00:00in this video we're gonna be answering
00:02one of the biggest questions I get from
00:04a lot of guys out there which is how can
00:06I be come a more dominant man in this
00:09video I'm gonna clear this up I'm gonna
00:12give you some straightforward practical
00:14advice that you can use to become a more
00:16dominant man I'm John from bulldog Mind
00:21sitcom on this channel I teach you how
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00:26financial independence how to build a
00:28physique that you want get the girls
00:29that you want and go from the victim
00:31mindset to what I call the Bulldog
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00:41think that a lot of guys don't
00:42understand what dominance is and they
00:45try to dominate other people by force
00:47which is actually the opposite it
00:50actually shows a great deal of weakness
00:52the more force that you have to apply in
00:54order to get someone to essentially obey
00:58your will or do your bidding the weaker
01:01that you are generally it's it's a it's
01:03a weak or move it's just like showing
01:05anger right then angers in fact the way
01:07that a lot of people try to express
01:09dominance but really what it is is it's
01:11a frustration when you're angry it's
01:13because an expectation hasn't happened
01:16that you had in the world and so it's
01:19actually showing your inability it's
01:21it's the opposite of dominance a lot of
01:24men are afraid to be dominant because
01:26they're afraid to express themselves and
01:27what they want and they're afraid of
01:29imposing on people which is all things
01:31we're gonna address here okay guys so
01:33let's let's start off by talking about
01:35first the first thing that you can do to
01:37be more dominant which is first to
01:39dominate yourself you're not gonna
01:41dominate anyone else you're not gonna be
01:43dominant in general if you cannot
01:45control your own desires if you cannot
01:48control your own self okay to be truly
01:51dominant is to be able to exercise your
01:55own will okay and to build exercise your
01:58own will the first place to start is
01:59yourself if you are lazy okay if you
02:02procrastinate if you don't have any self
02:05discipline if you can't get to the gym
02:06if you can't you know do the workouts
02:08that you're supposed to do or do the
02:09work that you're supposed to do if you
02:11if you can't control
02:13your own emotions okay you're not going
02:16to be very dominant because you're
02:18basically going to be emotional you're
02:20going to be you're gonna be controlled
02:22by other people if someone can rouse you
02:24to Inger very easily okay they're
02:27dominating you okay life is dominating
02:29you so first of all you've got to get
02:31self discipline you've got to be able to
02:32dominate yourself next say what you want
02:35and say what you mean all right this is
02:38one of those really big things when I'm
02:40coaching guys on becoming more masculine
02:43okay and being more dominant is I try to
02:46tell them you need to say exactly what
02:48it is that you want okay
02:50and in what you mean stop beating around
02:53the bush okay stop trying to be extra
02:54polite to people okay stop trying to you
02:58know come across as as not wanting to
03:00offend people instead say what you want
03:03don't be bashful about it say I want
03:05this okay I want you to do this all
03:07right again like in the bedroom I'll do
03:09this right you're giving a command
03:11you're saying what you want what you
03:12desire and and not beating around the
03:15bush if you want to go to a restaurant
03:16you want to eat somewhere if you're like
03:17hey where should we go you're making a
03:19decision you're saying I want to go here
03:21I want to eat this it doesn't mean that
03:22what you want always has to happen okay
03:25don't don't be wrong don't misconstrue
03:27this okay being dominant is not all
03:30about always getting your way but it's
03:32about saying what it is that you want
03:34and saying what it is that you mean not
03:37beating around the bush not being afraid
03:39of of who you are as a person right to
03:42be very dominant person is someone who
03:44you just says what they want stop trying
03:46to be polite okay one of the biggest
03:48things that screw you up from being
03:49dominant as a man is being too damn
03:52polite you know fuck it you sometimes
03:54you got to step on some toes sometimes
03:56you got to not worry what other people
03:58think you're not you got to not worry if
04:00you're coming across as brash or rude
04:02it's not that you should try to come
04:04across that way but if you're saying
04:05what you want okay and you're saying
04:08what you mean you're gonna come across
04:09as impolite at times and it's fine it's
04:12okay if people are a little bit
04:14uncomfortable it's okay if some people
04:16don't like you it's okay
04:18if some people are are not are not
04:21agreeing with you okay you don't have to
04:24make everyone feel comfortable and happy
04:26all the time it's good
04:27when you can do that but it's more
04:29important to be true to yourself and to
04:31express yourself then you're gonna come
04:32across a lot more dominant when you
04:34don't care about being polite take
04:36charge and make decisions okay if you
04:39want to be more dominant one of the key
04:41things that you can do is to actually
04:43just take charge of the situation and
04:45make those decisions that need to be
04:46made all right if everyone's trying to
04:48decide where to eat pick a restaurant
04:49say hey I feel like eating some fish
04:52tacos let's go to this place we're gonna
04:54go there now some people might argue and
04:57they might disagree it's fun okay but
04:59you've at least taken charge you've
05:01actually made a decision and have made
05:03something happen again you're not
05:04necessarily being polite in this case
05:06all right but if someone else wants
05:08something they can speak up but
05:09typically you know the more dominant
05:11person is gonna be the person that just
05:14takes charge so it takes the reigns that
05:16sees that there's an issue and they
05:17don't wait for someone else to come
05:19along and solve it they don't wait for
05:20someone else to come to a consensus on
05:23that they instead say okay here's a
05:25problem I'm gonna take charge of it and
05:27I'm gonna make some decisions and we're
05:29gonna go go go go again like I said
05:31again it doesn't mean that you always
05:32get what you want and your way it just
05:35means that you're willing in the in that
05:36vacuum of leadership to take charge to
05:39take that position and by default that's
05:41what you're gonna do don't hide your
05:43ambition or desire okay if you want to
05:46be dominant don't hide your ambition
05:49you're an ambitious person a dominant
05:52male is ambitious okay and you're going
05:55to have desire a lot of times if you
05:58hide that you're gonna come across as
06:00very weak you're going to come across as
06:02submissive because a lot of reasons why
06:04we hide our ambition or we hide our
06:07desire is because we don't want to
06:08offend people we don't want to make
06:10people uncomfortable okay a very
06:12ambitious person a person that has a
06:14great degree of desire tends to make
06:17people uncomfortable at times but you
06:18have to be ok with that if you want to
06:20be dominant you want to be more dominant
06:23practice expressing your desire practice
06:26allowing your ambition to come out to be
06:28competitive to to be the kind of person
06:31that is willing to face conflict to face
06:34challenges to express exactly what it is
06:37that you want like I said we talked
06:39about this earlier but really really
06:40important do not sum
06:41it okay this is another really important
06:44thing if you're gonna be dominant you
06:45can't be submitting okay
06:47you can't just let people take one you
06:50know win one over on you all the time
06:51doesn't mean you have to fight for
06:53everything and be like combative and
06:55argument --iv and and non agreeable all
06:58the time but you have you can't be
07:00overly agreeable you can't just submit
07:01just because someone says something or
07:03opposes you right a lot of a lot of guys
07:06you've seen this today where is as soon
07:08as especially when they're in their
07:10relationship with a woman as soon as she
07:12says something that he did that
07:14disagrees with him he just goes and lays
07:17over he just submits instead of saying
07:19no instead of saying no I don't tell her
07:21that or no I'm not gonna do that you
07:23know he just says yes and he just does
07:26and he just backs up constantly backing
07:28up constantly submitting it's not very
07:30attractive it's not very dominant a lot
07:31of times women are gonna test you to see
07:33what are you gonna do when they disagree
07:36with you when they say no are you just
07:37gonna roll over and if you're in a
07:39conversation with a woman that you just
07:40met for instance you know this happens
07:42all the time and she says oh yeah I
07:45don't like this you know and then you
07:47say yeah yeah I don't like this either
07:49you just agree with whatever the fuck
07:50she's saying you're just submitting okay
07:52or she she makes some kind of insult or
07:54tells you something that you're doing
07:55wrong and then you just agree with it
07:56fuck that no you've got to stand up for
07:58yourself then you've got to say no this
08:00is this is what I think or this is what
08:02I believe and to be unabashed about it
08:04right you may risk losing a relationship
08:06or pissing someone off but that's fine
08:08if you're dominant you're not gonna care
08:10all right and that's what you need to
08:11practice don't become emotional okay you
08:14cannot be dominant if you're emotional
08:15if other people are able to get to you
08:17affect you upset you okay make you angry
08:20make you sad make you cry you're not
08:23gonna be very dominant a very dominant
08:25person is someone who has enough
08:27strength enough force of their own will
08:29that they're not going to let emotions
08:32change that all right this is very much
08:35the the core of stoic philosophy
08:37something I teach on this channel is
08:38being stoic okay it's being to the point
08:41where you know regardless you might feel
08:42something but you're not gonna let those
08:44feelings take ahold of you and change
08:46your actions right you're acting despite
08:48whatever the feeling is okay and so this
08:51is going to appear in a lot of a lot of
08:54interactions that you have
08:55with other men okay with women
08:56especially because they're gonna try it
08:58they're gonna do shit okay they're gonna
09:00they're gonna say stuff they're gonna be
09:03bitchy they're gonna do things that are
09:05going to get to you but you can't let it
09:07get to you can't go all emotional you
09:09can't get all upset you can't get all
09:10angry instead you've got to be very
09:12focused and clear on what you want
09:14sometimes you have to walk away from
09:16situations okay it doesn't mean that you
09:17don't feel emotions but it means you
09:19don't let the motions get the best of
09:20you and change your actions make eye
09:22contact dominant person makes eye
09:24contact okay make Chi keep eye contact
09:27strong eye contact again it's one of
09:29those things that can make people feel
09:30uncomfortable and make you feel
09:32uncomfortable but you have to be willing
09:34to do that to be able to willing to be
09:36uncomfortable and that's that's one of
09:39the key things about being dominant so
09:40you make very strong eye contact with
09:42people and then finally you know trust
09:44yourself okay this is this is just one
09:47of the key aspects of being more
09:50dominant is that you have a level of
09:53trust of confidence in your own
09:55confidence that you're going to take
09:57action you're going to be able to make
09:58those decisions okay you're gonna not be
10:00polite you're gonna express your desires
10:02all of these things are basically
10:03packaged into the idea that you trust
10:06yourself you trust your competence and
10:08you trust that you're capable you trust
10:10your decision-making process then you go
10:12with it right you're not looking for
10:13some other Authority or someone else to
10:15help you out or someone else to tell you
10:16you're basically bearing the
10:18responsibility and saying let you know
10:19what I'm the one that's got to leave
10:21this tribe to safety I'm the one that's
10:23gonna make this shit happen tonight no
10:25one else is gonna do this no one else is
10:26gonna bail me out I have trust in myself
10:28and when you have that trust in yourself
10:30when you believe that you know what
10:33you're doing is the right thing
10:34okay then other people are gonna follow
10:36you and that's and that's really you
10:39know the key to dominance all right guys
10:40that's all I have for you today click
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