00:00welcome back everyone Mariah here and
00:02this is the beginning of more of my
00:04podcast Style videos which I am super
00:08excited to start so let's just hope that
00:11I could be consistent with it I may even
00:13consider posting these across podcast
00:16platforms but we shall see because I
00:18have a lot going on in my life but what
00:21I'm super excited to discuss over the
00:24next few months is different topics such
00:28as today's video which is going be
00:30really really fun is going in more depth
00:34on as females understanding our cycle
00:38and being aware of what's happening in
00:40our bodies and specifically I'm going to
00:44be talking about ovulation because
00:46ovulation is a powerful power powerful
00:49powerful thing but it's also important
00:52that we have awareness during this time
00:54and so I'm going to be going uh in depth
00:57on a story of something that happened
01:00a little bit less than a year ago on
01:02when I realized like wow I was only into
01:05that guy because I was ovulating and as
01:09soon as I was not ovulating I was like
01:11not into him at all I learned so much in
01:14that process of like okay like maybe I
01:17shouldn't like make the first move if
01:20I'm ovulating to like ask a guy to hang
01:23out and so I'm going to be going through
01:25a story time today and just getting more
01:27into ovulation our Cycles how to
01:30maximize them what I personally do to
01:33like avoid a ton of really negative PMS
01:37symptoms what's worked for me and what's
01:39not worked for me I've even thrown in
01:42there some seed cycling and um yeah
01:45really looking forward to sharing that
01:48with you guys today so I feel like
01:51actually I want to start there I want to
01:52start with what I have done to make my
01:54cycle easier to handle what has worked
01:57for me and what has not worked for me so
01:59seed cycling I would say I tried it for
02:02approximately a month and a half to 2
02:04months I don't think that's enough time
02:06to give it a fair shot but what I do
02:08want to tell you is that um I found my
02:11cycle to actually change when I started
02:14seed cycling so usually day one would be
02:16the toughest and then it would turn out
02:19to be day three was the toughest and I
02:23felt like I couldn't really well my
02:25cycle timing was the same but in terms
02:28of how each day played out and like the
02:31heaviness of each day changed actually
02:34quite a bit so that was like really
02:36strange because my cycle has been so
02:38consistent for so many years it got to
02:40the point where I practiced intuitive
02:43eating and when it came to seed cycling
02:46I just wasn't like craving the seeds
02:49that I was supposed to eat like it felt
02:51like a chore it felt like a drag why
02:53does ground flaxy tastes like bananas I
02:56don't really like bananas I was putting
03:00and I think that if I redesigned how I
03:03consumed them if I made like more barlik
03:06snacks that it would be easier for me to
03:08consume because then I also got
03:09disgusted with Greek yogurt for a while
03:12there and so that's how I was consuming
03:13the seeds there's also a lot of debate
03:15on like overc consuming seeds and that
03:19like the way we consume flax seeds is
03:21super unrealistic of like how nature is
03:24designed in terms of like the
03:25accessibility of flax seed so I kind of
03:28rethought that whole situ situation um
03:31for me I think the number one thing that
03:35I have done that has made the most
03:37positive impact is consuming liquid iron
03:40the week leading up to my cycle listen
03:43I'm not really sure if liquid iron is
03:45super good for us and how our body
03:47actually consumes it but I will link
03:50down below the liquid iron that I
03:52consumed and so I started consuming
03:55liquid iron it tasted terrible I started
03:58realizing that if if I basically had it
04:01the week leading up to the day I started
04:04bleeding that actually it didn't really
04:06taste as bad I didn't feel like I needed
04:08to drink water to wash it down and so I
04:11started only taking liquid iron the 7
04:14days prior to starting my cycle what I
04:16noticed was that it was easier to
04:17consume not as disgusting one and two
04:20wow my PMS symptoms which is typically
04:25uh one of the days I am super tired
04:28super low energy need to sleep my entire
04:32body starts cramping those symptoms
04:36significantly and so I've also just
04:39taken a point to really be easy on
04:44myself um and my energy levels around
04:46that time I think it's so easy to be
04:48like mad at ourselves we're not like
04:50working hard and being super energized
04:52and energetic like I know when I'm about
04:55to start my cycle I know that I get
04:57tired I don't want to do anything I just
04:59kind of want to have a lazy zero day and
05:02like I'm okay with that I give myself
05:04permission to do that I don't guilt
05:05myself and I definitely don't make
05:07myself feel guilty for leaning into it
05:09it just goes back to listening to our
05:11bodies and giving our bodies what they
05:13need in that moment um yeah those are
05:16the things that I have done when it has
05:18come to my cycle that I feel like have
05:22impactful uh I recently learned that
05:25it's hard for our bodies to absorb iron
05:28I know I feel like a lot of us are iron
05:30deficient it's hard for our bodies to
05:32absorb iron um if we don't have enough
05:35calcium and so um I was going through my
05:38chronometer app which I do not track my
05:40food regularly but I'll use it as a tool
05:42to like check the nutrient density of
05:45foods and so I put in there um like the
05:50different types of beef that I was
05:51consuming I'm like oh I got plenty of
05:53iron but I realized not always so much
05:56uh calcium so I realized a ton of
05:59calcium and cauliflower rice which I
06:00love and I have been implementing more
06:02so adding that into it um will hopefully
06:06help with the absorption of iron i' I'm
06:09someone that like I get denied half the
06:11times that I've tried that I try to
06:12donate blood because of my iron
06:15deficiency so I do believe because I
06:18used to have restless leg syndrome like
06:20really bad and then once I amped up my
06:23iron intake it really went away um which
06:26restless leg syndrome is like you feel
06:28like you have anxiety and your legs when
06:29you're trying to sleep at night it's
06:31really really strange but the liquid
06:33iron solved that for me I'm someone
06:37that's always consumed a lot of protein
06:40red meat specifically and even in that
06:42case I feel like I have a hard
06:44time maintaining the correct iron levels
06:48so that's what I've done there that's
06:50what I've done that has worked and not
06:52really worked so well for me and so now
06:54I want to get into a really funny story
06:56when it surrounds ovulation so there's
07:00four phases of our cycle and ovulation
07:04is when we are Peak fertile so you
07:07should definitely be tracking your cycle
07:09you should know exactly where you're at
07:11um there's four phases um I still
07:15sometimes have a heart time remembering
07:16which is which but ovulation ovulation I
07:19believe lasts approximately 5 days so I
07:22use the Flow app and it'll basically
07:24tell you like your Peak ovulation day
07:27you'll typically notice yourself well
07:30this is what I notice Let me just speak
07:31for myself here for a moment so what I
07:33notice is I'm typically when I'm
07:37ovulating so day 11 through 15 is
07:40ovulation should be a time where we're
07:45follow um Dr Mindy who does a really
07:48great job when it comes to like talking
07:51about fasting and keto and um timing
07:53your Cycles whether you're like Prem
07:58postmenopausal Perry menopausal I'm not
08:00too familiar with those things but I
08:02better start learning as I mean symptoms
08:06could start starting in your early 40s
08:08I'm like oh my God I'm 10 years away
08:09from that like the problem with our body
08:12is constantly changing is like oh I'm
08:13going to get down like exactly like the
08:15food and everything I need to be like
08:17functioning optimally and then bam
08:19hormones change and you got to start got
08:21to start from zero again and um
08:24retesting everything to see what works
08:26best for you so day 11 through 15 is
08:28ovulation she recommends that you
08:30shouldn't be fasting more than 15 hours
08:33and the food that you should be
08:34consuming is hormone feasting so what's
08:37really cool here is that she has the
08:39power of fasting and your cycle and how
08:42day 1 through 10 um should be 13 to 72h
08:46hour fast uh ovulation should only be 13
08:50to 15 hour fast power phase day 16 to 19
08:5413 to 72-hour fast and day 20 until you
08:57start bleeding should be no fasting at
08:59all at all so ovulation I always notice
09:02myself like wow I have such way more of
09:05a desire to like go out and be social
09:09and um cuz I mean the older I get the
09:12more introverted I get which oh God I
09:14love being introverted like it just I
09:16just love leaning into my
09:17introvertedness but I noticed myself
09:19like with a little bit more of a desire
09:21to be out and about to go out to
09:25socialize and I notice oh my gosh my
09:32ovulating off the charts it's like I I
09:37feel like I run circles around people
09:39like productivity wise when I'm
09:41ovulating and I am like the amount that
09:44I get accomplished during the days I'm
09:46ovulating is phenomenal so I want to
09:49tell a story and this is really
09:51important awareness to have as
09:53females and basically this is these are
09:57some things that you can consider you
09:58can learn a lot from this particular
10:00story in Puerto Rico there's all these
10:01Facebook groups and someone had posted
10:04something that they needed and they
10:05wrote out it so detailed what they
10:07needed and as someone who has a really
10:09hard time I would say I I kind of
10:11struggle expressing my needs and I'm
10:14definitely not a detailed person I was
10:16kind of like laughing at this post
10:18because of how detailed it was and I was
10:20like reading it to my friend and I
10:21thought it was hilarious but she was
10:22just like I don't really get like this
10:23is funny and I'm like it was just funny
10:25to me like how detailed someone could be
10:28about expressing their needs funny to me
10:30so Puerto Rico is a very small island
10:33I'm walking like I think it was the next
10:35day but maybe two or three days later
10:38and by what the person wrote the needs
10:40that they were expressing and what I saw
10:42like Oh shoot that's that's the person
10:45that I was like kind of bagging that
10:47wrote that post in the Facebook group so
10:50like I'm approaching and I I'm pretty
10:52sure I'm like about to text my friend to
10:53tell her oh my gosh she'll never see who
10:55I saw out in the streets as the person
10:58approaches me like oh hey you're Mariah
11:00monetized and I'm like no freaking way
11:03so I mean it does happen in Puerto Rico
11:06frequently people do recognize me from
11:08YouTube because there's not a lot of
11:09people that make videos about Puerto
11:11Rico that live in Puerto Rico and it's
11:13just a very small island so we get to
11:17chatting we figure out that he has
11:19reached out to me before I did I think
11:23email and I did something that I
11:30I kind of sort of made a first move and
11:34I initiated hanging out which is so not
11:38common for me I really never have the
11:40desire and so we hang out a couple times
11:44you know it's good we're having a good
11:46time we're having really in-depth
11:48conversations it's really amazing how
11:50with some people it's like it takes
11:52forever or you never really reach like
11:54in-depth conversations like how surface
11:57level it can be and then some people
11:58it's just like all right right the first
11:593 minutes like we're going deep like we
12:01were having some very important serious
12:03conversations and that's how it was and
12:05that was something that I really enjoyed
12:07that like was nice and so I start to
12:12learn more about this person there's
12:13definitely some red flags including like
12:16oh there's nothing worse nothing worse
12:21like a guy will make a comment about how
12:25like you're too good for them I'm almost
12:27willing to say that as soon as some
12:29someone makes a point that you're too
12:32good for them when someone tells you who
12:34they are believe them it might be time
12:38situation but I might with everything I
12:41say I might always be willing to exit a
12:43little bit too soon just because I have
12:45like such little tolerance for
12:47these days definitely a red flag like
12:49you just I can never unsee when a dude
12:52puts me on a pedestal and tells me that
12:54I'm like that they're not good enough
12:56and he made that comment in a financial
12:59and I'm like all right well listen I'm
13:00like I'm not going to be shallow like if
13:02he's a good person and like we're a good
13:04match then we can continue like I'm not
13:06I'm am I going to support you absolutely
13:09not will I ever support a man absolutely
13:11not but am I Contin willing to be open
13:15to continuing spending time together
13:16yeah sure no problem so then it kind of
13:19came down to like I was still so
13:22surprised that I was like the first to
13:24initiate and then the attraction started
13:28fading fast fast and I'm not sure I mean
13:31obviously him making that comment could
13:32have been part of it but then there were
13:34some other red flags of some things that
13:36were being said that I'm just like the
13:40ethics here the ethics might not be
13:43there for me like it's super important
13:45obviously that like the person that
13:46you're with you find them to be an
13:48ethical individual I started seeing some
13:50Flags there as I'm also realizing that
13:52I'm often times attracting energy
13:56suckers into my life why do I keep
13:59attracting energy suckers energy
14:02vampires is what we should call them so
14:05I'm starting to realize like what the f
14:07is wrong with me like I am attracting
14:10people that just want to take and take
14:13and take and then like there's nothing
14:16worse than when like a guy asked you on
14:18a date and you could be fine sitting at
14:21home by yourself but you're nice and you
14:25decide to go and you're like I
14:28don't I really didn't super want to go
14:30but yeah I'll go I'll try it out and
14:34like let's split the bill and you're
14:38like huh I didn't really want to come
14:40here in the first place and now I'm
14:42paying for half or sometimes you get
14:44caught up paying for
14:48flag so um but that's just like a huge
14:52debate when it comes to like I don't
14:54know paying for things I just I always
14:56frequently go back to like how how
14:59easily and willingly I am to treat my
15:01friends and how much I enjoy that and
15:07when a dude like wants you to pay but
15:11like I said there's so many components
15:13to that conversation maybe a definitely
15:15a conversation for another day I'm
15:17starting to lose attraction and I'm just
15:19like wow how was I like so into it on
15:22that first day when I initiated for us
15:23to hang out and then now I'm at this
15:25place where I'm like what did I see like
15:30what so then I go back to the day that I
15:34contact and what do I see on my calendar
15:43ovulation it doesn't matter who was in
15:45front of me I was going to want to
15:50socialize and be around them it's not I
15:53didn't even like it's not even like
15:55there was a hookup or anything like that
15:58it wasn't like I was just like trying to
16:00get it in it was not that at all it was
16:05just like the social component and the
16:07bravery and me just being like I
16:12aggressive but taking initiative and I'm
16:15like oh my gosh this is all making so
16:19much sense so what is the point of what
16:22I'm saying here the point of what I'm
16:24saying is a few things you're
16:27ovulating and you're really into this
16:29guy are you still into him when you're
16:31not ovulating anymore because let me
16:33tell you what you're only ovulating 5
16:35days out of the month so if you're only
16:39into him five days out of the month it's
16:43not going to work I mean I can't imagine
16:46being with someone that you're only into
16:495 days out of the month you have to ask
16:51yourself am I into this person like
16:54Whole 30 days out of the month am I so
16:56attracted to them and so into them that
16:57I'm into them 30 days out of the month
17:00because anytime that like I I find
17:03myself interested I look at my calendar
17:05am I ovulating because I got to check
17:07back in when I'm not ovulating anymore
17:09so don't waste your time with someone
17:11that you're only into five days out of
17:13the month you got to be into them all
17:15the time cuz then it's just like o
17:19point so I think what I'm trying to say
17:22here is just to have some more awareness
17:25around more awareness around
17:29you're when you're attracted and how
17:33that correlates with ovulation so I mean
17:37next time you're ovulating be aware
17:39right be like like you'll this is what I
17:41find myself doing sometimes I'm like huh
17:44wow there's a lot of really attractive
17:46people out on the streets today why is
17:50why does this feel like everyone's so
17:51much more attractive today ah I see it's
17:55because I'm ovulating like the world is
17:58looks differently when you're ovulating
18:01and you really have to be aware of that
18:04because because you can't be making bad
18:07decisions just because you're ovulating
18:10you have to have some awareness once you
18:12tap into this once you create that
18:14awareness around when you're ovulating
18:17it'll it'll add so much Clarity to your
18:20life it'll be absolutely ridiculous how
18:23much Clarity it adds the moral of the
18:25story is make sure that you're still
18:28into someone when you're not ovulating
18:32anymore because you're going to get
18:35yourself caught up in some situations so
18:37what ended up happening with that
18:39person typically never share stuff like
18:41this on the internet but it got to the
18:43point where I was just
18:45like zero attraction zero interest I
18:49made that very clear with my not
18:52returning of the phone calls taking
18:53forever to respond to text
18:55messages um I thought I made it pretty
18:58clear with without having to make it
19:00clear super immature of me to just I
19:03should have been straight up I mean he
19:04expressed his interest I should have
19:06been straight up and been like Hey
19:07listen like I'm not interested anymore
19:10but instead I just didn't say anything
19:13because like that's kind of how I am
19:16like I mean in a more in a more extreme
19:18case you know like my kind of theme
19:20lately is like um if you treat me like
19:23I'm nothing I'll become nothing to you
19:26someone doesn't really show me the same
19:31matched energy back okay I understand
19:35I'm not a priority in your life that's
19:37not where we're at I will I'll back up
19:41no problem you know but in this case he
19:43wanted an explanation and I said Hey
19:46listen I'm sorry that I didn't make this
19:49clear sooner but I'm not interested but
19:53if you'd like to be friends I'm open to
19:55that he said nope can't be friends and
19:59then I said okay I respect that I
20:03understand and then he said wait hold on
20:07I would regret it if I didn't do this
20:09please like give me one last shot an
20:12opportunity um I said I'm sorry but no
20:17I've made up my decision like I will
20:20rarely return back on a decision that I
20:22make like when I make a tough decision
20:25there's just no turning back I made that
20:27decision because I was very sure about
20:29so I said hey you said that we couldn't
20:33be friends I understand I respect
20:37that and this is when I knew I made the
20:42like I knew I made the best decision
20:45when I was I think it was 10 days
20:49later in one one message not even
20:53separated hey I something about I
20:56changed my mind I want to be friends one
21:00line break the next few
21:06trying to get a business deal out of
21:11me first of all my friendship is not an
21:16switch when you turn that switch off the
21:20light is off for good it's really
21:24interesting how people think that they
21:26could just be like yeah we're friends
21:29and the next day uh no we're not and
21:32then one to like yeah I want to be
21:37no like I'm just looking at a light
21:40switch right now and I'm like you really
21:42think that my friendship is an on and
21:45off switch absolutely not you know I
21:49must say that there's it happens to me
21:52frequently when people want to turn the
21:54switch off and they think that they
21:57could turn it back on
22:00oneway switch if you turn the switch off
22:04it will not turn back on and it's
22:07incredible that people think that it
22:11just can go back and forth on and off on
22:13and off no when it's off it's
22:17permanently off and I've had this happen
22:19to me many many times in my life it's
22:21actually really interesting I ignored
22:23that message because I was like oh now
22:25you're trying to use me and once again I
22:26had to go back to like why am I
22:28attracting users in my life way too many
22:31users and then the messages kept coming
22:34and I'm like oh I got to block both
22:37numbers yeah it's hard to trust people
22:40with two numbers these days and
22:43so if someone ever turns off the switch
22:48friendship I'm sorry that's my rule but
22:51it does not get turned back on and if I
22:55ever turned the switch off of a
22:57friendship I first of all would never
23:00try to turn it back on I've never once
23:02been like I made a mistake because to
23:05make that big of a decision of course I
23:07thought it very thought it through very
23:11very thoroughly that is all that I have
23:13today when it comes to ovulation through
23:16a little bit of friendship in there
23:18through a little bit of what works and
23:19doesn't work for me to maintain my PMS
23:23symptoms I heard something so
23:25interesting yesterday it was
23:29the basically your your PMS symptoms I
23:32believe is like a report card of how you
23:34treated your body 100 days ago because
23:35that's when the follicule is being
23:38produced created something like that
23:40like ah super interesting so our Cycles
23:43are a little bit of a report card of how
23:45we're treating ourselves so I hope that
23:47you found this video
23:49helpful and why has no one ever talked
23:52about this before the importance of
23:53seeing where you are in your cycle and
23:55your attractiveness to
23:57someone one thing I didn't go over
23:59because I don't really have enough I
24:02don't have enough I don't have
24:05any personal um I don't have any
24:09personal experiences with it is birth
24:12control but that really complicates
24:16things because in that case you're never
24:19ovulating right you're basically sending
24:21a signal to your brain to not ovulate is
24:23I believe how it works I know that I
24:26believe that's traditional birth control
24:28I there's so many different kinds of
24:29birth controls but there's also a ton of
24:32control people think that that's
24:34actually a huge reason why people get
24:36divorced is because it changes who
24:38you're attracted to so I think that
24:40being on birth control actually makes
24:42you more attracted to your family
24:44members yeah weird super weird so it
24:49changes who you're attracted to so
24:51basically there's this theory that like
24:53a lot of women will meet a man it's
24:56actually goes vice versa like as a
24:57female who you're Ed to and as a male um
25:00males I they they've done studies on
25:02males and it changes who they're
25:04attracted to or how they're attracted to
25:06I think the same people on and off birth
25:08control so what happens is you meet
25:11someone you're on birth control you're
25:13into them they're into you and then you
25:14stop using birth control because you
25:17want to have children maybe or you just
25:19stop in general and you're not attracted
25:21to them they're no longer attracted to
25:23you so it changes who you're attracted
25:27to and then how how men find you
25:29attractive which is so
25:32Fascinating People think that's a huge
25:34reason why the divorce rate is so high
25:36so that's all that I have for you today
25:39go out there and create a life that you
25:41love that you enjoy super excited to
25:44talk about more things that
25:47are um connected with creating a life
25:50that we love but more in-depth things I
25:52just want to talk about these things
25:53that I've never heard before on other
25:55podcasts and that topics that super
25:58fascinate me that could add so much
26:00value and really help us create that
26:01life that we love so see you next time