issues.
01:01:51Studies have linked loneliness to higher blood pressure, high cholesterol, cognitive impairment, and mental health disorders.
Loneliness can increase the risk of an early death from various diseases and depression is viewed as a social problem with loneliness being a significant cause.
Modern society's focus on individualism and technology has worsened feelings of loneliness.
Walking clubs are recommended to combat loneliness by fostering social connections and physical activity.
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Government initiatives to address loneliness.
01:07:20Suggestions include improving access to mental health resources and education on combating loneliness.
Investing in affordable housing is recommended to combat loneliness.
Social connections are emphasized as important for mental health.
Communal spaces like public squares in Barcelona foster social interaction and economic benefits.
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Combating loneliness through self-reflection and connection with others.
01:09:01Professionals can help in combating loneliness by providing support and guidance.
Accepting oneself is crucial in reducing feelings of loneliness and finding self-worth.
Writing down emotions can be a helpful tool in processing feelings and connecting with oneself.
Finding ways to express feelings and connect with others can help combat loneliness and give meaning to life.
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Importance of gratitude and contentment in combating societal pressures.
01:13:12Personal anecdotes shared about purchasing a TV with the first paycheck and societal messaging on inadequacy.
Advocacy for practicing gratitude to combat loneliness and improve well-being.
Mention of studies showing positive effects of gratitude on mental health.
Discussion on the value of helping others and being in a position to offer assistance.
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Benefits of expressing gratitude.
01:16:41Gratitude can reduce depression, strengthen resiliency, and improve overall well-being.
Grateful thoughts before bed lead to better sleep and increased happiness.
Gratitude rewires the brain by producing dopamine and serotonin, creating feelings of contentment.
Regular practice of gratitude can train the brain to focus on positive experiences and thoughts.
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The speaker reflects on personal growth and positivity despite past negative behavior.
01:18:32Importance of not dwelling on negativity and hate is emphasized, with a focus on the impact of social media.
Loneliness pandemic and the value of connection through volunteering and community service are discussed.
Loneliness can lead to self-focus and suspicion, affecting self-esteem and relationships.
Maintaining healthy friendships and communication are highlighted as ways to combat loneliness.
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The importance of connection and community in Okinawan longevity.
01:22:27'Mo' is a tradition in Okinawa where lifelong friends meet weekly to discuss life and support each other.
Elders in Okinawa live longer and healthier lives compared to other regions, with many centenarians.
Combat loneliness by reaching out to others, offering support, and being present and listening.
Genuine connections are emphasized for overall well-being, discouraging self-diagnosing mental disorders based on online quizzes.
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Impact of chronic loneliness on individuals.
01:27:05Loneliness leaves people feeling empty and longing for connection.
Loneliness has been on the rise since the 1960s and 70s due to industrialization and smartphones.
The importance of addressing loneliness as a public health concern is emphasized.
Alleviating loneliness requires effort, understanding, and compassion for oneself and others.
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Discussion on the epidemic of loneliness and personal experiences with it.
01:29:54Some individuals prefer solitude while others struggle with feeling lonely.
Understanding and acceptance are important for individuals with different preferences for social interaction.
Accidents and disabilities can impact social connections, leading to long-term loneliness.
The video aims to address those who have not experienced loneliness, highlighting the complexity and spectrum of loneliness experiences.
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Importance of empathy and understanding others deeply for positive manipulation.
01:34:05Understanding someone's values and perspective to influence behavior effectively.
Reflecting on feeling isolated and different from others since childhood.
Acknowledging limitations and unique struggles despite excelling in certain abilities.
Emphasizing the significance of emotional intelligence and empathy in personal interactions.
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Emphasis on individual strengths and weaknesses.
01:36:27Learned behavior in monkeys does not equate to greater intelligence than humans.
People have unique skills and abilities that make them valuable.
Diversity in skills and abilities makes each person unique.
Different perspectives and ways of thinking set individuals apart.
00:00is there an epidemic of loneliness I
00:02personally this is like a a really weird
00:04perspective to have I think I'm a lot
00:06different than a lot of other people in
00:07the way that like I kind of like being
00:08alone a lot of the time so from my
00:11perspective I think there's an epidemic
00:13of people feeling lonely and not feeling
00:15comfortable being by themselves I don't
00:17think that's the only thing and there's
00:19a lot more to it than that but I do
00:21think that's a factor that people just
00:23don't really talk about a lot cuz
00:24there's a lot of people that like back
00:25in the day used to work by themselves
00:28most days think about a farmer or
00:30something like that being lonely doesn't
00:32equal being
00:34alone yeah but like then that that
00:36becomes very complex to talk about
00:37anyway let's let's look what they have
00:38to say hi welcome to another episode of
00:41Cold Fusion he held his phone close eyes
00:45searching for privacy the man scarcely
00:47noticed the subway Riders around him or
00:49the 90-year-old artist sketching his
00:52hunched frame from across the train in
00:54the seven decades since Alex cats first
00:57drew the outlines of commuters on New
00:59York City's early morning trains the
01:01chattering Riders and newspapers had all
01:04but gone in their places were people who
01:06rode alone together that's really cool I
01:10don't know why I just think that's so
01:11[Â __Â ] cool that like this same guy
01:13used to draw pictures of people looking
01:15at the newspaper and it's now people
01:16looking at their phone light in their
01:18eyes reflecting the glow of their
01:20smartphone that was a quote from the
01:22Dallas Morning News this short imagery
01:24is something that we see and all
01:27understand but never really think deeply
01:29about why does it seem like less people
01:31are talking to each other in public why
01:33do we collectively prefer the dim glow
01:36of a smartphone screen I think also
01:38another reason why people don't like
01:40talking in public is that the amount of
01:42people that get recorded in public
01:44without their consent has a chilling
01:46effect on people wanting to interact
01:48with each other because like you never
01:49know if somebody's trying to talk to you
01:51for like a YouTube video or something
01:53like that or if you say the wrong thing
01:56you could get like recorded and then put
01:58on the internet and people like [Â __Â ] on
02:00you I think there's a lot of people that
02:02are kind of a little bit uh on edge
02:05because of that and I I don't think
02:06that's the main reason I just think
02:08that's a reason that exists that's all
02:11do you remember your childhood
02:12neighborhood chances are you probably
02:15felt like it was one big family
02:16everybody knew each other celebrated
02:18together and would offer help when
02:20needed but in recent decades this seems
02:24like it's no longer the case people seem
02:25to keep to themselves more and as a side
02:28effect people are more lonely to than
02:30ever before I I think that for my
02:32neighborhood the reason why it was the
02:34case is because like everybody's kids
02:37were friends so like I know my neighbors
02:39sure but like I'm not actively spending
02:41time with them but like if I had kids
02:44and they had kids and they were spending
02:46the kids were hanging out then I would
02:47know them way better the number of men
02:50without any close friends has increased
02:52five times since 1990 and 10 times for
02:55women though the total percentage of men
02:57feeling lonely I wonder why women it's
02:59it's a lot less is higher on top of this
03:0334 of gen Z report feeling lonely why
03:07have we drifted from each other what is
03:08going on here the trend started before
03:11the pandemic and even before smartphones
03:13so it has to be something structural
03:15within Society but what I've been I I I
03:19still think that like there's a big
03:20component of this that people view like
03:24they see media like movies uh TV shows
03:28Instagram and they Facebook of like all
03:31these people hanging out and having fun
03:33together and like they feel like they
03:35need to be doing that and so there's
03:37like a sense of like uh perceived
03:39loneliness and fomo because you're
03:41missing out on these opportunities
03:44whereas like before you didn't really
03:46see those things happening or they were
03:48portrayed to you in a way that was more
03:50authentic like you know you saw this
03:52happened but it was like very
03:54rare yeah they don't see the reality
03:57exactly working on this episode for many
03:59months it's an exploration of the
04:01loneliness epic and the reason why I'm
04:02bringing this point up is that like I
04:04think obviously this video is going to
04:06talk a lot about like the lack of
04:08community the lack of third spaces the
04:10lack of um you know like interaction
04:13human interaction the lack of social
04:14friction like having to call a landline
04:16and have the parent pick up and ask to
04:18talk to the kid that you're friends with
04:20like uh you know all these things
04:21probably are going to be covered in the
04:22video but I think that that's not the
04:24only that's not the only Vector in which
04:26loneliness is created I think there's
04:28also the perception of L that's gotten a
04:30lot larger as well in this episode we'll
04:33see the definitions of loneliness its
04:35Origins its causes and who's most but
04:39this episode isn't all bad news explore
04:42some very real ways to combat loneliness
04:44this isn't the kind of video I normally
04:46do but I think it's an important but
04:47third space is by the way is besides
04:50work besides home besides school besides
04:53home so like going to a card shop going
04:55to a mall going to a uh skate park
04:59something like like
05:00that another Community place where
05:02people gather to get together that they
05:04don't necessarily have to be at YMCA
05:06yeah there you
05:07go topic so sit back relax and let's get
05:11into it and they don't cost money well
05:12some do some
05:14don't you are watching to Fusion TV but
05:17in general like they're very um very
05:19easy to
05:21access loneliness is on the rise
05:23globally and it's being declared a
05:25health risk a top us health expert has
05:28warned that loneliness can be as harmful
05:31as smoking 15 cigarettes per day holy
05:34[Â __Â ] in 2017 I'm not really sure exactly
05:37how much credibility I give that because
05:40like some people I think that's probably
05:42true but is that true on like a general
05:44sense because can be right you use the
05:47word can be well video games can be more
05:51addictive than heroin for somebody but
05:53is this the norm probably not former US
05:55Surgeon General Vivic Murphy recognized
05:58the growing Trend in Lon based on
06:00scientific research Vivic phrased the
06:02phenomena as the loneliness epidemic but
06:05to understand this winding and twisting
06:07story we have to start at the
06:09fundamentals what does it mean to be
06:12lonely being alone isn't being lonely
06:15okay people sometimes confuse loneliness
06:17and solitude but the fact of the matter
06:19is being alone and feeling lonely are
06:22not the same you can feel lonely even
06:25though you're physically with other
06:26people or I've never experienced that
06:29and I know other people have that like
06:31this is it's kind of interesting for me
06:33to to to watch something like this
06:36because I just don't I never I have okay
06:39yeah that's that's really interesting
06:41can enjoy Solitude without feeling
06:43lonely in a nutshell loneliness is not
06:46always the result of being alone okay
06:48it's more of a mental state of being
06:51from a neuroscientist point of view
06:53loneliness is actually a state of
06:55hypervigilance it makes you feel unsafe
06:57and unsatisfied with your social
06:59interactions it's a type of emotional
07:01pain signal the pain is telling your
07:03brain that you need to find someone to
07:05talk to that's what loneliness is the
07:08difference between how much Social
07:09connection you want and how much you
07:11feel you actually have that makes a lot
07:14of sense yeah I agree with that
07:17sure it can be summed up by this line
07:20loneliness is feeling disconnected from
07:22others even when they're right next to
07:23you if it's temporary it's the
07:25equivalent of being hungry but when it
07:27becomes chronic that's when it starts
07:29affecting your health that's interesting
07:31like I usually feel like I'm pretty
07:33disconnected from other people myself
07:36but I don't think that really makes me
07:37feel lonely yeah it isn't about you well
07:40no yeah of course it's not about me but
07:41I'm talking about it because it's me
07:43watching the video right yeah that that
07:44yeah I'm okay chronic loneliness can Tri
07:47a fight ORF flight response and when
07:49that becomes bad enough it becomes
07:51ingrained in our nervous system
07:52resulting in anxiety depression and even
07:55anger the pandemic poured fuel on a fire
07:58that was already burning think Dr V
08:00Murthy the US Surgeon General says
08:02loneliness is an epidemic the focus of
08:04an 80-page advisory he is releasing
08:07today Jesus we're used to thinking about
08:09smoking and obesity is clear public
08:10health concerns so you're saying
08:12loneliness is comparable to smoking in
08:16terms of the detriment to your health
08:18yeah in terms of the risk that it poses
08:19for premature death yes the Cure Dr I I
08:23I'd like to I'd like to have him like uh
08:26expand a little bit on that because I
08:28think that that is
08:30I don't I I don't believe that I don't
08:32know like evidence yeah like what do you
08:33mean by that because it's it's become so
08:35vague because like for example
08:38loneliness often like is he using the uh
08:42the link between loneliness and suicide
08:44is he using the link between loneliness
08:46and substance abuse and then correlating
08:48deaths to suicide and substance abuse as
08:52derivative from loneliness like I don't
08:54know so it's it's very like I I I'm not
08:56sure I immediately buy that I hear
08:58something like that that seems insane to
09:00me I'd want to hear and know everything
09:02about it but I I I do think that
09:05obviously um you think about a lot of
09:07the like Mass Shooters you know School
09:09shooters stuff like this almost all of
09:12them were lonely you know or sorry
09:14actually I can't really say they were
09:15lonely but like they didn't have a lot
09:17of friends merthy says is not only
09:20personal change but societal change as
09:22well you're talking about changing the
09:24social fabric that's been decades in the
09:28making it it's been decades in the
09:30making but it's also something that I've
09:32confident that we can address when if we
09:34put our mind to it and if we act
09:35together we'll get to more of the health
09:37effects a bit later but for now let's
09:39ask the question how did we get
09:43here we got here because we brought
09:45ourselves here we wanted to be here I
09:47think this is like in a really weird
09:49abstract way a lot of people wanted to
09:52have this happen they wanted to be able
09:54to not have to call a landline they
09:57wanted to have cell phones they they
09:59wanted to be able to be on their
10:00computer all the time it's like wow
10:02about how you know how they made the
10:04game less social over time by listening
10:07to the player
10:12base yep I think it happened a real life
10:15yep people wanted convenience and social
10:18interactions in a lot of cases are
10:21inconvenient loneliness is not a new
10:23thing it's been around for as long as
10:25humans have today's loneliness seems
10:28like a simple cause and effect as
10:30Society became more complex with
10:32industrialization urbanization and a
10:35faster pace of life people became lonely
10:38but it's not that
10:40straightforward something major happened
10:42in the 1960s and '70s that became the
10:44Bedrock for the loneliness epidemic
10:46declaration in 2017 it was a huge
10:49cultural shift in Western Nations it was
10:51the social movements of the 1960 and70s
10:53that seemed to accelerate this phenomena
10:56a 2023 QC research piece on loneliness
10:59by Alan greenblood would mention that
11:01quote the mass social movements of the
11:041960s helped shift people's attention
11:06from local concerns to more National
11:08issues and I think this is hey baly shut
11:12the [Â __Â ] up number two a lot of people
11:15like this is what my my dad said this at
11:18least he said that he thought a lot of
11:19these like protests and everything like
11:21that were people that were really
11:23protesting because they didn't want to
11:24get drafted because people are getting
11:26drafted into Vietnam and because of that
11:29they were protesting because they didn't
11:31want to have that happen which to be
11:33fair I could definitely see why in other
11:36words local communities mattered less
11:38and it was all about changing the
11:40national status quo according to Allan
11:43this eventually resulted in a quote
11:45decreased number of social Gatherings
11:47and eroded organizational participation
11:50end quot for a commentary on the
11:53cultural mood at the time at least in
11:55the UK you can look no further than the
11:57Beatles according to to Paul McCartney
12:00the 1966 Beatle song Eleanor Rigby was a
12:03broad commentary on the social changes
12:05of the 1960s happening at the time
12:07that's interesting I always thought that
12:08song was about like a you know some like
12:11you know like Salem
12:13days you can see it in the lyrics quote
12:17All the Lonely People where do they all
12:19come from all the lonely people where do
12:22they belong look at all the lonely
12:25people in the 1970s things only got
12:29worse this period will be famously known
12:32as the Mi decade why because a form of
12:35hyper individualism began to express
12:37itself within
12:39society as yal Le articulates in the
12:42also you have to keep in mind like the
12:43reason why individualism uh was so
12:46popular is because a lot of people like
12:49my dad and I talk about this a lot and
12:50like obviously his experience isn't just
12:52like the only person that that's like
12:54ever existed at that time but a lot of
12:56the reasons why people trended much more
12:59towards individualism was because the
13:02collective nature of society and culture
13:05was
13:05oppressive it was like tremendously
13:08oppressive and because it was so
13:10oppressive that's why this happened it's
13:13not like it just happened out of the
13:14blue public the 1970s saw High inflation
13:19high crime an explosion of single
13:21mothers and the eroding of family
13:23structures why collectively care about
13:25changing the world or even the local
13:27community when everyone has their own
13:29problems to deal with exactly the' 70s
13:31saw tensions between different sects of
13:33society grow divorce rates with more
13:35than double between 1960 and 1980 and
13:38also like I I do think that this is
13:40going to be kind of a controversial take
13:42but I do think that at this point
13:45religion was like kind of falling off
13:48right and like comp compared to now like
13:50religion was like really really good
13:53really high but I think that like the
13:55lack of like a shared uh like moral
13:57value system I think also hurt the
14:01amount of people that were like willing
14:02to think about their fellow man because
14:05while you don't need religion to dictate
14:08morality a lot of people do and a lot of
14:11people well I don't want to do this bad
14:13thing because then the devil's going to
14:14set me on fire forever I think that a
14:16lot of people there's a reason why
14:19they're God-fearing Christians there it
14:22is religion is absolutely a uh a tool of
14:26keeping people like involved with their
14:28Community Society was rapidly
14:31changing great upheaval I've noticed
14:34from around this time Society lost its
14:37cohesive glue people would break out
14:39from the crushing Conformity and turned
14:41inwards towards the satisfaction of
14:43individual wants and
14:44needs people moved away from tradition
14:47and took their own paths in life of
14:49course this resulted in more freedom of
14:51expression and less repression but Levan
14:54states that the price we paid for this
14:56New Freedom has been high quote we we
14:58have let loose a scrouge of loneliness
15:01and isolation that we are still afraid
15:03to acknowledge as the distinct social
15:06dysfunction of our age of individualism
15:08end quote in other words loneliness has
15:11thrived and evolved from our increasing
15:14individualism filmmaker that's probably
15:16true he's right about that Hoffman
15:19speaks to rushworth kdo a man born in
15:221944 his historically massive generation
15:25called the Baby Boomers would come to
15:26maturity in the 1960s and
15:29he describes his lived observations of
15:31witnessing the dissolving of society
15:34we're made for each other there is a
15:36sense in which society matters because
15:40we're we're part of it and we need to
15:42participate in it it's not going to work
15:44all by itself and what happened in my
15:46generation it seems again I think that's
15:48probably true like how many of you guys
15:50whenever you go to vote locally you
15:52don't know what like 90% of the things
15:54on the local ballots
15:55are interesting very interesting but
15:59like you're also at the same time you're
16:01also well informed about let's say uh
16:04Trump being taken off the ballot in some
16:06country or not country uh in Colorado
16:09some State you're also well informed
16:12about you know like what Biden did and
16:15so like what I'm saying is like people
16:17get focused more on an abstract idea
16:19that they have less control over rather
16:21than things that they do have immediate
16:23control over like in local government
16:25you can make changes way more easily
16:27than you can on a federal level like I
16:30mean come on it's [Â __Â ] obvious right
16:32because there's less people you've got
16:33to go through so I I think that this is
16:36and also like is this a learned is this
16:39a learned type of uh ignorance that's
16:44been projected by Media or by the
16:46government itself in order to make
16:49themselves less accountable I don't know
16:51and again is people coming up to that
16:54realization and then just sort of
16:55something turning off and mhm off they
16:59drift off into sort of separate orbits
17:02flying around as kind of kind of
17:04unattached uh asteroids out there um
17:09there needs to be it seems to me if
17:11society's going to hold together that
17:13sense of social cohesion in which each
17:14of us as part of the community says I've
17:17I've got a responsibility to this it's
17:18not a formal responsibility it's not law
17:21it's just that that I care about this
17:23society and I'm I'm part of this
17:25increasingly concerned that whatever the
17:27gravity is that holds the asteroid in
17:30orbit is just beginning to dissolve well
17:33I think that a lot of people are less
17:34connected to their their culture and
17:36their Community because they're more
17:38connected to an online community they're
17:40more collected they're more connected to
17:41like an identity group you know for
17:43example like now you're no longer you
17:45know like oh I live in Austin Texas it's
17:48like oh well you know I'm part of like
17:51this group of people on the Internet or
17:52I'm part of this group of people that's
17:54like International or whatever and so I
17:57I think that that's really the
17:58difference is that people just find an
18:00identity somewhere else instead and
18:02these people again and again are just
18:03sort of out there out there wandering we
18:07never ever in the history of the world
18:09experienced anything like the baby boom
18:10that followed World War II and we will
18:12never experience it again this was that
18:14sort of one-time phenomenon and what we
18:17see in the' 60s may be as as simply
18:21explained as saying that's the maturing
18:24of that tremendous Crush of population
18:27which finally didn't have the Elbow Room
18:30and finally needed to break out and say
18:32I'm me this is all to say I just think
18:35that a lot of that probably was a
18:36massive result of cuz like you think
18:38about the 50s right the idealistic 50s
18:42and think about how bad that would be if
18:45you weren't part of that mold do you see
18:46what I'm saying so like a lot of people
18:49obviously Good Times well not for a lot
18:51of people though the generations
18:53following the Boomers grew up with
18:55strong individualism already embedded in
18:57society individualism came to and
19:00there's like there's this social
19:01oppression to it that like we don't
19:04really have as much of nowadays and I
19:06think that that level of social
19:08oppression is one of the big reasons why
19:10this happens it's in the 1960s and70s
19:14individuals there were of course periods
19:16where this did improve but since the
19:182000s social interaction has taken a
19:21nose dive oh
19:26yeah you see Austin loneliness is a
19:28disease of the spirit people who have it
19:31think that no one cares about them are
19:33you saying that earthlings make each
19:34other lonely I'm sorry I'm saying just
19:36the opposite that they make themselves
19:37lonely they're so busy looking out for
19:39number one they don't have room for two
19:42it's too bad everybody down there can't
19:44get together and find a cure but here's
19:46the Paradox sir I I think that's true
19:47and I think also like the focus that
19:49people have on like social media because
19:51like if you think about a lot of social
19:53media it's like fundamentally
19:56narcissistic like all you're doing on on
19:58social media with like making your
20:00account and curating your account is
20:02talking about yourself and making things
20:05about yourself involving yourself into
20:07things comparing
20:09yourself because if they did get
20:11together they wouldn't need one isn't
20:13that Zen likee Generation X and the
20:15Millennials settled into a hyper
20:17individualistic world and by 2007 Gina
20:20Gustafson from obala University would
20:23state that Society is undergoing quote
20:26the slow but steady weakening of shared
20:28Collective identities norms and culture
20:31and the concomittant rise of the ideal
20:34of the independent individual end quote
20:36broadly speaking I'm not sure I agree
20:38with that I think that people have just
20:40replaced their local identities with
20:42other
20:45identities I feel like that's the case
20:48constantly and like you'll see it all
20:50the time like in chat for example where
20:52I'll say something that is like
20:57um
20:58like for the example like the other day
21:00I was talking about like you know uh can
21:02kids uh consent to getting like a tattoo
21:04or something like that and I said yeah
21:06kids obviously can't do that and then
21:08somebody turned it into like can kids
21:11consent to like getting their gender
21:12changed because like their identity is
21:15so wrapped up in this idea that they're
21:18unable to see anything from any
21:20perspective and like if they just hear
21:23these words it's like a Pavlov like
21:25[Â __Â ] dog Sal dog salivating
21:28response where it's like you're just
21:30instantly oh I know what to say now I
21:32know what to say I heard the thing I
21:33heard the word I say the thing Marco
21:36Polo and so I think people are
21:38absolutely attached still to identities
21:41but I don't think they're local
21:42identities careful saying this on Twitch
21:45why I'm never I'm never careful about
21:48anything that I say and actually that's
21:49not true I am actually very careful
21:51about what I say and I try to say it in
21:53the best way possible but I'm never
21:55afraid to say something that could be
21:56taken out of context My Generation
21:58Millennials and Generation X were the
22:01most individualistic generations of all
22:04that is until Generation Z you guys got
22:07the shortest end of the stick you came
22:09of age during the explosion of the most
22:12individualistic tool known to man during
22:14curated algorithms tailored to the
22:17desires of the individual in other words
22:20social media high schools and
22:22universities I got on social media at
22:2514 like I was on it as soon as I could
22:27be
22:30with people physically sharing the same
22:31space but with Every Idle minute a phone
22:34is pulled out this is something that
22:36wasn't even the case 15 years ago of
22:39course technology isn't inherently a bad
22:41thing it is at all it can improve our
22:43lives but if we strip away the benefits
22:45of convenient connection what are we
22:47left with a screen that separates us
22:49from the real world and the people
22:51around us a device that consumes our
22:53attention and time a platform that keeps
22:55us entertained but separated because
22:58somehow even with all of our
22:59unprecedented technology no one has yet
23:02solved what I'll call the other Gamers
23:05dilemma that when you shut your computer
23:07screen power down your phone take off
23:10the VR headset there you are
23:15alone what's the problem with
23:19that yeah that's the best
23:22part thank [Â __Â ] god holy [Â __Â ] it's
23:25been a long day all right yeah I'm going
23:27to go down man go on a walk or something
23:30like
23:32[Â __Â ] in your
23:34room now this is all known and common
23:36knowledge but what's surprising is
23:38what's next there's a hidden Force
23:40that's causing people to feel lonely and
23:42it's hardly ever talked
23:45about yeah people can't afford to go out
23:47yeah I I think everybody knows about
23:49that um so yeah it's like you know like
23:52it's it's weird to me
23:54because like I'm a very like I don't
23:57like saying I'm introverted because I
23:59think it's cringe but if you were going
24:01to Define introverted you would
24:03basically say you're like me naturally
24:07and
24:08so a lot of times whenever I say that I
24:10don't like being around other
24:12people people that are extroverted and
24:15much more social just simply can't
24:18comprehend that and I I can explain to
24:20them I don't want to be around anybody
24:22and they say no it's okay it'll be fun
24:25right or no you know you'll you'll
24:27you'll be glad that you did it or
24:29something like that it's draining as
24:31[Â __Â ] it's extremely draining and I'm
24:33thinking to myself am I doing that to
24:36extroverted people that are being
24:38alienated and isolated by social media I
24:40think I am I think I'm doing the same
24:42thing that I'm complaining about because
24:44from the same perspective it's just the
24:46opposite direction because like I think
24:48that there are a lot of people that feel
24:49this way and I don't really know how to
24:51address it right because I'm just I'm
24:54I'm completely different from them it's
24:56like how do you solve the problem of a
24:59parrot how can you think like a parrot
25:02you can't it's a parrot and obviously
25:05people that are extroverted aren't as
25:07different as people in parrots but at
25:09the same time it's uh it's a completely
25:12different Foundation of
25:16thinking we are about to become a
25:18society by the turn of the century there
25:20will be eight times as many people over
25:22the age of 60 and half as eight times as
25:24many people over oh right many kids
25:26under the age of five is this the world
25:28we want do we want a lack of kids do we
25:31want a lack of ability to create
25:32households the happiest most proper
25:35prosperous most purposeful people well
25:37people don't have kids there's two
25:39reasons why people don't have kids
25:41number one people don't have kids
25:43because they can't afford to have kids
25:45number two uh people don't have kids
25:47because settling down with a person
25:49creates the idea of fomo and Because the
25:51Internet provides the illusion of
25:53infinite options people don't want to
25:55settle down with any individual person I
25:57think those are the two main reasons in
25:59America are middle class families and we
26:01have made a concerted decision to punch
26:04it in the gut and make it harder for
26:05that type of family formation and we're
26:07going to lose prosperity and we're going
26:09to lose
26:10purpose most people don't realize this
26:13but societal cohesion and economics are
26:16very closely interl a healthy growing
26:18economy means that the standards of
26:19living go up jobs are stable wages are
26:22increasing and inflation is low people
26:25can afford more feel happier and are
26:27more likely to build relationships a
26:29faltering economy is exactly the
26:31opposite today due to Rising inflation
26:34stagnant wages and debt burdens people
26:37have to work longer and harder sometimes
26:39we may even need to juggle multiple jobs
26:41just to keep up it's a frustrating State
26:44of Affairs but if you're wondering he
26:46completely right how many of you guys
26:48make over $50 an hour at your
26:54job me a lot of people how many of you
26:57guys make Under
27:0612 that's a lot of people too my
27:09understanding is that the disparity
27:11between the wealthiest and the like
27:14there is like
27:17a a poll it I I I don't think it really
27:20the poll matters right all I'm saying is
27:22that I think that there is a growing
27:24disparity between people that are like
27:26really rich and people that are really
27:28poor like back in the day like growing
27:30up how many of you guys got the uh the
27:34same education about like the guild the
27:35age about how inequality was like at an
27:38all-time high and there were super poor
27:40people and super rich people you guys
27:42all got that education right the huge
27:44disparity yeah Great Gatsby all that I
27:47bet they don't teach that anymore now
27:49because now it it it's infinitely worse
27:51than it was
27:53then so like the the the shock factor of
27:57how bad it used to be isn't there
27:59anymore because it's like yeah of course
28:01I know what it's like it's worse now why
28:04the world is like this I fully explained
28:06it in my episode how the 2008 crisis
28:09still affects you in that episode I
28:11described how the true economy died in
28:132008 and has been on life support ever
28:16since because of horrendous government
28:18policies and Reckless Behavior from the
28:20financial sector people have been
28:22struggling to make ends meet slowly at
28:24first only to be accelerated by the
28:26pandemic
28:28today it's a constant fight yeah I'm
28:30like I I don't have enough like uh I I
28:33don't have enough information to like
28:34really comment on that I don't I really
28:36just don't understand that well enough
28:38but I have to watch the video and be
28:40more educated on it but I do think that
28:42like for example I'm 33 and so whenever
28:46I was like uh early
28:4820s like that was whenever 200 like 2008
28:522009 2010 2011 right these were like
28:55very very very bad years and like how
28:58many of you guys are like right around
29:00my age and like you remember how [Â __Â ]
29:02hard it was to get a job and I think
29:05that like this is a paradigm shift that
29:07I noticed on the radio is that I
29:09remember back in the day indeed and
29:11these other job websites were
29:14advertising to people looking for jobs
29:17they would say we can get you a job
29:20nowadays I hear the same radio station
29:22and the same ad for the same company and
29:25now they're saying we can get you and P
29:28that is a tremendous [Â __Â ] difference
29:30and it's a total paradigm shift because
29:32back then holy [Â __Â ] like it was
29:35impossible to get a job like I couldn't
29:38get a job at
29:39Walmart it was so bad and you are
29:41competing against people that were like
29:4443 and it's like this person has 20
29:46years of experience I can't possibly
29:47beat this person like why would they
29:49ever hire me over
29:51them now obviously I should have tried
29:53harder I could have gotten a job I and I
29:56probably could have if I put in more
29:58work and it's always at the end of the
30:00day my your responsibility to take care
30:02of yourself but man it was harder to do
30:05that with less effort than it than it is
30:08now or than it was in 2005 let's say
30:11Millennials actually had the worst
30:12entrance into the workforce especially
30:14the ones that are around my age to stay
30:16in the disappearing middle class all
30:19across the world and the increasing
30:20number of people are taking up second
30:22jobs most young people are working but
30:24still can't afford to rent or buy a home
30:27well people are taking up second jobs
30:29and also people are making uh like
30:31secondary money like I I read like some
30:34sort of uh [Â __Â ] statistic that I'm
30:38trying to remember like what exactly it
30:40was but it was like some like multiple
30:43like number figure of like girls that
30:46were between like the ages of like 18
30:48and 25 or something like that that had
30:50only
30:51fans like I'm trying to remember like
30:54what the percentage was or anything like
30:55that I don't remember what it was but
30:57was like a shockingly high percentage of
30:59them that had it and it's like think
31:01about the amount of guys that are doing
31:033% in
31:04USA three was that it 3% that's [Â __Â ]
31:08insane think about that
31:113% that's huge self-employed women yeah
31:15that's [Â __Â ] massive so does your exra
31:19yeah and probably the next qu all date
31:21might do it too I've got no problem with
31:23it I'm not saying that it's a bad thing
31:25you're totally missing my point
31:27like it's not about whether I uh I I
31:30agree with it or not it's about whether
31:32I'm saying that this is like people the
31:34reason why a lot of these girls do only
31:36fans is because it makes more money than
31:39they could make from a job straight up
31:41is it though it's not the point I don't
31:44want to argue about this like whether
31:46it's right or not this is a moral
31:48argument it's boring to me my point is
31:51that this is happening and also like
31:53just because of girls right I used an
31:55extreme example how many guys do you
31:57know that tried to start streaming or
31:59making YouTube videos to like make uh
32:02make extra
32:04money a lot a lot of people uh zero well
32:08for uh for me I I know a good number of
32:10people that have tried to do that and
32:12also a shitload also what is the most
32:15Wanted job for for kids nowadays well
32:19it's being a content creator being
32:20something like that it's because people
32:23also I think nowadays value autonomy
32:25more than they used to
32:27yeah YouTuber streamer influencer yeah
32:30in China it's astronaut or
32:32doctor I'm sure that'll work out great
32:35but um anyway yeah it's a huge Factor
32:38being too expensive to go out in all of
32:41that where is the time yeah I used to
32:43never be able to go out like my idea of
32:45going out would be me and Zach driving
32:48to uh to uh Jack in a box and buying a
32:52drink for a dollar because they were on
32:54sale during the summer and then we would
32:57drive back to the house and play World
32:58of Warcraft for 8 hours that was that
33:01was my idea of a good time the local
33:03Taco Bell
33:05yep good times that was
33:08great money or energy for socializing
33:12this impacts how lonely we
33:14feel yeah I think also people you're
33:16definitely right like a lot of people
33:18don't have the uh like they get more
33:20socially drained from jobs now because I
33:22feel like more and more jobs and I don't
33:24know if this is because of like you know
33:26what I do
33:27but like a lot of people even that
33:29aren't actual streamers or YouTube
33:31content creators they're like always on
33:33call in one form or another like they're
33:36always keeping up with their job they're
33:38always you know keeping up with Trends
33:40related to their job and so like the
33:42amount of time that you're at work might
33:44be 40 hours a week but the amount of
33:47time that your mind is at work is like
33:49maybe 60 or 70 so like that mental
33:52exhaustion makes people not want to
33:54socialize as much because they're
33:55[Â __Â ] tired it's not just some pie in
33:57the sky idea to give you a datadriven
34:00picture of how influential economics can
34:02be to feelings of loneliness a study
34:04with somebody says that's every job I
34:06disagree with you I don't think that it
34:08is I think that more tech jobs and jobs
34:11that have to do with
34:12um it's really simple right like jobs
34:15where you're working internationally and
34:17jobs where you're working uh like in on
34:21a Countrywide level like in the US for
34:23example because there's like a a three
34:24or 4our differential between like you
34:27the latest time and the earliest time in
34:28the US and like Pacific Time versus like
34:31uh whatever [Â __Â ] East or uh yeah
34:33eastern time is um you're just working
34:36more because you're interacting with
34:38people around the
34:40clock 100,000 UK participants found
34:43something it definitely is on a spectrum
34:44if you measure the amount of loneliness
34:46felt in the aftermath of the death of a
34:48spouse and divided that by four that's
34:51the same amount of loneliness is going
34:53from earning over £100,000 down to
34:55under1 18,000
34:57the researchers also stated that losing
35:00this much income is half the loneliness
35:02felt from a divorce the measures of
35:04loneliness were Quantified by a range of
35:06survey
35:07questions it's not directly intuitive
35:10but I don't really put a lot of stock
35:13into
35:14a like I don't I don't put a lot of
35:17stock into like those
35:19questionnaires I think it's like it's a
35:21good
35:22um it's a good thought experiment but I
35:26think that once you start reducing
35:27things like that into like numbers and
35:30percentages I think that's whenever you
35:32get lost in the
35:34sauce but being in a desperate economic
35:36situation directly increases feelings of
35:40loneliness so now that we know some of
35:42the causes in all Society who is the
35:46most affected statistically it is not
35:49the elderly young guys now it's the
35:51young yep young
35:55guys
35:59if you do a search for I have no friends
36:01on YouTube the results are filled with
36:03experiences of young people feeling
36:05lonely they struggle to make real
36:07connections these videos have thousands
36:09and even millions of views which means
36:11that they must be resonating with people
36:14well there's also
36:16um there's like a certain type of like
36:18Sigma grind
36:20set mentality that like some people try
36:23to push nowadays that it's a good thing
36:25to not have any friends
36:28and I I think that like I think that's
36:31very
36:33unhealthy it is it's a lie yeah I think
36:35it is generally unhealthy to push that
36:37type of
36:38mindset and even millions of views which
36:41means that they must be resonating with
36:45people and when I got to my late
36:4820s and I a lot of you can probably
36:51attest to this in the comments let me
36:52know but when I got to my late 20s those
36:55friends disappeared
36:57and it's not because they were like I
36:59hate you Cody it's nothing like that
37:02everybody my age seems the same it just
37:05seem that's just seems how it's how it
37:07is
37:07nowadays and I'm it's hard to say like
37:12um you know I'm the kind of guy it's
37:15like if I haven't seen somebody in five
37:17years I see him again it's like I saw
37:20him yesterday it's totally fine with me
37:23it's whatever but I think also like
37:27you know I can only really see something
37:29like this from my
37:31perspective and I can see definitely why
37:34he would feel that
37:36way no one can really talk for everyone
37:38though exactly that's what I'm saying
37:40right it's like I'm just expressing how
37:42I would think about that and how I feel
37:43about that but I'm not saying that I'm
37:45right he's wrong I don't think it's an
37:47element of that at
37:48all sitting
37:50alone in my apartment at my desk staring
37:53at my computer yeah like
37:58because I don't have any
38:01friends I don't know how to make friends
38:03and I'm scared I just want to I want to
38:05run into somebody I hate meeting people
38:08online it's so awkward and and you put
38:12all this into a conversation but when
38:14you meet someone you don't have that
38:15like I feel like I need to meet people I
38:18need to meet people but I don't know how
38:20and I don't think it's possible to just
38:23run into people Jesus have you ever had
38:26friends God [Â __Â ] damn yeah that is
38:29sad
38:31man holy
38:33[Â __Â ] like yeah like what the [Â __Â ] that's
38:37like for me I I I never honestly like it
38:41guys might not believe this I never have
38:42had a problem making
38:44friends like growing up like I've always
38:46had tons of friends like you know I even
38:49go somewhere now and like people like
38:51has nothing to do with my stream like
38:53I'll just talk to somebody about you
38:55know some [Â __Â ] right
38:57and uh yeah I don't really have that
39:00problem I I I don't know that that's
39:03yeah popular it's just no it's just I
39:05don't think it's that at
39:07all I just never really had a problem
39:10making friends or getting along with
39:11people I think the reason why is that
39:13growing up I grew up in a very like
39:16Multicultural like neighborhood and like
39:18place and because of that I got really
39:21used
39:22to finding ways to get along with people
39:25and finding ways to to people whereas I
39:28think that for other people they found
39:30like it's like I try to figure out what
39:33fits together rather than what sets me
39:36apart whenever I'm interacting with
39:38another
39:40person secretly hate you I had a lot of
39:43them in my life which is why I am 30
39:45years old and I have no friends oh boy
39:48there's also a subreddit called our
39:50lonely it's ranked in the top 1% being
39:52an ugly girl is terrible of course it is
39:54yeah I mean obviously I'll back on use
39:56bathroom do you have any social anxiety
39:58at all yeah I usually don't I don't know
40:00if it's really social anxiety I mean
40:02like like I would get like I've gotten
40:05stressed out giving a speech before like
40:08in in in like school for college for
40:10example I had to give speech in front of
40:12like Auditorium and I was like ah [Â __Â ]
40:14you know I'm a little bit stressed out
40:16about this but like yeah I mean a little
40:19bit of social anxiety yeah I get
40:20socially anxious but it's also like I
40:23don't know if it's really social anxiety
40:25as much as just social dread like I
40:28don't want to do this and now I'm having
40:30to do the thing that I don't want to do
40:33is that
40:34anxiety I don't think so it's a little
40:36bit different right yeah it's a mood
40:38yeah I get forced to do it exactly yeah
40:40it's the same thing I don't think it
40:41is I'm not sure if it is or not though
40:44there's also a subreddit called are
40:46lonely it's ranked in the top 1% in
40:48terms of community size there's
40:51thousands of active users discussing
40:52their isolation lack of friends and life
40:55partners
40:57in previous years younger people weren't
40:59considered a lonely demographic but in
41:022015 the BBC's loneliness project
41:05surveyed over 50,000 people and found
41:07that the rates of loneliness in young
41:09people were similar to that of elderly
41:11people God here's a chart looking at the
41:12loneliness distribution between 2014 and
41:152018 the dotted line represents the 2018
41:18data as you can see the rates of
41:21loneliness among the young are trending
41:23higher whereas the elderly seem to be
41:25dropping let's good fast forward to 2021
41:28and a Harvard Graduate School of
41:29Education survey found that 61% of young
41:32people ages 18 to 25 reported
41:35experiencing profound loneliness
41:37including feeling lonely all the time
41:41and this was see like yeah whenever I
41:43was like 18 to 25
41:48um I used to sleep in a bed with 500
41:51dudes on like a weekly basis like my
41:55house was like the house that everybody
41:57would go to and like we would chill at
42:00like after um you know we would go out
42:02or do anything is like everybody would
42:05come back to my house so like I always
42:06had a lot of people around me like I
42:08used to actually have like this window
42:10right here I didn't have curtains on my
42:12window so cuz I don't like people
42:14[Â __Â ] bothering me whenever I first
42:15wake up right and so I took the curtains
42:18down I said there's no curtains on the
42:19window so if you wake up here and you're
42:22going to wake up at 7:00 in the morning
42:24I'm going to wake up like noon 1 2:00
42:25p.m.
42:26like you're going to have to sit there
42:28in that [Â __Â ] bright sun and also the
42:30room used to be hot as [Â __Â ] so people
42:32would leave before I woke up so I could
42:35get up in the morning and just chill and
42:37not have anybody there bothering me you
42:40ever get in fights for whose turn it was
42:42on Halo well no because it was my game
42:44so I would always be playing and I would
42:46always beat people right cuz like
42:47usually it's like you would get swapped
42:48off if you lost hot room with a lot of
42:50guys it was
42:53yeah was compared to only 36% of among
42:56other age groups in 2022 30% of young
43:00people aged 16 to 24 in the UK say that
43:03they don't know how to make new friends
43:04and have never felt more alone to add to
43:08the situation for some reason it seems
43:10that men are feeling more lonely than
43:12woman according to the survey Center on
43:14American life it's cuz they don't have
43:16girlfriend that's
43:18why that's the reason why everybody
43:20knows it because they don't have [Â __Â ]
43:22girlfriend they can't get a girlfriend
43:24uh they have low self-esteem
43:26uh they don't have um you know a six fig
43:30salary so no girl will talk to them and
43:34uh that's just it right girlfriend this
43:36economy she yeah it's not even that
43:38right it's the
43:41um it's like it's the perception the
43:44perception is what's worse than every
43:45yeah they're under yeah they're 5 fo s
43:48so like I mean they might as well just
43:49die right I mean that's just because if
43:52you're if you're 5' s like no guys that
43:54are 5' s ever get married married they
43:56never have kids it just doesn't happen
43:59so like just just give up there it is
44:02yeah you've already
44:04lost 55% of men had at least six close
44:08friends in 1990 but this figure has
44:11decreased to 27% today about theing the
44:15number of men without I told y all this
44:16before but my dad so this is like like 4
44:20days ago something like that right he
44:21calls me in the morning and I'm like oh
44:24[Â __Â ] what is this [Â __Â ] he calls me he's
44:27like Zack I'm like yep he's like you
44:30know that stuff that you were telling me
44:34about
44:35incels and about how you know like all
44:37this stuff and incels and all this I
44:40said yeah yeah I heard about he's like
44:42well I read an article on the newspaper
44:44and I think I figured it out I said oh
44:47yeah what is
44:48it he said in this article it said that
44:52a lot of teenagers nowadays don't have
44:55girlfriends
44:57and I bet that's why they're
44:59incels I said I think I yeah I think
45:02that's it I'm like you know what you are
45:05exactly [Â __Â ] right yep there it
45:09[Â __Â ] is figured it out yep he's like
45:11I think that's where it's coming
45:14from any close friends has increased
45:17five times since 1990 while women are
45:19getting much lonelier too this
45:21highlights a significant loss in
45:23meaningful connections among the male
45:25population and also I think like another
45:27factor is that you know also like about
45:30my dad like my dad growing up had tons
45:32of friends too like uh you know the only
45:34reason why he's not hanging out with
45:36more of his friends now is because
45:38they're dead other than that he'd be
45:40hanging out with them doing [Â __Â ] with
45:41them all the time like growing up he was
45:44always doing stuff with them and like
45:46you know having like that model of like
45:48how to interact with another person I
45:50think that helps
45:53too meanwhile those with literal L zero
45:56close friends which stood at 3% in 1990
46:00has zoomed to 15% holy [Â __Â ] an expert
46:03quoted by the hill said this disconnect
46:05can have catastrophic con consequences
46:08for young men failing young men I think
46:10I watched this does not end well this is
46:12an existential crisis failing young
46:17men I'd argue it's much more than 15%
46:20since
46:222021 yeah
46:24maybe but percent of what number is what
46:27I'm saying uh well I mean like do you
46:29really think the amount of young men has
46:30really changed that much I don't think
46:32so and also if you take a slice of an
46:34apple pie it's still an apple pie isn't
46:38it liness has spread across the globe
46:41Australian researchers conducted a
46:43systematic review and metaanalysis of 57
46:46studies from across 113 countries or
46:49territories the study discovered that
46:51despite the differences and prevalence
46:53between regions and ages loneliness was
46:55found to be present across all
46:59regions substantial difference in data
47:01coverage between high andow high income
47:02countries particularly Europe and middle
47:04income countries raised an important
47:06Equity issue evidence on the temporal
47:09trends of loneliness is insufficient
47:11findings of this uh meta analysis are
47:14limited by data scarcity loneliness
47:16should be incorporated into General
47:18Health
47:24surveillance yeah I Ian I'm I'm sure
47:26like yeah I'm curious like what how
47:28what's it like in a just a random like
47:30second world country right no answer
47:33yeah loneliness was found to be present
47:36across all
47:38regions according to a statistic study I
47:40think also another reason why it happens
47:42is that um like political isolation or
47:46not political isolation escalation like
47:50nowadays people think like if you're a
47:53you know like really like hardcore
47:55conser conservative there are a lot of
47:57conservatives that think that um you
48:00know like liberals and Democrats are all
48:03groomers or groomer enablers uh that
48:06they want to like teach kids about sex
48:08at 5 years old and like the people are
48:11so dramatically radicalized and like if
48:14you're a a liberal you think like
48:15conservatives are you know these like
48:17Nazis they hate black people they hate
48:20women they want to turn uh you know a
48:22woman's life into the handmaid's tail
48:24they want to bring slave very back and
48:26like you know they they want to take
48:28Martin Luther King out of this the books
48:30like people like the like the emotional
48:34escalation of like different types of uh
48:36you know like differences in thought
48:38between people is like right now it's
48:41higher than at least I've ever seen
48:45it it's crazy how bad it is
48:48now like you guys have seen a lot of
48:50posts and stuff like that about people
48:52um talking about how oh I can't date
48:54somebody who has this type of political
48:56opinion or I can't even be friends with
48:58these people because they think this
49:00thing I think about for example here's
49:02another example is that on social media
49:05how many people get criticized for being
49:07friends or having an interaction with a
49:10person who SE to have disagreeable
49:12political viewpoints whether those
49:14viewpoints are are uh you think
49:17Justified or not like I think it's way
49:19more common
49:22nowadays not my crew oh I I think that
49:25like for me and my friends it's not the
49:27case either yeah you're totally right
49:29but I'm thinking on like a macro level
49:31like beyond that I see a lot of this
49:34yeah guilt by
49:37association in late 2022 33% of adults
49:41worldwide report feeling lonely at least
49:44sometimes yeah Brazil India and Saudi
49:47Arabia rank as some of the loneliest
49:49countries whereas Germany the
49:51Netherlands and Russia report some of
49:54the lowest rates huh if we want to get
49:56granular we can see the effects of Co
49:59via the proxy search term feeling lonely
50:02it's not a perfect analog but it gives
50:03you an idea the popularity of the people
50:06searching the term dramatically spiked
50:08in late 2021 and
50:17early
50:21wow I would probably cross reference
50:24this with like three or four other terms
50:27just in case feeling lonely was a search
50:30term that people are using for something
50:32that was separate but
50:36man yeah like maybe a song or something
50:38like that right but holy [Â __Â ] that's
50:42crazy
50:442022 this is most likely due to the
50:46effects of the pandemic of course the
50:49government responses to the pandemic
50:51have had long-lasting implications many
50:53people moved away for work or just for a
50:55change change this shuffling on such a
50:57massive scale caused a lot of disruption
51:00to the connections within
51:03Society in Japan the issue is especially
51:06severe in 199 say correlation does not
51:09prove
51:13causation people being separated from
51:15each other doesn't cause them to become
51:19lonely
51:22huh I think that saying correlation
51:24doesn't prove
51:25causation only make sense whenever
51:28things aren't
51:30correlated or they're being correlated
51:32in a dishonest
51:36way like I understand like this is like
51:40a only for extra wordss yeah exactly
51:43that literally
51:44does I think you just wanted to sound
51:46smart yeah most people that say stuff
51:48like that just tried to just try to say
51:50it to sound smart you're right
51:52professional contrarian
51:54yeah
51:56their Central Bank popped a stock market
51:58and real estate bubble by raising
51:59interest rates the economy stagnated so
52:02hard that the period that followed is
52:04simply known as The Lost
52:08decades Jes a lot of young Japanese
52:10people today aren't dating and a large
52:13number don't have any friends o some
52:15live their lives as shut in yeah they
52:17even have like a word for it the H Mor
52:19known as hi they can sit in their room
52:21for months and sometimes years only
52:24venturing out to eat and use the toilet
52:26and in the bedrooms of homes across
52:28Japan more than a million people have
52:31retreated all together hiiro shimasu is
52:35one there it is his bedroom has been his
52:38Universe for the best part of 20 years
52:41he's now 40 years
52:54old
53:05were you able to go out what was daily
53:07life
53:08like
53:19Jesus trans
53:24Jesus he wants to feel accepted are you
53:27comfortable with this
53:32life see that's the thing is like some
53:34people are like this like there's always
53:36stories of like some guy that's like
53:39yeah you know he was working and then
53:42one day he decided that he was going to
53:44go live out in the
53:45woods and so he went out and he lived
53:48out in the woods with uh squirrels and
53:51[Â __Â ] for the rest of his life and he was
53:54happy
53:55right like it happens it does happen but
53:59he was happy that's the
54:02difference I think a lot of people feel
54:04like they have to do
54:07this turn into Ted
54:24yeah
54:38there's an estimated 1.5 million hiiki
54:41Mor in Japan it seems like an emerging
54:44Trend in East Asia in China they are
54:47called The Hidden Youth and
54:54in
54:59ah
55:00[Â __Â ] yep there it
55:03is and I think also like this is a it's
55:06a reason why uh one of the reasons why
55:09you're able to do this is because you
55:12can just find entertainment online and
55:15you don't have to go out as
55:17much Korea they are known simply as
55:20socially withdrawn youth
55:23o as for the Japanese to cope with the
55:25loneliness epidemic they've tried to
55:27innovate their way out of the situation
55:29they have the unique concept of renting
55:32relationships yes that's right you can
55:35pay for temporary companionship and
55:36emotional support oh yeah yeah they do
55:39this a lot in Japan this is yeah they're
55:42they're ahead of the curve with
55:45this yeah buying girlfriend isn't like
55:49that that's not a RuneScape meme over
55:51there that's just how it
55:53is hi people to it's crazy like I didn't
55:56know how normalized stuff like that over
55:59there was until like the last like 6
56:01months to a year your friends family
56:04members or even pose as your girlfriend
56:06or boyfriend yeah at least in Japan
56:09lonely people are resorting to real life
56:11people albeit strangers to ease their
56:13loneliness damn but in the worest the
56:16market is using the new AI boom to
56:18Target Lonely People in stranger and
56:20more bizarre ways that's right for
56:21example Karen margerie is a social media
56:24influen with nearly 2 million followers
56:26on Snapchat she created her own AI chat
56:29bot called Karen AI it can replicate her
56:32voice personality and appearance and all
56:35it costs for users is $1 a minute
56:38platforms that's a
56:41lot are you real yes Jacob I'm a real
56:45person I might not be sitting right next
56:46to you but I'm using this audio chat
56:48platform to connect with you in real
56:50time I'm a young curvy woman with a
56:52petite body brown hair that's that's why
56:55it's
56:58expensive like I think that we really
57:00need to call this what it
57:02is this is just it's it's sex chat like
57:06what do you think the percentage of
57:07people who are consuming this
57:09content are doing it for a sexual reason
57:13I would say like
57:1795%
57:19like this is not about loneliness it's
57:22about [Â __Â ] Erp
57:26perky soft skin and full lips and I'm
57:30here to talk and have fun with you also
57:33people declaring that solving loneliness
57:34would I love how this guy has to pretend
57:36like he's offended by it he has to
57:39pretend like oh no I'm not I don't like
57:41that you know CU his wife might be
57:42watching right and like if she sees that
57:44and he's like oh all right you know like
57:47then he's gonna [Â __Â ] He's not going
57:49to have a good time yeah he's got to
57:52pretend man and I'm here to talk and
57:54have have fun with you also people
57:56declaring that solving loneliness with
57:58technology is the new market I'm
58:00enjoying her hustle it is I'm enjoying
58:02our hustle you know she makes $5 million
58:04a month doing this stuff John I'm so
58:06tired of my financial situation yes yes
58:08I would do it 100% I would encourage her
58:10to think twice I think younger people
58:13estimated $5 million a month or give
58:15away their likeness and their can buy an
58:17island and go think twice about it
58:19interesting I would not have expected
58:20that why it's not me the large influx of
58:22messages she receives from her making
58:24money from losers is really popular and
58:29the reason why is because like if you
58:32like these are the one of the
58:35most profitable groups of people to make
58:39money from is young guys that are
58:43isolated because some of them yeah some
58:45of them are just like losers but other
58:47ones are software
58:50developers and they've got a lot of
58:52[Â __Â ]
58:53money are 98% male audience and this
58:57isn't just text based interaction it
58:58seems that it's predominantly audio
59:00based on the ai's end let's check out
59:02Dem hey there John it it's lovely to
59:05meet you I just spent the morning
59:06grabbing brunch at the flowering tree
59:08Cafe in West Hollywood it was absolutely
59:11amazing for this evening maybe we can
59:13plan a virtual dinner date or watch a
59:15movie together what do you think this
59:17chat out allows Karen to I have over
59:202,000 sorry 20,000 boyfriends now
59:26wow she's our girlfriend now isn't that
59:31nice an unlimited number of people at
59:33one time whether the consumer wants to
59:35do so and I has been running for roughly
59:372 weeks now I can confidently say that
59:38my core Community spends multiple hours
59:40chatting with Karen AI on a de on a
59:43daily
59:45basis yeah there's a lot of girls that
59:48are doing this
59:49now it's very kind so depressing yeah no
59:53this is the way it is guys nice what's
59:55your body count yeah oh
01:00:00God for a few minutes or all day doesn't
01:00:03matter as long as they pay $1 per minute
01:00:05to maintain accessa has just released an
01:00:08interactive AI version of celebrities
01:00:11such as Mr Beast Kendall Jenner and
01:00:13Snoop Dog we've covered AI companions
01:00:16before but the future may be filled with
01:00:18clones of celebrities influencers or
01:00:21even deceased relatives they claim
01:00:24that's that's real good yeah digital
01:00:28necromancers oh boy you know by the way
01:00:31I I I watched a video about this I think
01:00:35replica originally came from like a
01:00:37woman who was trying to create a digital
01:00:42uh simil of an a person that like died
01:00:46in her
01:00:49life yeah it's her friend or something
01:00:51like that yeah that's where replica
01:00:52actually came from
01:00:55that these products help people to cope
01:00:57with grief loneliness or boredom there's
01:01:00an ethical debate to be had on if this
01:01:02help provided is actually a net positive
01:01:05should we be at this point in the first
01:01:08place I think the problem is that people
01:01:11feel like they have to choose these
01:01:12things I don't think the problem is the
01:01:14fact that they exist because weird stuff
01:01:17like this is always existed in some form
01:01:19or another but the fact that people are
01:01:21resulting to it or sorry resorting to it
01:01:24is is a problem I I I think that like
01:01:27it's not a uh it's not a disease it's
01:01:30just simply a
01:01:33symptom US Health authorities are
01:01:35calling for social isolation if you get
01:01:37rid of this it won't solve any
01:01:39problems to be treated as seriously as
01:01:42obesity or drug abuse nearly 50% of all
01:01:45Americans are thought to be affected or
01:01:47have been affected at some point around
01:01:49the world the figures may vary but the
01:01:51loneliness phenomena is
01:01:53spreading in his writing together the
01:01:56healing power of human Connection in a
01:01:58sometimes lonely world Dr Murthy
01:02:00describes loneliness as a health risk
01:02:02that can impact anyone regardless of age
01:02:05gender culture or background loneliness
01:02:08increases the risk for heart disease
01:02:10stroke and among older adults dementia
01:02:13it can harm mental and physical health
01:02:16as well as social well-being and
01:02:17increase the risk of an early death due
01:02:20to diseases such as diabetes heart
01:02:22attacks insomnia and dementia studies
01:02:26well I I don't understand that like how
01:02:28is it going to give you a higher chance
01:02:30of
01:02:31diabetes like I'm not the surge in
01:02:34general okay but like that certainly
01:02:36doesn't make sense to
01:02:38me stress creates stress is because of
01:02:42diabetes sorry stress causes diabetes is
01:02:45that true wow I had no
01:02:48idea have linked loneliness to higher
01:02:50blood pressure high cholesterol lower
01:02:53levels of physical activity ity
01:02:55cognitive impairment and mental health
01:02:57issues like anxiety stress mood
01:02:59disorders and depression mhm a study by
01:03:03Florida State University found that
01:03:05lonely older adults had a 40% higher
01:03:08risk of developing dementia over the
01:03:10next 10 years I think that kind of makes
01:03:12sense right like this is the one that
01:03:15like I could easily see making sense I
01:03:17think that most things in life work kind
01:03:20of like muscles where like if you don't
01:03:22use it you lose it so like if you're not
01:03:25actively like using your brain then
01:03:27you're going to uh you're going to lose
01:03:29your [Â __Â ] brain right that's what
01:03:31makes sense like I know that for example
01:03:33um you know like my mom like uh she was
01:03:38always like yeah she get a little bit
01:03:40like what the [Â __Â ] are you talking about
01:03:42right but like she would always do that
01:03:45but like she was always super [Â __Â ]
01:03:47sharp and the reason why is because she
01:03:50was on the internet reading [Â __Â ]
01:03:53thinking about stuff
01:03:54like like [Â __Â ] processing this
01:03:56watching videos you know she had like
01:03:58300 tabs open like I'm not kidding like
01:04:01she had more tabs open than I did and
01:04:04she was like just thinking
01:04:07constantly La of social connection can
01:04:10also negatively impact academic and
01:04:12professional performance yeah in his Ted
01:04:15Talk and BR and also a lack of sleep I
01:04:17think increases the risk of dementia as
01:04:19well again I'm not the Surgeon General
01:04:22but this is just my understanding lost
01:04:24connections journalist and author Joan
01:04:27Harry argues that depression is largely
01:04:29a social problem not just a chemical one
01:04:32he believes that loneliness is a major
01:04:34cause of depression humans need to
01:04:36belong to a group but our modern society
01:04:38lacks this since the 1970s a society has
01:04:41been focused ever more on individualism
01:04:44competition and Technology yep so this
01:04:47all sounds terrible so what can we do
01:04:49about it how do we fix
01:04:53this
01:04:55walking clubs are taking off and it's
01:04:57not just the exercise you're connecting
01:04:59with someone which is something that I
01:05:01was kind of missing that's nice more and
01:05:02more people are missing that
01:05:04connection in 2018 the UK appointed a
01:05:08minister for loneliness and there has
01:05:09been talks in other countries to follow
01:05:11suit this could be a
01:05:13start governments can do more to help
01:05:16initiatives such as local community
01:05:18engagement meetings improvements in
01:05:20access to Mental Health Resources
01:05:22education and public awareness on how to
01:05:24identify loneliness and combat
01:05:26loneliness as well as development and
01:05:28investment in affordable housing it's
01:05:30shown that housing stability impacts
01:05:32social connections city planners can
01:05:34Implement communal areas for people to
01:05:36together a great well this is another
01:05:38thing right is like uh a lot of people
01:05:42live like uh for
01:05:44example
01:05:46um like I have friends that live out in
01:05:50the middle of [Â __Â ]
01:05:52nowhere so like whenever you're a kid
01:05:54like I I live in a in a Suburban
01:05:56neighborhood right so like whenever I
01:05:59would go outside the first thing I would
01:06:01see is I would see Cameron's house right
01:06:05and then I would look up this street and
01:06:06I'd be seeing Zack and L's house and
01:06:08then I look down the street I'd see Cody
01:06:11and Jeff and then everybody'd be there
01:06:13right and so like if I wanted to
01:06:15interact with them and I wanted to chill
01:06:17with them then it was easy right it's no
01:06:21big deal but like uh you know you
01:06:23literally just walk across the street
01:06:25but like if you've got some house out in
01:06:27the middle of [Â __Â ] nowhere like I was
01:06:29thinking for myself right it's like uh I
01:06:32was talking with like a girl or like oh
01:06:34you know maybe we're going to move in
01:06:35together maybe start a family and all
01:06:37this and I said like you know listen I'm
01:06:39not going to I don't want to move out in
01:06:41some random ass [Â __Â ] place in the
01:06:43middle of nowhere because like I know
01:06:46how good it was for me as a kid growing
01:06:49up like to be around a bunch of other
01:06:51people and like to to grow up with like
01:06:53my neighbor neighorhood and like all my
01:06:55friends and it's like I would want that
01:06:57to [Â __Â ] happen for a kid of mine
01:06:59absolutely like I would never like it
01:07:01doesn't matter how nice the house is who
01:07:04gives a [Â __Â ] about the house it's a
01:07:05[Â __Â ] house that's just a place where
01:07:08you put your
01:07:11[Â __Â ] example of this is in Barcelona
01:07:14Spain the American mind cannot
01:07:17comprehend what's going on around me
01:07:19this isn't a party it's not even a
01:07:20planned event it's just what happens
01:07:22every afternoon here in Barcelona Spain
01:07:25after school and work people come out to
01:07:27squares like this to hang out get work
01:07:29done while their kids play with friends
01:07:31socialize interact with acquaintances or
01:07:32true friends and neighbors and there's a
01:07:34huge social and economic benefit to that
01:07:37now the square I was at is right here
01:07:38behind me but just a block away through
01:07:41that passageway is another I think that
01:07:43there is like a legitimate economic
01:07:45benefit too because people feel like
01:07:47they have a uh like a shared
01:07:52responsibility now in America we have a
01:07:54loneliness epidemic and part of it is
01:07:56due to our built environment you see
01:07:58these public squares are examples I
01:07:59think there's also like I don't know how
01:08:01Spain is but like actually I'm not even
01:08:03really sure right because I was going to
01:08:04say like America is less homogeneous
01:08:06than Spain but Japan is more homogeneous
01:08:09than anywhere else in the world and like
01:08:11they have this problem so like maybe
01:08:13homogene like looking the same everybody
01:08:15being like the same race the same like
01:08:18culture Etc maybe that's not as much of
01:08:20a factor but like I don't know maybe it
01:08:23is it's hard to say it's culture yeah
01:08:27cuz like one thing about America is that
01:08:30Florida and Portland are really
01:08:33different
01:08:35countries they're really very different
01:08:37places [Â __Â ] uh Austin and uh I would say
01:08:42just like a random place in Texas are
01:08:45different
01:08:47countries what some people call third
01:08:50places they're not work your first place
01:08:52they're not home your second place but
01:08:53they're third place interact with
01:08:55acquaintances and friends in America
01:08:57these third places are dwindling as
01:08:59religion and church yeah church is
01:09:01another one like I used to go to church
01:09:02growing up is having less significant
01:09:05impact in americ lives but also third
01:09:08places are disappearing because of
01:09:09zoning laws which keep separating the T
01:09:12different types of activity that you
01:09:13have in a city to the point of every
01:09:16activity has to be intentionally planned
01:09:18and what third places we do have in
01:09:19America things like coffee shops or bars
01:09:22and cafes they're paid places that just
01:09:24aren't very accessible for people who
01:09:26are poor at least on a regular basis now
01:09:28why does it happen here in Spain well of
01:09:30course there's a culture for it but more
01:09:32than that there's an environment that's
01:09:34conducive to it huh but what about the
01:09:37individual person saying go make a
01:09:39friend or man up isn't exactly helpful
01:09:43loneliness is not something to be
01:09:44ashamed of or ignored you wouldn't be
01:09:46ashamed to get help for a broken arm so
01:09:49if your soul is injured you should reach
01:09:51out here are six ways that one can
01:09:54combat loneliness number one reach out
01:09:57this could include professional well we
01:09:59know this one's not going to [Â __Â ]
01:10:00happen because most of the people that
01:10:01are lonely are anxious about being uh
01:10:04social like this is probably the one
01:10:05that's going to be the least likely to
01:10:07happen I'm going to be honest that one's
01:10:09like yeah it's like oh [Â __Â ] this that's
01:10:11the one thing I don't want to do they're
01:10:13not going to reach out they're going to
01:10:14Roach out yeah help or expressing how
01:10:16you feel to your friends or family you
01:10:18can just start small yeah you could also
01:10:20find local groups organizations and ser
01:10:23off that can help you connect with
01:10:25others reach out to a mental health
01:10:27professional like a therapist or
01:10:28counselor they can provide you with
01:10:30guidance and support to address the
01:10:32underlying causes of
01:10:34loneliness number two self- accept yeah
01:10:37I mean that's a lot of money right to go
01:10:38to like a therapist I don't know how
01:10:40much it is to go to a therapist but it's
01:10:41probably like what 50 100 bucks an hour
01:10:44something like that maybe
01:10:46150 on average right extremes exist
01:10:50but this seems counterintuitive but
01:10:53another another solution is to cultivate
01:10:55a connection with
01:10:56oneself it's a practice to remind us
01:10:58that we do indeed have selfworth a 20122
01:11:02study showed that self-reflection can
01:11:04reduce feelings of loneliness and also
01:11:06contribute to finding meaning in life
01:11:09reflecting on who you are practicing
01:11:11self-compassion and writing down how
01:11:13you're feeling can be a great start
01:11:16number three so I guess that's always
01:11:17kind of like what I did right it's like
01:11:19I would always make videos even whenever
01:11:22I was a little kid I would make videos
01:11:24and draw Comics like I always I would
01:11:25always find like different ways to like
01:11:27express
01:11:28myself like do like I have like 50 like
01:11:31I'm not even kidding you guys I have
01:11:32like probably 50 hours of just like
01:11:34Vlogs that I did Growing Up that I just
01:11:36never put on the internet I just record
01:11:38it and like okay there it
01:11:41is
01:11:43gratitude a lot of things around us tell
01:11:45us that we're not enough it's how a lot
01:11:47of companies make their money that's
01:11:49true the advertising tells us we're not
01:11:51rich enough or pretty enough or that if
01:11:53we just buy this one I see this a lot uh
01:11:55with people like they
01:11:57um like this is especially true like for
01:12:00me because like I don't really I'm not
01:12:02I'm not a big uh you know money spender
01:12:05so like anytime that like I like this TV
01:12:08that I have behind me right here this
01:12:10[Â __Â ] this is a 50-inch TV that I
01:12:13bought it's a LED TV is a great TV I
01:12:15bought at Sam's Club I went there with
01:12:17my mom and my friend Austin and I bought
01:12:19that TV with my first check from the
01:12:22IRS I have never replaced that TV and
01:12:25it's not getting replaced until maybe
01:12:28somehow I move or it it
01:12:30dies it's a good TV could I buy an 85
01:12:34inch TV sure but why would I do that if
01:12:37I already have a
01:12:39TV it's people always feeling like they
01:12:41need something like uh you know I think
01:12:44it's like a matter of perspective is I
01:12:46try to look at myself as a you know
01:12:48fully completed puzzle I I try not to
01:12:50think of myself like okay well I'm
01:12:52missing seven different pieces one of
01:12:54them is a new car the other one's a TV
01:12:56another one is the approval of a group
01:12:59of people on the internet like this is
01:13:01not a good
01:13:04idea more thing will be happy we can
01:13:07combat this by being grateful in what we
01:13:09do have the practice of gratitude I know
01:13:12it sounds trite but the simple practice
01:13:14of gratitude can do wonders at 2021
01:13:17study showed that increased gratitude
01:13:19can reduce feelings of loneliness a 2015
01:13:22study 2011 study and 2010 study all
01:13:26showed the same thing yeah for just 5
01:13:28minutes a day really think about what
01:13:30you can be thankful for at first it may
01:13:33seem like there's nothing to be thankful
01:13:34for but if you're not forced to fight in
01:13:37a war have a roof over your head and are
01:13:39in decent physical health have food and
01:13:42have water that's better than some
01:13:44people we should be thankful for that
01:13:46and much more there's nothing wrong with
01:13:48acknowledging that where you are right
01:13:50now is hard really really hard but
01:13:53incorporating the practice of gratitude
01:13:55alongside other support can strongly Aid
01:13:58in your journey yeah for example studies
01:14:01prove that gratitude can increase like I
01:14:03told uh I was talking to my dad about
01:14:05this and I was like I get so exhausted
01:14:08and tired of being the person that
01:14:11people come to to solve their
01:14:13problems like I'm like I have all my
01:14:16[Â __Â ] in order everything is going great
01:14:19for me I don't have any problems and
01:14:23there are other people that bring their
01:14:25problems to me that have a problem and
01:14:28now it's like you know their life is on
01:14:30the line and some way it's like a
01:14:32crucial issue and they need me to help
01:14:35them right and it's like oh [Â __Â ] right
01:14:37I've got to I've got to figure out what
01:14:39to do now and so I told him I was like
01:14:42listen the only thing worse than that is
01:14:45being the person that has to ask for
01:14:49help you know I try not to forget that
01:14:53is like yeah it might be annoying for
01:14:56sure but like godamn am I lucky to be
01:14:59the person that's able to help
01:15:01them yeah if it was the other way
01:15:04around that doesn't make it any less
01:15:06[Â __Â ] annoying by the way it's just
01:15:09important to keep things into
01:15:11perspective happiness reduce depression
01:15:14and strengthen
01:15:17resiliency tra often experience reduced
01:15:20blood pressure less chronic pain
01:15:23increase energy even longer
01:15:25lives people who purposefully Express
01:15:28more gratitude report higher self-esteem
01:15:30than those who don't and they're more
01:15:32likely to help others also like you know
01:15:35you look at gratitude uh you know saying
01:15:37grace right at uh you know whenever
01:15:40you're about to eat dinner it's like
01:15:42that's again like another way that like
01:15:44kind of religion is like you know like
01:15:46tangental related with
01:15:49this social behavior also I do think
01:15:52like the of religion is like a huge
01:15:54factor of why people are feeling more
01:15:57lonely I I I think that it's [Â __Â ]
01:16:00huge because like almost every single
01:16:02place in the world has a religion and I
01:16:05think the reason why every place in the
01:16:07world has a religion is because there is
01:16:10some sort of like [Â __Â ] like you know
01:16:12how like there's certain things that
01:16:14like you know for example like a a baby
01:16:16will like curl their toes to like like
01:16:18and every single human being does this
01:16:21thing like I I think that's kind of the
01:16:24uh the same thing with religion yeah
01:16:26core memory like core like shared
01:16:30Consciousness greater
01:16:32happiness people who capture grateful
01:16:35thoughts before bed sleep better than
01:16:37those who don't Jesus is a Boomer's
01:16:38anime so many positive changes because
01:16:41gratitude actually rewires our brains
01:16:43kickstarting the production of dopamine
01:16:45and serotonin oh God like
01:16:47anti-depressants these Feelgood
01:16:49neurotransmitters activate the Bliss
01:16:51center of the brain creating feelings of
01:16:53happiness and contentment this appears
01:16:56to be self-perpetuating research
01:16:58suggests that with regular practice
01:17:00you'll train your prefrontal cortex to
01:17:02better appreciate and retain positive
01:17:04experiences and thoughts and to deflect
01:17:06the negative ones number four social
01:17:10media reduction yeah I think that's
01:17:11probably true yeah I mean and it makes
01:17:13sense right if you're already happy and
01:17:15things are going good for you it's like
01:17:17the matter of like you know as I was
01:17:18saying right people always coming to you
01:17:20to like you know ask you for help for
01:17:21stuff it's like it's it's a matter of
01:17:24perspective I think almost everything if
01:17:26you change your perspective on it it can
01:17:29at least be improved it's not going to
01:17:30be better but it'll that's not going to
01:17:33fix it but it will be it'll be
01:17:37improved when it comes to using social
01:17:40media we need to use it in moderation
01:17:43there's research that says that a small
01:17:45amount of social media is beneficial but
01:17:47a large amount is detrimental 30 minutes
01:17:49of use a day is the advice from Dr
01:17:52Jeremy Noble he cited a University of
01:17:54Pennsylvania study cutting back on
01:17:57social media can significantly improve
01:17:59your well-being Dr Noble also advis us
01:18:02to choose social media platforms that
01:18:04help us develop authentic social
01:18:06connections number five I think social
01:18:09media is like one of the things where
01:18:10it's like you have some people that get
01:18:12in on it and like for
01:18:14me I I like being able to go on Facebook
01:18:17and see what friends of mine that I grew
01:18:19up with are doing now cuz like they live
01:18:22and maybe in a different state or you
01:18:24know their lives are totally different I
01:18:25don't get a chance to see them anymore
01:18:27and so it's like I see them with like
01:18:29you know they have a family now and you
01:18:30know they have a picture together and
01:18:32it's like oh yeah I remember this dude
01:18:33we used to throw rocks at people in high
01:18:35school and like you know now he's got
01:18:37like two kids and a wife and he's trying
01:18:38to pretend like he's not the shitthead
01:18:40that you know we used to be and um you
01:18:42know like I get a lot out of that I
01:18:44think that's a great thing but there's a
01:18:46lot of other people that uh you know
01:18:48whenever they get on social media they
01:18:51only get mad like I'll read people's
01:18:53like so like obviously I get a lot of
01:18:55people like adding me like oh I [Â __Â ]
01:18:57hate you like kill yourself like I hate
01:18:59your content like you're so stupid right
01:19:01people tell me this like every day and
01:19:03so sometimes I'll like read their
01:19:04profile just because I'm curious right
01:19:06and so I'll read their profile and like
01:19:08I I'll look at the tweets and like every
01:19:10single tweet and every message that they
01:19:12ever do is something
01:19:15negative like this is just like a
01:19:18fundamentally unhappy negative person
01:19:21and it's just so sad
01:19:24it's so sad that they're doing that like
01:19:25they're literally ruining their own life
01:19:28going we go fishing for one of those
01:19:29people oh who cares right I mean there's
01:19:31plenty of hate Watchers in
01:19:32chat giving maybe not right now but like
01:19:35just in general giving to others shows
01:19:36us that we have something to offer to
01:19:38the world ironically this can help us
01:19:40feel less lonely local community
01:19:42volunteering or just helping a work
01:19:44colleague or neighbor in small ways
01:19:47according to Vivic Murphy the man who
01:19:49first declared the loneliness pandemic
01:19:50back in
01:19:512017 quote service is one of the most
01:19:54underrecognized antidotes to loneliness
01:19:57it reaffirms to ourselves that we have
01:19:59value to add to the
01:20:01world I think that's and lastly number
01:20:03six connection yeah like growing up uh
01:20:06my dad would have me go and like uh we
01:20:09would volunteer and do like uh work to
01:20:12preserve like different natural like
01:20:14habitats uh one one in particular uh
01:20:17here like in Austin and so we do that
01:20:20like you know once a month or something
01:20:22like that
01:20:24loneliness is a stress state that makes
01:20:26us focus on ourselves rather than
01:20:28outwards towards others mhm to keep safe
01:20:31we often treat people and things with
01:20:33suspicion when we feel lonely this can
01:20:35ruin self-esteem we feel like we're not
01:20:38lovable or likable these factors
01:20:40Compound on each other yeah you you ever
01:20:41you ever had like a girlfriend like
01:20:43always overthinks everything and makes
01:20:46every situation that you're in with her
01:20:49some sort of like a uh a a problem
01:20:53problem like there's like you never know
01:20:55like there's always something wrong
01:20:57there's like always like some degree of
01:20:59like uncertainty or tension in their
01:21:04life
01:21:08oh oh
01:21:11God never again
01:21:14bro never
01:21:19again making it hard to solve and
01:21:21creating a downward spiral to break the
01:21:24cycle one can start slowly even a quick
01:21:26hello to your neighbors can help inch
01:21:28connection forward yeah and lastly if
01:21:31you are fortunate to have a healthy
01:21:32group of friends try and schedule calls
01:21:35together talk to each other and just
01:21:36chat about
01:21:38life there's an old Japanese see like
01:21:40that's the way it used to be man is like
01:21:42you would get in
01:21:44Discord actually back in the day bro
01:21:46like I remember like a a core memory of
01:21:49mine is like waking up on Saturday
01:21:51morning and and I left my uh my game
01:21:55like uh I left like my computer on like
01:21:57as I always do and I would have in my
01:22:01headphones and I could hear my guildies
01:22:03talking and like laughing and and like
01:22:04having fun whenever I woke up and like
01:22:06you know cuz I had stayed in in vent the
01:22:08whole night and uh you know I just
01:22:10[Â __Â ] went to bed left myself on
01:22:11channel I'm like oh man like I'm about
01:22:14to bro we about to go in we about to go
01:22:16in on this [Â __Â ] we about to play this
01:22:17game 12 hours a day man dude that was
01:22:21yeah I remember I was like yeah get
01:22:23ready like [Â __Â ] yeah what's up boys how
01:22:25yall doing I just got up
01:22:27yeah tradition from okanawa called Mo it
01:22:32basically means lifelong group of
01:22:34friends they meet weekly and talk about
01:22:36life discuss issues and help each other
01:22:40Elders in okanawa live extraordinarily
01:22:42better and longer lives than almost
01:22:44anyone anywhere else in the world it's
01:22:47common to find Mo groups that have been
01:22:48friends for over 90 years have Tred to
01:22:51the Japanese AR pelo of Okinawa where
01:22:54there are more centenarians than
01:22:55anywhere else in the world
01:23:11people she 100 [Â __Â ] years old godamn
01:23:15that's old holy
01:23:21[Â __Â ]
01:23:33for she bro she's going in too oh my
01:23:51God is noads
01:23:57yeah yeah I've always felt like whenever
01:24:00you get old and you start getting on
01:24:02like a bunch of
01:24:03medications like that's you're starting
01:24:05a
01:24:06timer you know like you're starting a
01:24:10timer bro like that's the way I see
01:24:19it 50 years holy [Â __Â ]
01:24:36I don't try to live as long as possible
01:24:39it happens naturally because we all
01:24:41gather laugh and cry together and that's
01:24:44what's good that's what we
01:24:48say that's it that's really the way of
01:24:50life in okanawa damn that's crazy what
01:24:53the [Â __Â ] keep in mind that these are
01:24:54general rules and some may find it
01:24:56harder to make connections than others
01:24:58due to being non-neurotypical or due to
01:25:01other circumstances within their lives
01:25:04sometimes people that you try to connect
01:25:05with can just be plain rude but at the
01:25:08end well people are [Â __Â ] [Â __Â ]
01:25:10sometimes and like also like don't go
01:25:12tell yourself that you're neuro uh
01:25:14neurod Divergent just because you took a
01:25:16[Â __Â ] questionnaire on uh on quora uh
01:25:20that told you that you're autistic no
01:25:22you're not you're not [Â __Â ] autistic
01:25:24like maybe you're just a little bit
01:25:25weird like just [Â __Â ] stop like self
01:25:29diagnosing yourself with mental
01:25:30disorders because you don't have a
01:25:33personality of the day there are many
01:25:35ways to combat loneliness so the key is
01:25:37to realize I took the Yahoo quiz and it
01:25:39says I'm a [Â __Â ] skitso so I guess I
01:25:42can't have any friends
01:25:44now how you feeling and to find the best
01:25:47strategy for you alongside professional
01:25:49help if you encounter someone showing
01:25:51symptoms Sy of loneliness don't ignore
01:25:54them reach out to people who might be
01:25:56lonely talk to them if they need
01:25:58professional help guide them in the
01:25:59right direction it all comes down to how
01:26:01can you be of service to others the gift
01:26:04of Simply being there and truly
01:26:06listening can sometimes go a long way
01:26:08that's one factor a lot of people don't
01:26:10[Â __Â ] understand is that if you want
01:26:13people to like you and you want people
01:26:14to be around you listen to them and take
01:26:17an active interest in the things that
01:26:18they care about and if you find like
01:26:20you're not able to about the things that
01:26:23they care about then you're maybe
01:26:24hanging out with the wrong people
01:26:27because like you'll be able to find
01:26:28people that you can interact with you
01:26:30can talk to you can listen to what they
01:26:32have to say and it's not just [Â __Â ] oh
01:26:34my God how long is this going to take
01:26:37yeah that's the thing is like take an
01:26:38active enthusiastic interest in things
01:26:40that people tell you and they'll want to
01:26:42be around you it sounds like such an
01:26:45obvious [Â __Â ] thing but so many people
01:26:47struggle with it the other gu not
01:26:48touching on the real issue that people
01:26:50have egos and they don't want to accept
01:26:51that they have a problem yeah I think
01:26:53that's an issue too you're right about
01:26:55that going with an open mind don't be
01:26:57quick to judge and try and practice
01:26:59understanding once we listen to others
01:27:01they can be more open to listening to us
01:27:05yeah chronic loneliness is an unnatural
01:27:08condition a state that we were not
01:27:10designed for it leaves us empty and
01:27:12longing for connection and understanding
01:27:14it's been slowly building since
01:27:16industrialization accelerating in the
01:27:181960s and70s I remember um for me
01:27:22like I've always done like streaming and
01:27:24making videos and I remember that like
01:27:27whenever I would like take a break from
01:27:30streaming cuz you remember like back in
01:27:32the day I used to take breaks from
01:27:33streaming like entirely like I wasn't on
01:27:37my second Channel I wasn't really making
01:27:39videos I was just wearing the same shirt
01:27:42for a month straight without showering
01:27:44in my room doing
01:27:47nothing right and
01:27:50uh I remember I would know that I was
01:27:53ready to come back and stream again
01:27:55whenever I would be talking in my car
01:27:57whenever I was driving and like doing
01:28:00mannerisms like thinking out what I
01:28:02would say on a
01:28:03stream and like whenever I was doing
01:28:05that by myself I'm like okay it's time
01:28:07to it's time to come
01:28:10back skitso yeah damn bro you probably
01:28:13smell like hell of [Â __Â ] I bet I smell
01:28:15better than you
01:28:17do greasy Pig what are you talking about
01:28:20I don't sweat I'm not
01:28:24dirty before exploding in the 21st
01:28:27century it crept in and snuck up on us
01:28:29and only with the proliferation of
01:28:31smartphones and Co did it get all I'm
01:28:33saying is that I think that people
01:28:35people choose to be lonely the problem
01:28:38is that people take the path of least
01:28:40resistance and the path of least
01:28:42resistance is often times what leads to
01:28:45loneliness severe that it could no
01:28:48longer be igned only now are we starting
01:28:50to see and do we care about the impact
01:28:53of loneliness before it gets out of hand
01:28:55we need to tackle the situation of
01:28:57course you can't alleviate everyone's
01:28:59loneliness as each person Longs for
01:29:01different types and different depths of
01:29:03connection but as it poses a public
01:29:06health
01:29:07conc both government sectors and Private
01:29:09health organizations need to be more
01:29:12Vigilant confronting loneliness is not
01:29:14an impossible task but it is going to
01:29:16take some work it requires a genuine
01:29:19demonstration of care and compassion for
01:29:22oneself and others as mentioned this
01:29:25episode was many months in the making so
01:29:27I hope that I could shed some light on
01:29:29the modern origins of loneliness the
01:29:31causes and the solutions although the
01:29:34chatter amongst strangers may have gone
01:29:36in many public spaces hopefully the
01:29:38chatter on our streets will return one
01:29:41day so what are your thoughts on this
01:29:44epidemic level of loneliness have you
01:29:45personally been affected by it what's
01:29:47your story do you know someone else
01:29:49that's going through loneliness please
01:29:52share your experiences and insights in
01:29:54the comments section
01:29:55below anyway that's about it from me
01:29:58great my name is toogo if you did like
01:30:00this episode and want to see more on
01:30:02anything else on yeah this was
01:30:04great feel free to subscribe to Cold
01:30:07Fusion it's free yeah that was great
01:30:09depressing video was that depressing for
01:30:10you like I don't know it's not
01:30:11depressing for me but yeah uh sad man
01:30:15yeah I mean disparan of third place is
01:30:17big difference yeah using AI to fix
01:30:18loneliness is like ripping Down the
01:30:20Walls of your house uh to burn to keep
01:30:22warm yeah
01:30:24maybe I mean [Â __Â ] man I grew up with a
01:30:27turtle like what the [Â __Â ] introvert feel
01:30:30like others impose that I should feel
01:30:31lonely yeah I know confused me a lot
01:30:33when I was younger later I realized I
01:30:34prefer spend a lot of time alone that's
01:30:36okay yeah see like that's the way I feel
01:30:37too personally like uh is it like
01:30:40there's a lot of people that have like
01:30:41this like existential problem but like
01:30:43for me the problem is like the opposite
01:30:46where it's like I I like being alone and
01:30:49you know it's always other people that
01:30:50are trying to like impose them
01:30:51themselves on me right for like whatever
01:30:54reason it skips the turtle comment I
01:30:56don't give a [Â __Â ] yeah what's this here
01:30:59to Monster Hunter world oh yeah yeah I
01:31:01do need to get ready and play that I
01:31:02need to do that maybe I'll I'll look at
01:31:04more of that I don't know if I'm going
01:31:05to look at that today though but
01:31:08yeah to me like uh honestly Zach you
01:31:12aren't alone are you
01:31:15um that's yeah I mean I'm not in some
01:31:18ways I am in some ways I'm not right I
01:31:20mean I think it's a it's a State of Mind
01:31:22as well but uh it's hard to
01:31:25say there's a lot of streamers that feel
01:31:28like lonely and feel like they don't
01:31:29have anybody else and like you know
01:31:30nobody understands them see for me I've
01:31:33always been [Â __Â ] up in the head and so
01:31:35I'm used to people not understanding me
01:31:38so it's never been an issue it's like oh
01:31:40nobody understands the way that like you
01:31:42know what this issue is yeah of course
01:31:44they yeah they never do right it is what
01:31:47it is you know [Â __Â ] same yeah i' I've
01:31:50always been weird
01:31:52just content yeah depressing for me uh I
01:31:54had friends and I went out uh all the
01:31:56time but I an accident put me in a
01:31:57wheelchair and I haven't had house kft
01:31:59in 5 years that's [Â __Â ] awful man yeah
01:32:01it's terrible [Â __Â ] sucks [Â __Â ] up in
01:32:04the head yeah I mean a bit right I think
01:32:06that a lot of people are link the video
01:32:08yeah I'll link it again for you guys
01:32:09yeah make sure to give it a like give
01:32:10the guy a sub this is so good this is
01:32:12great I'm lonely my whole life
01:32:14everyone's lonely economy is [Â __Â ] and
01:32:15God is dead there you
01:32:18go uh I believe it's because you already
01:32:20have taste and relationship in
01:32:21friendship or romance uh so I guess the
01:32:23video is mainly for those that that
01:32:25haven't experienced it at all I think it
01:32:27depends right I mean there's like a huge
01:32:28spectrum of it and it's like hard to say
01:32:30whether it's any one good thing or
01:32:34not to emotionally I I try to be very I
01:32:38try to think about things this is the
01:32:40problem and this is why I think other
01:32:42people are also lonely is because they
01:32:44never actually try to feel the way
01:32:46another person feels or they try to
01:32:49think the way another person thinks most
01:32:51most of the time people try to think how
01:32:55they would feel in a situation for
01:32:57another person which is like a totally
01:33:00different thing because like oh put
01:33:03yourself in their shoes you're still
01:33:05putting yourself in their shoes you have
01:33:08to think as if you are them as if they
01:33:11are you like completely stop thinking
01:33:13about it from like your perspective
01:33:16based off of your values based off of
01:33:18you know what you know or what you think
01:33:21is right all that stuff doesn't matter
01:33:23whenever you're talking about another
01:33:24person that kind of empathy requires
01:33:25High emotional intelligence well I mean
01:33:27like listen like I I I learned that a
01:33:30lot from back in the day because I'm
01:33:33going to be honest the reason why I'm
01:33:35really good at it is because if you can
01:33:38understand somebody on that level you
01:33:40can get them to pay you more gold to buy
01:33:42a carry or to do something like that so
01:33:45I took a lot of very uh deliberate steps
01:33:48to try to figure out how to think like
01:33:50another person can think and how to get
01:33:53inside somebody's head and how to look
01:33:55at okay well you know if they if they
01:33:57say this they mean this and this is what
01:33:59they want these are their values and so
01:34:01you have to understand them on such a
01:34:04level that you know what to tell them to
01:34:05where they'll do what you want it's that
01:34:09simple empathy yeah and it's that's the
01:34:13reason why I'm very good at it or at
01:34:15least I think I am in some cases I am I
01:34:19hope you're aware of your behavior oh I
01:34:21am absolutely I am oh yeah and 100% yeah
01:34:26that's called manipulation yeah
01:34:29basically but in order to manipulate
01:34:31somebody in a good way you have to
01:34:32understand them because the better you
01:34:34can understand somebody the better you
01:34:36can take advantage of
01:34:37them
01:34:40naturally yeah that's the reason right
01:34:42I'm not trying to talk around it that's
01:34:43exactly what it
01:34:45was yeah doing on purpose
01:34:48yeah and uh do you look at viewers as
01:34:50children then you're a streamer most of
01:34:52your adult life no that's weird um I
01:34:55don't really um like I I don't really
01:34:58spend a lot of time talking about like
01:34:59my own like kind of feelings because I
01:35:02think that it's uh it's it's needlessly
01:35:04indulgent but uh in general like I don't
01:35:07really feel like I I I don't feel like
01:35:09I'm the same as most other people on
01:35:12like a very fundamental level and I
01:35:13learned this whenever I was a kid like
01:35:15just like the way that other kids would
01:35:16react to things the way I would react to
01:35:18things and vice versa things would
01:35:20bother me it wouldn't bother them and so
01:35:22I I've always felt very uh very
01:35:25separated and very isolated from other
01:35:26people uh just in general and so because
01:35:29of that
01:35:31I I I never really
01:35:34like I don't really look down on other
01:35:37people because if anything I feel like
01:35:38in a lot of ways I'm the one that's
01:35:40incomplete I'm the one that's a little
01:35:42bit dysfunctional most other normal
01:35:44people aren't like that it's the same as
01:35:47like um like I'm very good at some
01:35:49things I am extremely good at some
01:35:52things but there is not a single human
01:35:54out there that can do like the little
01:35:56memory tests like you know the like
01:35:58hitting the buttons in the right order
01:36:00better than a monkey monkeys can do that
01:36:03better than a human can but that doesn't
01:36:06mean monkeys are smarter than humans uh
01:36:08it's learn Behavior yeah it's just it's
01:36:10just there are things that you're good
01:36:11at like for example like I I think that
01:36:13like I'm very good at some things but
01:36:15that doesn't necessarily make me better
01:36:16than another person that's weird because
01:36:18there's other people that are way better
01:36:20at other stuff like for me like I'll
01:36:22watch other people play games and the
01:36:25way that they can focus in and just
01:36:27learn
01:36:28something I I am astonished by that I
01:36:30can't believe that they can do that but
01:36:33in other ways I can think about things
01:36:35in ways that they'll never be able to
01:36:36think about them and so I just think
01:36:39that a lot of people are are very
01:36:40different
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