00:00in this video we're gonna be talking
00:01about explaining yourself
00:03and I want to talk about whether or not
00:05you need to be concise into the point if
00:07that is actually an alpha male trait or
00:09not and what should you be doing how can
00:12you become more concise how can you
00:14become more to the point and not explain
00:17yourself in your conversation especially
00:20in your conversations with women
00:21especially in regards to your actions
00:26I'm John from Bulldog mindset calm on
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00:33independence how to get the physique you
00:35want how to get the girls that you want
00:36and how to go from the victim mindset to
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00:43button here's what we're dealing with
00:45I've talked about in many videos the
00:47idea that you should never complain or
00:49explain it's actually a Benjamin
00:51Disraeli quote but I add to that
00:54apologize and apologize is actually so
00:57important today in the social justice
00:59warrior cancel culture but let's talk
01:02about the explanation point because
01:04explaining is a really interesting thing
01:07hey John are you not explaining to us
01:10right now in some regards I am but
01:12remember vocabulary is very important
01:14the context determines the meaning of a
01:17word and it's two different things to
01:20explain something as I'm explaining now
01:23so that you can understand the thing and
01:25it's another thing to explain something
01:28to explain your actions hey John
01:33guys learn how to spell John Jo HN it's
01:37pretty simple I hope this is still the
01:39best way to ask you questions for videos
01:41I'll keep it very brief as that what the
01:44question is about being brief concise
01:46and to the point is now at rate is it
01:48though really what I would say is that
01:50it's more about being direct not trying
01:55to be careful to not step on toes now
01:58there's some amount of diplomacy in
02:00tactfulness that's necessary to bring
02:03this to bear but being an alpha is about
02:06not being apologetic about what you want
02:09what you're requesting what you're
02:11saying my problem is
02:13I'm over explaining myself over thinking
02:16in over complicating things now that
02:18that is a problem there okay what can be
02:21said in few words or sentences I keep
02:23adding on to and over explaining first
02:25of all it's not attractive in ruins
02:27respect but also it gets me even more
02:29confused with what I'm saying and makes
02:31the message list impacts and that's true
02:33right there's a science there's an art
02:35and a science to this to being able to
02:38say things and have them be impactful
02:41and to be concise in your language but
02:44what you'll find is that you're gonna be
02:48more concise and not over explaining
02:52things when you do it in writing writing
02:54is really the medium for this in general
02:57conversation unless you have articulated
03:00a point already many times it's going to
03:03be very difficult to be precise and
03:05concise the best thing that you can do
03:08is what you might see me practicing in
03:11this video if we don't have too many
03:13jump cuts which is that I pause right
03:17you don't hear me say I'm very much you
03:19can see even in unedited footage
03:20sometimes I do depends on my mood and my
03:24consciousness of my speaking but one tip
03:28I can give you to make you be more
03:30precise and concise is to not drone on
03:33if you can pause think about what you're
03:36gonna say and then say that thing you're
03:40gonna be more precise you're gonna be
03:42more concise and you're gonna sound a
03:44lot better and it's gonna sound a lot
03:46more like something that people could
03:48respect there's a lot of Elms there's a
03:51lot of confused speech because they're
03:53stringing things together very rapidly
03:55without knowing exactly what they're
03:57saying and you hear a lot of arms in
03:59that conversation and it does seem like
04:03they're coming from an inferior position
04:05when that happens it's really being
04:08precise with your language having things
04:11well thought-out ahead of time when you
04:13discuss them being willing to slow down
04:16and pause is probably the biggest thing
04:19because that gives you time to think it
04:22stops you from saying um and it allows
04:26you also the process
04:27what you just said sometimes if you're
04:29just dabbing and blabbing blabbing on
04:31then you don't get to process it so I'd
04:33say that and then as far as the
04:35explaining yourself is to make sure that
04:37you do not explain yourself for your
04:40actions called justifying your actions
04:42if you want to do something or you say
04:44something let it be that you don't have
04:48to give an explanation don't give an
04:50explanation just ignore that statement
04:54if you choose or you can almost say that
04:59because I want to you can just reiterate
05:02the statement one more time exactly what
05:04you said but you don't have to explain
05:06yourself or you can give a very short
05:07answer to that question that's not
05:10really an explanation that is what's
05:12going to keep your language and your
05:14speech more concise but more importantly
05:16than that that is what's going to
05:17command more respect and be more of an
05:19alpha trait and the reason behind this
05:20has nothing to do with being a macho
05:23macho man who eats man which is in
05:27nachos it has everything to do with the
05:32idea that you are able to be in an
05:38uncomfortable situation that it doesn't
05:40matter if someone wants an explanation
05:43for you you don't feel like you have to
05:45give it you don't have to get validation
05:46from them you can sit in that
05:48uncomfortable spot and you can choose to
05:53be uncomfortable there you don't have to
05:54make everything smooth and happy and
05:57everyone love you you can allow someone
06:00to be upset that you're not explaining
06:02to them that's how it is and if you can
06:05do that in your speech it doesn't really
06:07matter if it's concise it will be more
06:10concise because you'll be more direct
06:12but it will be unapologetic and that is
06:16the key is being unapologetic is what
06:19you're after if you haven't already
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06:23that's all I got for you today I will
06:25talk to you next time take care
