The Toxic Boy Mom Epidemic

RayLikeSunshine2023-12-16

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💫 Short Summary

The video discusses the trend of 'toxic boy moms' on platforms like TikTok, where mothers base their entire personalities on having sons and perpetuate gender stereotypes. The video highlights examples of this behavior, such as mothers teaching their sons to cook to impress future partners. The creator emphasizes that the video is meant as satire and not an attack on individual mothers. the video criticizes the trend of wanting to be a 'boy mom' and features examples of inappropriate and concerning behavior from some mothers, suggesting that they should seek therapy if they have strong preferences for the gender of their children. It also highlights the importance of not fantasizing about your children and avoiding becoming a 'boy mom.'

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📊 Transcript

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The video criticizes the trend of 'toxic boy moms' on TikTok, who focus on their sons and have deep-seated insecurities that they project onto their children.

00:00

Toxic boy moms use their children, specifically their sons, for external validation.

There is a trend among boy mom content creators to teach their sons how to cook, not for survival skills, but to impress future partners.

The video highlights a clip of a mom expressing competition with her future daughter-in-law and implies that she is insecure about her son's potential partner.

The implication that boys don't pick spouses based on cooking skills, but on the influence the marriage can have on their political opponents, is a satirical critique.

The video humorously suggests that the mom's confidence in teaching is low, as evidenced by the comment on the difficult wire-cutting task for her son.

The stereotype of boy moms having messy sons and doing laundry piles is mentioned, with a sarcastic comment about girls only having new clothes and no laundry.

The video questions why these behaviors are exclusive to boy moms and suggests it perpetuates predetermined gender norms.

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The video mentions that 'toxic boy mom' content is not meant to be an attack on specific individuals, but rather a commentary on a trend in parenting.

02:41

Anna Jolie, a popular family TikToker, is mentioned as an example of a toxic boy mom, but the video clarifies that it's not meant to be an attack on her.

The video acknowledges that the mother in these cases is both the perpetrator and a victim of societal pressures.

The video notes that Anna Jolie has toned down the toxic boy mom content, and the mention of her is not an invitation to harass her.

The segment labeled 'POV: You're a toxic boy mom' is identified as satire and staged, not intended to be taken seriously.

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Daughter confronts mom about a TikTok video that made her feel overshadowed by her brother.

07:00

Daughter expresses her feelings about the TikTok video where the punchline is that she likes her brother better.

Mom apologizes for the impact the video may have had on her daughter's mental well-being.

Daughter feels validated and still prefers her brother.

Mom expresses concern about favoritism towards her son.

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Mom acknowledges her son's problematic behavior but dismisses it as him having a hard day.

08:00

Mom acknowledges that her son hits and punches his sisters.

She dismisses it as him having a hard day, which the speaker finds irresponsible.

The speaker criticizes the lesson being taught to her son about taking out his bad day on family members.

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The video addresses the impact of favoring a specific gender on parenting and urges people with strong gender preferences to consider therapy.

09:00

The speaker mentions the post about wanting to be a 'boy mom' and the potential impact on parenting.

She advises people with strong gender preferences to consider therapy.

A list of things to avoid becoming a boy mom is mentioned, with the main point being not to fantasize about your children.

00:00 we're boy moms we've definitely painted

00:02 our sons rooms blue before they were

00:03 even born we're boy moms we definitely

00:07 let our children know that we like the

00:08 boys a lot better than the girls Deborah

00:11 what you're not supposed to say that

00:13 what am I supposed to say you're

00:15 supposed to never mind let's just try

00:17 again we're boy moms we were super

00:19 insecure about how men thought about us

00:20 when we were younger and now we latched

00:22 those insecurities on to our children

00:24 Deborah what the hell what the hell was

00:26 that what I do now you okay [ __ ] it let

00:30 let's do this one more time we're boy

00:32 moms we want to [ __ ] our sons I'm

00:34 calling the

00:36 police welcome back to the light side of

00:39 the internet ladies and gents it is my

00:41 extreme displeasure to announce that the

00:43 pikm girls grew up and had kids there

00:45 has been a growing wave of creators on

00:47 your favorite short form content

00:49 platforms not you Instagram reals get

00:51 the [ __ ] out of mothers who tie their

00:53 entire personalities on the fact that

00:55 they have sons you could say that this

00:57 toxic boy mom trend is a Tik Tock

00:59 disease disease uh plague in epidemic

01:03 it's Tik tok's toxic boy mom epidemic

01:05 wow oh my God video no way now boy moms

01:09 are not to be confused with moms with

01:11 boys just like how girls with guy

01:13 friends aren't to be confused with pikme

01:15 girls and there is a key difference

01:17 between boy moms and pikm girls whereas

01:19 pikm girls have deep-seated insecurities

01:21 that cause them to seek out men for

01:23 external validation boy moms have

01:25 deep-seated insecurities that cause them

01:27 to seek their children for external

01:29 validation insecurities that they'll

01:31 probably inevitably pass on to their

01:33 children boy moms using their children

01:35 as emotional crutches is kind of like a

01:37 runner handing off a baton to a teammate

01:40 except instead of a baton it's a bomb

01:43 and instead of their

01:44 teammate it's their children okay time's

01:48 ticking I need you to first cut the

01:50 circle-shaped

01:51 wire great now cut the wire that looks

01:54 like a plus

01:56 sign last one cut the wire that looks

01:59 like a Le Andra

02:01 symbol oh no no no no he's only five he

02:04 hasn't learned about quadratic

02:06 reciprocity yet God help us all before

02:09 we get into the really heavy stuff

02:11 though I just want to keep this

02:12 light-hearted and show you some high

02:14 school

02:19 love a isn't High School love just so

02:22 cute what if I told you that was his mom

02:24 is it still cute do you think it's still

02:27 cute you can almost feel the pck me

02:29 energy in this clip and I don't think

02:30 you need to be Darwin to see the pikme

02:32 girl to boy mom

02:37[Music]

02:39 Evolution speaking of Darwin do you know

02:41 what Darwin and boy moms have in common

02:43 it starts with i and rhymes with incest

02:46 this is giving I'm going to wear a white

02:48 dress to my son's wedding this is giving

02:50 I'm going to have a really tenuous

02:52 relationship with my daughter-in-law the

02:53 one thing this isn't giving is the O and

02:56 edus because that o is silent unlike the

02:58 O that came out of my mouth when I first

03:00 saw this and I really do mean it with

03:02 these mother and daughter-in-law

03:03 rivalries there's this trend with a lot

03:05 of these boy mom content creators where

03:07 they make a point to teach their sons

03:09 how to cook not to have basic survival

03:12 skills but to help them avoid cooties

03:14 making sure my son can cook so he's not

03:17 impressed by your daughter's stuffers

03:19 lasagna which seems counterintuitive to

03:21 me because last I heard being

03:24 self-sufficient and able to cook is

03:26 actually a turn on for women and as far

03:29 as I know boys don't really pick their

03:31 spouses on what cooking skills they have

03:33 they pick their spouses based on the

03:35 influence that the marriage can have on

03:36 their political opponents all right like

03:38 this is 1850 keep up with the times mon

03:41 turns out though that not only can this

03:44 mom teach your son how to cook she can

03:46 also teach us something if you go to her

03:48 website you can buy her course where

03:50 she'll teach you how to just sell the

03:53 course that you just

03:56 bought is it just me or is it a little

03:58 bit hard to breathe out up here yeah I

04:00 don't know kid my confidence in your

04:01 mom's ability to teach people things is

04:04 not high I think you're going to be

04:05 better off with that lasagna when you

04:07 suddenly remember your sons will go to

04:09 their wives family holidays cuz you're

04:11 the grandma on the dad's side crying

04:13 face emoji your daughter-in-law doesn't

04:15 want to spend Christmas with you color

04:17 me shocked dude I can't imagine why this

04:19 would happen you know it's it's it's

04:21 incalculable it's unfathomable it's just

04:23 so out of the blue it's such a tragedy

04:26 what can you have done what did you do

04:27 what did you do to deserve this what

04:29 could you have changed to prevent such a

04:31 travesty from happening eight signs

04:33 you're a boy mom you say get down

04:34 multiple times a day silence is

04:36 suspicious you don't blink when he jumps

04:38 off something you probably have a toy

04:39 car in your bag you've been peed on more

04:41 than once secondhand clothes only socks

04:44 everywhere but his feet you have a

04:45 bottomless laundry pile I love that the

04:47 implication here is that girls only have

04:50 new clothes aren't supposed to have toys

04:52 don't also have piles of laundry instead

04:55 girls should be issued one new uniform

04:57 for the year be checked for Contraband d

04:59 daily only be allowed outside for 30

05:01 minutes a day under supervision and not

05:04 be allowed to pee # boyom #m of boys #

05:08 moms of Tik Tok why are we gatekeeping

05:10 these exclusively for boy moms this just

05:13 sounds like normal things that parents

05:14 go through when they have toddlers

05:16 whether you have a boy or a girl I'm

05:18 genuinely curious to see what advice

05:20 they got when they learned they were

05:22 getting a boy to think that these are

05:23 exclusive if you have a boy make sure

05:25 they're able to play outside make sure

05:27 to do their laundry every day definitely

05:30 make sure to buy them extra socks as

05:31 well if you have a

05:34 girl don't it's almost as if these boy

05:37 moms have a preconditioned notion of how

05:39 each gender should behave and end up

05:41 corralling their children both

05:42 consciously and subconsciously towards

05:44 predetermined gender Norms established

05:46 by the patriarchy or maybe she just

05:48 wasn't good at potty training her kids I

05:50 don't know it's it's 50/50 I saw this

05:52 quote about what it feels like to be a

05:54 mother to a son that said your son

05:57 growing up will feel like the slowest

05:58 breakup you ever ever known no it

06:00 shouldn't it shouldn't feel like that

06:02 that's the wrong thing to feel in this

06:05 situation I have an idea why don't we

06:07 stop comparing our children to romantic

06:10 partners and of course the comments are

06:12 turned off she's probably just a Freud

06:13 of what people have to say now one of

06:15 the OG toxic moms on Tik Tok is Anna

06:18 Jolie who is a family Tik tocker with

06:20 about 240,000 followers her content

06:23 mainly focuses around her daily routines

06:25 as a mother of four but what she's

06:27 really known for is is this video I

06:30 never thought that I would be that toxic

06:32 boy mom I love my four kids equally but

06:34 that last little

06:36 boy just it's different now I I just

06:39 want to be clear this is not meant to be

06:41 an attack on Anna or her family and I

06:43 think in a lot of these cases the mother

06:46 is usually both the perpetrator and also

06:48 a victim so by no means is this an

06:50 invitation to go harass her in fact to

06:52 her credit she's actually toned down

06:54 this toxic boy mom content so I'm

06:56 probably being super nitpicky here but

06:58 I'm a commentary Channel if I don't pick

07:00 nits like I don't have a job also the

07:01 videos are still up so let free game POV

07:04 you're a toxic boy

07:07[Music]

07:12 mom so obviously this is satire and

07:15 staged anyone with a fully developed

07:17 brain will be able to understand that

07:18 this is a joke and it's not intended to

07:21 be serious can you guess who in this Tik

07:23 Tok doesn't have a fully developed brain

07:25 I'll give you a hint it's not this one

07:28 but let's give of the benefit of the

07:30 doubt and pretend it's a joke and that

07:32 everyone involved in the joke also 100%

07:35 understands that this is a

07:37 joke where's the funny part can you

07:40 please point to the funny part I'd

07:42 really love to see her try to explain

07:43 this to her kids in about 10 years hey

07:45 Mom I wanted to talk to you about

07:47 something I know this was posted almost

07:48 a decade ago but I guess I'm just

07:50 wondering what was funny about this oh I

07:53 remember this Tik Tok that was a funny

07:55 one the punchline is that I like your

07:58 brother better

08:01 oh wow I I'm so sorry honey I finally

08:04 realized that making you and your

08:05 sister's pose for this Tik Tok may have

08:07 really had an adverse effect on your

08:09 mental well-being during your highly

08:10 formative years and I am truly sorry for

08:13 that how thank you for saying that I

08:16 know it's something that I've been

08:17 processing and holding in for a long

08:19 time and hearing you apologize has

08:21 really made my feelings feel validated

08:23 and psych n dog he's still my favorite

08:27 anyways go make your brother a sandwich

08:29 get out of here and I really really wish

08:32 that that skit was a joke I love my four

08:34 kids equally but that last little

08:37 boy just tastes different and now I feel

08:41 like I'm having this existential crisis

08:43 War I wouldn't be that Mom that toxic

08:46 boy mom he hits his sisters he punches

08:49 them I'm like maybe he's having a hard

08:51 time out time out can we can we get a

08:53 playback on that he hits his sisters he

08:56 punches them I'm like maybe he's having

08:57 a hard day okay cool I thought I

08:59 misheard you the first time but

09:01 apparently I didn't that is probably the

09:03 most irresponsible and nonchalant way to

09:06 say hey do you know what's really quirky

09:09 and funny enabling your children to be

09:12 domestic abusers so when I think about

09:14 my daughters getting married I get

09:16 excited right stop curling your hair all

09:19 right the only thing you should be

09:20 curling is your fist into a ball and

09:22 that ball up

09:23 your and what's the lesson that's being

09:25 taught to her son here that if he has a

09:27 bad day he's okay to take it out on his

09:29 loved ones his family members not to

09:32 mention the effect that this will have

09:33 on his sisters and how it will impact

09:35 their perception of what healthy

09:37 masculinity is when I think about my

09:39 son's

09:40 wedding I want to cry I know what you're

09:43 thinking here I'm not going to make a

09:45 Freud joke I already made a Freud joke I

09:47 can't make two Freud jokes in one video

09:50 absolutely not all the comments are

09:51 already Freud jokes it's overused it's

09:53 it's overdone I unequivocally refuse to

09:57 make a Freud joke anyways let's look at

09:58 some other Tik toks in this N I want to

10:01 be a boy mom so bad now to be fair there

10:05 are plenty of posts that say I want to

10:07 be a girl mom so bad as well so this

10:09 post isn't necessarily a bad thing but

10:12 let's just get one thing clear if you

10:14 have a really strong preference to

10:17 either have a boy or a girl to the point

10:19 where it can affect your parenting

10:22 consider therapy Queen yeah I think

10:24 that's the lesson for the day just go to

10:26 therapy and if there any of you out

10:27 there who do have children who happen to

10:29 be boys here's a list of things you need

10:30 to know to avoid becoming a boy mom

10:33 number one don't fantasize about your

10:36 children that's it that's the list and

10:40 if you can't follow that don't have

10:42 children if you're still here thank you

10:43 so much for subscribing and a really big

10:46 thank you for over 700 subscribers now

10:48 all your wonderful and kind words are

10:50 greatly appreciated and I will see you

10:53 in the next one okay

10:58 bye

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💫 FAQs about This YouTube Video

1. What is the 'toxic boy mom' trend discussed in the video?

The video discusses the 'toxic boy mom' trend, where mothers excessively focus on their sons and express preferences for boys over girls, leading to the perpetuation of gender stereotypes and potential harm to both the mothers and their children.

2. How are 'boy moms' and 'pikme girls' different?

'Boy moms' are mothers who excessively focus on their sons, while 'pikme girls' are individuals with deep-seated insecurities who seek validation from men. The video highlights the difference between these two trends and their potential effects.

3. What are the potential consequences of the 'toxic boy mom' trend?

The potential consequences of the 'toxic boy mom' trend include the perpetuation of gender stereotypes, harm to both the mothers and their children, and the reinforcement of insecurity and validation-seeking behavior.

4. How does the 'toxic boy mom' trend contribute to the perpetuation of gender stereotypes?

The 'toxic boy mom' trend contributes to the perpetuation of gender stereotypes by excessively focusing on sons, expressing preferences for boys over girls, and potentially influencing the children's beliefs about gender roles and expectations.

5. What is the impact of the 'toxic boy mom' trend on children?

The 'toxic boy mom' trend can have a negative impact on children by potentially affecting their self-esteem, perpetuating gender stereotypes, and influencing their beliefs about gender roles and expectations.

6. What is the video about?

The video is a comedic skit where a mother apologizes to her daughter for the negative effects of a TikTok video, and discusses the problematic behavior of her son being favored for being a 'boy mom'.

7. What is the main theme of the video?

The main theme of the video is the portrayal of problematic parenting behavior, gender favoritism, and the potential impact on children's well-being.

8. How does the video address the issue of gender favoritism?

The video addresses gender favoritism through the portrayal of the mother's preference for her son, leading to negative effects on her daughter and perpetuating the 'boy mom' phenomenon.

9. What message does the video convey about parenting and its impact on children?

The video conveys a message about the importance of mindful and equitable parenting, highlighting the potential negative effects on children's well-being when gender favoritism and problematic behavior are exhibited.