00:00how do we make this year the best year
00:02of Our Lives we're already about 25%
00:04into 2024 the New Year's resolutions
00:07have woron off and maybe you're a bit of
00:09a slump like I have been so in this
00:11video I'm going to dive into my 30-day
00:13plan to build massive momentum for the
00:15rest of the year the biggest lessons
00:16I've learned last year that completely
00:18changed my outlook on life and most
00:20importantly how to set goals the right
00:21way to make this the best year of your
00:24life firstly I need to clear something
00:26up a lot of people thought I was
00:27quitting YouTube because the title
00:29sounded like I was and that maybe was
00:32intentional to make you curious and then
00:35also a bunch of creators featured me in
00:36their videos about why creators are
00:38quitting but in the video itself I
00:41simply said that I'm quitting the highly
00:43edited YouTube videos that I've been
00:44making and that I'm switching to
00:46podcasts from highly edited to simple
00:49style setting my studio that'll still be
00:51here on YouTube and also Spotify and
00:53that's the new era so I've been on a
00:542-month break getting distance from
00:57YouTube reflecting and just letting
00:59myself go I would sleep in until 9:00 or
01:0110:00 a.m. let my diet go and just
01:03invited a bunch of chaos into my life
01:05usually when I would say no to things I
01:06just said yes and I grew in a lot of
01:09areas that I have been neglecting for a
01:12while now that I'm back on YouTube back
01:14into the grind it's time for me to build
01:17some momentum again and maybe that's
01:18something that's relatable for you
01:20because maybe you felt this way at the
01:21end of the year you set these goals you
01:23had this vision for the Year this is the
01:24year where you're going to make things
01:25happen that's something that I always
01:27fall into it's like this is going to be
01:28the year I want to do everything right
01:31and then a few weeks later the momentum
01:33kind of wears off and here's the best
01:35way I know to get out of a slump and get
01:38back on track which is simply a 30-day
01:40Sprint the key of a 30-day Sprint is to
01:43dial in the habits again and really
01:45regulate your dopamine after you've
01:47fallen off you probably overc consumed
01:49on social media food that you don't want
01:52to be eating now I don't mean a crazy
01:55dopamine detox or monk mode where you
01:58have zero fun and you go David do style
02:00all the way I mean a sustainable way
02:02that you get back into the groove and
02:03something that you can do longterm where
02:05the key is that you do have fun but it's
02:08intentional when you're for example
02:10hanging out with friends or you're
02:11watching movies it's something that you
02:13intentionally choose to do rather than
02:14out of compulsive distraction and
02:16pleasure and so the first thing that I'm
02:18thinking about now getting back into the
02:19groove is simply regulating my dopamine
02:23again my diet has been completely off
02:24I've been getting up late and just yeah
02:27having low motivation for challenging
02:29things which is fine I really enjoyed
02:31this area of my life and I've grown in
02:33many ways that I haven't before because
02:37I've been nurturing parts of myself that
02:39have been neglected my inner child for
02:41example but now it's time to get into a
02:44Groove again the first thing that I'm
02:45thinking about is really the one habit
02:48that I need to knock everything else out
02:50of the park right we often times have
02:52these like five six 10 habits that like
02:54you have to do this 2hour morning
02:56routine for me it's really just only one
02:57thing that if I do that one thing
02:59everything else fall falls into place
03:00and I think we all have that when I
03:02limited my media consumption
03:04specifically social media movies
03:06anything with a screen or even just
03:08podcasts as well when I limited that and
03:09I was intentional about it the rest
03:11would fall into place and specifically
03:13not consuming anything before 1:00 p.m.
03:16where I just get my work done and I
03:18don't focus on anything else I have
03:19nothing to distract me and so out of
03:21boredom I just sit down and get stuff
03:23done so at 9:00 p.m. I would just turn
03:25off laptop phone put that away and then
03:27I would go to sleep on time and because
03:29I would go to sleep on time I would then
03:30get up on time and when I do that I just
03:32get into a groove of working out eating
03:35healthier meditating because I just
03:36overall feel better I have this space
03:38and Clarity and inner peace that
03:41normally I wouldn't have when I'm just
03:43compulsively checking my phone always
03:45distracting myself with some sort of
03:46input instead of just letting things
03:47breathe so how do you start the 30-day
03:49Sprint number one Define your Keystone
03:52habit what's the one thing that makes it
03:54super easy for you to do all the other
03:56things for me that's limiting screen
03:58time specifically right media
04:00consumption that also includes podcasts
04:02or just like always having some sort of
04:04stimulation in my tiny little ears and
04:07now that I've mentioned that I have tiny
04:08little ears maybe you can't unsee it so
04:11stop looking the second most important
04:13thing for me is the sleep schedule so
04:15just making sure that I go to bed on
04:17time and I wake up on time if I do that
04:19the rest will fall into place I don't
04:21need to tick off the The Daily
04:23journaling working out or 10,000 steps
04:25or whatnot like all these things fall
04:27into place when I just do that one thing
04:30and when I break that one thing when I
04:32do distract myself by just getting up
04:34and immediately scrolling the rest of
04:35the day is ruined and with the Keystone
04:37habit it's very easy to just track that
04:39you don't need a habit tracker with like
04:41five or six different habits where you
04:42need to take off every single thing
04:43every day but for me I just set up a
04:45Tracker Where I have that one habit
04:48maybe two where I limit mediate
04:50consumption and I track my sleep
04:52schedule to make sure I went to bed on
04:54time and I wake up on time and that's
04:56all I need to do and if those are ticked
04:58off I'm winning period once you know
05:00what your Keystone habit is the one
05:02thing that makes everything else fall
05:03into place build a system around it
05:05figure out some sort of way to protect
05:07that thing and make sure that gets
05:09ticked off the first thing that I look
05:10at is something that already gets me
05:12back 2 hours a day that normally I would
05:14have wasted and it's a very simple thing
05:17once I implement it my life changes I
05:19get back on track and that is simply
05:22removing Temptations I don't know who
05:25explained this but somewhere I picked it
05:26up that willpower is like a battery that
05:28just slowly drains over time and you
05:30have a limited amount per day if you for
05:32example have a cookie right in your
05:34pantry and you walk by it multiple times
05:36a day every time you have to resist that
05:38Temptation you're draining some of the
05:40willpower whereas if the cookie just
05:42wasn't there you wouldn't even be
05:44draining it for example I wanted to get
05:45back into just eating clean and then I
05:49get this sent to me which is the new
05:51Feast tables with like 10 bars in it and
05:54I was just like man I will not be able
05:57to resist that and if I will then I'm
05:59just draining my willpower so I gave it
06:02all away and the Temptation is gone and
06:04of course I didn't do that only after I
06:06ate three of them at once and then felt
06:08like throwing up same thing with ending
06:11a relationship where you know they want
06:12to remain friends right after they just
06:13broke up but man no contact for 6 months
06:17is crucial because when there's the
06:19option of backing out this is where you
06:21make it so hard for yourself where
06:22you're in this gray zone of like I'll
06:23try to that is way harder than just
06:26saying like no no more removing the
06:28temptation to even just see it it's
06:29almost like putting blinders on a horse
06:31the horse doesn't even get scared
06:32because it can't even see it throw out
06:34all the bad food don't get tempted block
06:36your apps and for social media
06:37specifically what I'm setting up is
06:39these app Locker systems specifically
06:42freedom.to and opal which is a phone app
06:45these are apps that I talked about in a
06:46previous video the video about over
06:48stimulation and I basically set up these
06:50apps so I can't go on certain websites
06:52until 1:00 p.m. for example I can't
06:54check my Instagram messages on desktop I
06:56don't have Instagram on my phone when
06:58I'm posting on Instagram I just downlo
06:59downloaded and then immediately deleted
07:01and also setting up opal which is on my
07:03phone to yeah block any podcast Spotify
07:07consumption before 1: p.m. so that I can
07:09just sit there in silence in the
07:11mornings and be like I have nothing to
07:12do let's get to work and then I just do
07:14the challenging tasks and then it also
07:16helps me turn off screens by 9:00 p.m.
07:17because it just kicks me out and um yeah
07:20limits the time on each app where I have
07:22to like wait for like 30 or 40 seconds
07:25to unlock it and that's enough of a pain
07:27enough friction for you to not do it
07:29it's an absolute Game Changer and life
07:31changer it's worth investing into these
07:33because they cost I don't know like four
07:35bucks a month something like that and
07:37the amount of hours you get back even
07:39just the first week is worth it there is
07:42some sort of guide as well that I put
07:43together on how I set it up so I'll link
07:45that below the next big thing for me is
07:48then getting up earlier and really
07:51having a consistent sleep schedule
07:53because I've noticed that for me the key
07:55sign of being in a slump all the way to
07:58being depressed is just staying up very
08:00late and getting up very late so I've
08:01noticed that even just getting up at
08:027:00 a.m. which is not even that early
08:04is a massive difference in productivity
08:07and just how I feel how I carry myself
08:09throughout the day than getting up at
08:119900 a.m. I know none of this is fancy
08:12schmancy new stuff that you've heard
08:14it's boring so let's move on if you do
08:15these two things you get up consistently
08:17and you've limited media consumption
08:19you're already 90% there but sticking to
08:22that is another thing it's simple but
08:25can be hard so there are ways that I
08:27like to set up accountability to make
08:29sure it Happ happens one way is through
08:31just friends right get around the right
08:34people who also set goals like you get
08:37up with them together and make sure hey
08:387:00 a.m. you text me I text you what
08:41you can add to that is just adding fines
08:43something that makes discipline
08:45effortless and in many ways removes the
08:48need for discipline at all for example I
08:50got up at 6:00 a.m. uh on Monday which
08:53was very rough after getting up at 9:00
08:55a.m. all this time but I just said to my
08:56housemate Matt I was like hey if I don't
08:58get up at 600 a.m. am then I give you
09:00100 bucks the moment I shook hands with
09:02him it was done like I didn't have to
09:04worry about oh am I able to do it it's
09:06like there's no way I'm not doing it now
09:08discipline wasn't needed anymore because
09:10it was almost like hacked when you're in
09:12that Gray Zone again of like oh let me
09:14try but it's not really that important
09:16that I do it that's when it gets really
09:17challenging that's what I found and
09:19whenever I've had my back against the
09:20wall and I've had accountability like
09:22this I just made things happen for
09:25example when I sold my first business
09:26for a bit over half a million I had all
09:28this money I didn't really have pressure
09:30and then obviously the tax authorities
09:33took half of it and I had like 100 bucks
09:36left which is what it felt like but I
09:38went all into YouTube and I don't think
09:40it's a coincidence that I just started
09:43having my channel take off 2 months
09:45before I ran out of money because the
09:48pressure was there if I don't make it
09:49happen now then I'm out of money and
09:52then I don't know what to do so having
09:53it back against the wall I've seen it so
09:55many times over and over again is just
09:57often times the key to breaking through
09:59a barrier that you've been stuck in for
10:01a while who knows maybe like setting up
10:03these $100 fines is unhealthy maybe
10:05there's some psychologist that you see
10:07on I don't know modern wisdom Chris
10:09Williamson's podcast or you know Tom
10:11Bilu they say hey there like these new
10:13studies that we found that finds will
10:15actually make your brain shrink and it's
10:18it's a very terrible way to I don't know
10:20maybe I don't know if it's the best way
10:23but it works and it's again removing the
10:25gray Zone that just kills so many people
10:28where they make it unnecessarily hard
10:30because they're one foot in one foot out
10:31it's much easier to be Allin the other
10:33accountability is just having the right
10:34people around you it's very easy for me
10:36to be healthy and eat healthy because I
10:38live with friends who are obsessed with
10:41health to a point where it's ridiculous
10:43but I think it's normal because I'm just
10:44around them all the time usually you're
10:46the Weir one if you don't drink here
10:47you're the we one if you eat at 9:00
10:49p.m. because it'll spike your blood
10:50sugar at night how can you do this this
10:52is crazy so get some accountability
10:54which makes it very easy to stick to the
10:55Cornerstone habit which makes it very
10:57easy to just for 30 days track that
11:00habit and absolutely crush it get back
11:01on momentum and then an obvious one is
11:04yeah workout and diet I don't even need
11:06to mention it but get some movement into
11:07your routine work out 10,000 steps a day
11:10whatever it is for you if working out
11:11was a pill it would be the biggest
11:13company in the world and everyone would
11:15take it not because they want to get swo
11:17or thick but because it has so many
11:20benefits for your brain keeping you
11:22Young making you happy and healthy just
11:24all the good things and from there I
11:26think you can add any other habit that
11:28will make a difference for you for me a
11:30huge one that I'm now getting into which
11:32I can't believe that I stopped doing it
11:35is visualization because it's been I
11:38think maybe the most impactful habit for
11:41achieving things that I thought were
11:43impossible in the past and I'm going to
11:44dive into it more later in this episode
11:46but it could be anything for you it
11:47could be journaling could be meditating
11:49not doing the flippy floppy a lot of
11:51guys like to do that because apparently
11:53it um makes you able to see through
11:55walls or something or you can just do
11:57something like the driven 30 or 75 five
11:59hard which is yeah just a clear
12:01challenge that you can go through to
12:03build momentum The Driven 30 challenge
12:04is something that we did last year with
12:06our community just to stick to six daily
12:08habits for 30 days to get you out of a
12:10slump back into really good momentum and
12:12it's very sustainable the 75 Hearts
12:13specifically is to build hardcore
12:15discipline and an iron mind that maybe
12:18isn't sustainable longterm but the
12:21people that I've seen who've done it the
12:23different people after this because when
12:24you go through something like that you
12:26build so much belief in yourself what
12:28you do after afterwards just carries a
12:30lot of weight because you just did this
12:32really challenging thing for 75 days
12:34where you work out twice a day you read
12:36x amount of pages and and all of that so
12:38it's very challenging but it just builds
12:40this trust in yourself that when you
12:42declare something when you set a goal
12:44you'll achieve it if you seen the video
12:46called this idea will make you
12:48Unstoppable it's the one that's about
12:49the winner effect then you know how
12:52powerful it is to start small with
12:55something and then build yourself up
12:56from there you built momentum with a
12:5830-day Sprint and then and as you
12:59achieve that you feel a sense of
13:01accomplishment if you do it right if you
13:03acknowledge your wins and so there's one
13:04resource that I didn't put in to that
13:06video that I think would be fascinating
13:09to share with you guys because I am
13:11implementing the things from that book
13:13and it's called the Midas method this is
13:15one of these books that a friend of mine
13:17suggested to me that I've never heard
13:18about it has a very very intriguing
13:22concept or promise that it talks about
13:23and it's a book from the ' 50s or
13:25something like that it's quite old so
13:27usually I like that because it means
13:29means it's stood the test of time what I
13:30don't like about that book is that yeah
13:32it's one of these older books where it's
13:34like you have to use this success system
13:36and if you don't do it perfectly well
13:38then it won't work and you have to do it
13:39exactly as I say and your life will
13:41change forever it's one of these old
13:43self-help books but it talks about an
13:45idea that I find very powerful in the
13:47book he shares with you the systems on
13:49goal setting where twice a day you sit
13:51down you write out your goals you read
13:53them out you visualize them but there's
13:55a specific process you have to do it
13:56exactly how he says da d d and the idea
13:59behind it is that you start out with
14:01small goals so you write out three or
14:03four goals and the first goal of yours
14:05is that you get up 2 hours earlier than
14:07you normally would the reason why you do
14:09that is because you want to write out
14:10that goal you want to visualize it and
14:12then make it happen so that then you
14:14signal to your brain and to your
14:16subconscious hey look when I set a goal
14:18and I visualize it I make it happen the
14:21second one could be something as simple
14:22as just answering to an email that
14:24you've been avoiding and once you get
14:27through that first set of goals tells
14:29you to set bigger goals right like
14:31medium difficulty where it's like okay
14:33let me shoot three podcasts this month
14:35up to the point where you build up this
14:37momentum and this confidence in yourself
14:40and also signaling to your subconscious
14:43whatever to your brain that when I set a
14:45goal and I use the system and I write it
14:47out and I sit down and I visualize it I
14:50make it happen and looking back at my
14:52life that's something I've done the
14:55first time I built my business it seemed
14:56impossible but I visualized did I ended
15:00up making it happen and from then on my
15:02confidence went through the roof where I
15:04felt like I could achieve anything now
15:06that's why I think it's so valuable to
15:08start out with a 30-day Sprint or just a
15:11driven 30 challenge or a 75 heart
15:13whatever you choose because you end up
15:15proving to yourself that you do these
15:16things and you build self trust because
15:19when you have lost trust with yourself
15:21when you say you're going to do one
15:22thing and you don't do it every time it
15:25becomes harder to commit to something
15:27else again because you know you're not
15:28going to do it and even if you declare
15:30it to yourself your brain is going to go
15:33yeah right we'll see we know how this
15:34goes right and this process where you
15:37get up earlier just one time two hours
15:39earlier and you just follow up on it you
15:40just say what you're going to do and you
15:42do it and then another small goal and
15:44another small goal and another small
15:47habit it builds this confidence that
15:49then allows you to tackle bigger things
15:50highly recommend you check out the book
15:52if you're interested or just check out a
15:53summary I don't think you need to read
15:54the whole book but it has some
15:55interesting ideas and just look past the
15:58usual self-help fluff that makes it
16:00cringe now let's get into the juicy part
16:02specifically on how to set goals the
16:04right way to crush 2024 and make this
16:07new year that you look back on and
16:08you're like yes I did it I'm proud of
16:11what I did I want to share some things
16:12that I've learned from last year and
16:15also previous years that will make a big
16:16difference on how you approach it the
16:18first one is I think the reason why this
16:21will be the best year out of The Last 5
16:24Years for me and I've shared this with a
16:26few friends of mine my prediction is
16:28that this this year compared to the
16:30other ones I'll work the least or you
16:32know have the most Balanced Life while
16:34reaching the most people I ever have and
16:36also making the most money I've ever
16:38made I feel you know at the tip of
16:41my my tongue and who knows maybe the
16:44year is going to go completely sideways
16:46but that's what I'm feeling that's the
16:48energy that I'm carrying into it not
16:49because I force myself to but I just I
16:51feel it if you've seen the latest video
16:53where I gave an update about my YouTube
16:55journey and not wanting to make these
16:56videos anymore last year and the
16:58previous years my goal was to make
17:00bigger YouTube videos I had a team of
17:01four people it was super expensive very
17:03stressful I ended up being a manager of
17:05people some of these videos cost over 20
17:07grand took us weeks to plan and set up
17:09the logistics then days of scripting and
17:11preparing the the rip angle and the
17:13thumbnail and all that weeks of shooting
17:15sometimes and weeks of editing it was a
17:17painful process and I felt burned out
17:21didn't really have a social life no
17:22vacation or travel and that was all I
17:24did and by the end of the year I had one
17:27more video that I had to make because
17:28that's what I committed to and I made a
17:30bet with my friends that I would spend
17:3110 grand on them going to Disney World
17:33if I don't make it so I was forced to
17:35make this video last minute basically or
17:37not last minute but by the end of the
17:38year and it ended up being the one that
17:39I put the least work and effort into it
17:41was the this idea will make you
17:43Unstoppable video where I talked about
17:44the winter effect that I mentioned
17:45earlier I was just sitting in my studio
17:47talked about a book and a concept and
17:49you know a few ideas that were connected
17:50to that I didn't think much of it and
17:52then it blew up lots of friends reached
17:54out to me and they were like this was
17:56incredible do more of that and the
17:57comments were just so overwhelmingly
17:59positive like this is the best video of
18:01the year I'm watching this on repeat I
18:03had four babies after watching this
18:04video you ended World Hunger in my
18:06country and it hit almost a million
18:07views so I went huh and that gave me
18:11permission to finally make the switch to
18:13simpler videos because it looks like
18:16that's what people really enjoy and I
18:18enjoyed it much more too like it was so
18:20easy making that video compared to the
18:21other ones and so this year I'm just
18:23sitting down in my studio making
18:25podcasts it's way less work not even one
18:2810th it's 130th of that I got free time
18:32I can actually go and live my life and
18:34learn new things and then come back and
18:35talk about them here instead of just
18:37working all the time I don't really need
18:39a team I may bring on one person and a
18:41few contractors and so last year I only
18:44got one3 of views compared to the
18:46previous year and that's why I think
18:48this year I mean I'll reach more people
18:50therefore make more money so that's
18:51where my prediction comes from what is
18:53the difference between these two years
18:56the outside shift is obvious I just
18:58changed for Ms duh but the internal
19:00shift was way more important which is I
19:03just stopped playing in hard mode and
19:05started playing easy mode where in your
19:07life are you currently playing hard mode
19:10where you could be playing easy mode and
19:12let me add this hard mode in this case
19:15doesn't get you any extra benefits or
19:17achievements like in a video game where
19:18you get an extra like platinum trophy or
19:21whatever no there's no benefit to it
19:23other than maybe you get to complain
19:24about it and brag about it on like how
19:26hard you're trying and how difficult it
19:27is and it makes you feel feel good that
19:29way but you don't get bonus points for
19:31that in the end what matters is results
19:33and this begs the question where am I
19:35making things hotter than they need to
19:37be like with working out for example
19:39what is a workout that is fun and
19:40sustainable and gets my body to get
19:43stronger grow muscle versus a workout
19:45where I'm just breaking my back and
19:47completely destroying my body to the
19:49point where I don't want to keep doing
19:50it and it's not actually gaining more
19:53results or in business you're playing
19:55hard mode because you're focusing on too
19:56many things different target audience is
19:59trying to please everyone and trying to
20:01do things overly perfect and you sweat
20:02the small stuff instead of just like get
20:04down to the essential work with people
20:05that are fun to work with serve the
20:07customers that are happiest with your
20:08service and the same thing goes for goal
20:10setting setting 10 goals for every
20:12single area of your life wanting to do
20:14everything at once versus just focusing
20:15on the few things that really matters
20:16and the Keystone habits that move the
20:18needle like what are the few things that
20:20if Done Right will make all the
20:22difference where is The Leverage so a
20:24question that I like to ask myself is
20:26what's the one goal that will make all
20:27the other goals easier or un necessary
20:29for example for me I know that if I grow
20:31this YouTube channel if I grow this
20:33podcast my network will naturally grow
20:35because more people will be seeing my
20:38cute face that'll also result in better
20:40finances more money right more
20:41opportunities there so instead of
20:44setting separate goals for all of these
20:45I know that if I knock that one Domino
20:47off everything else would get better and
20:49yeah I don't know who said it maybe it
20:51was Tony Robbins or Winston Churchill or
20:53Gandhi we overestimate what we can do in
20:55a year we underestimate what we can do
20:57in a decade why do we get stuck in in
20:58hard mode I think it's just old patterns
21:00it's either like perfectionism we're
21:02impatient and we want to do everything
21:03at once um or we have this need of
21:05control where I want to do this thing
21:08and I also want to do that thing we're
21:09just not willing to say no and saying no
21:12is tough and for me that meant okay I
21:15want to tell all these stories with this
21:17emotional music and just like fancy and
21:19just like Elevate everything and like I
21:20don't want to do podcast like everyone
21:22else I don't think there was much of a
21:23need for it on YouTube in this specific
21:25space where people either want to be
21:26entertained or they want to learn
21:27something and I'm kind of like in the
21:29middle serving two different audiences
21:31that want to do either or I just wasn't
21:34willing to say no yeah you want to have
21:3610 goals in a year you want to do these
21:3810 different things and you have to pick
21:40and choose which one are really going to
21:42move the needle that you can move
21:43forward because you're not going to do
21:4410 different things you're not even
21:46going to do three big things like pick
21:48two or ideally just one this video that
21:51I put the least effort into that
21:52performed like crazy and people loved it
21:54showed me what people really care about
21:57and it doesn't have to be this over
21:58produced expensive budget that is
22:01developed over weeks and personally what
22:03helped me was burning out on hard mode
22:07just being like I don't want to do this
22:08anymore maybe this is something people
22:10just have to go through like you can
22:11logically understand okay what if I
22:13played easy mode but you're only really
22:15going to let go and say no to the things
22:17that you also want to do because you're
22:19like I can't I can't do it anymore and
22:21so sometimes we got to hit Rook bottom
22:23to realize what really matters I mean
22:25think about people who have a near-death
22:26experience we all know relationship is
22:28most important and being happy in the
22:30moment sounds cool but until we have a
22:34experience we're not really going to act
22:36accordingly so first big lesson before
22:38we start setting goals is stop playing
22:40in hard mode switch to easy mode and
22:42that may mean saying no to a lot of
22:44things that you think matter but they
22:46actually don't the second lesson I
22:47learned that I'm taking into this year
22:49is something that feels very out of my
22:51nature but I think it's the next level
22:55of what I'm stepping into now it's
22:57almost like this strength that had all
22:59these years brings these weaknesses with
23:01me that now I can balance out and can
23:03switch between the two and we all have
23:04that right like what are some of the
23:06strengths that you have that also have
23:07weaknesses and what if you could switch
23:09modes where the weakness that you
23:11usually have becomes a strength I mean
23:13just think about somebody who's
23:14hypological but can have fun at a potty
23:16but then when they go to a potty they
23:18can switch to a social person that yeah
23:21maybe isn't the smartest and most
23:22intelligent and logical but they have a
23:24great time and you can switch between
23:25these modes when you're like in business
23:27and potty this is something I've been
23:28leaning into not the party example
23:30because obviously I'm very fun but the
23:33weakness that I have been having is over
23:36planning and overthinking this is why
23:37these videos took so long why I always
23:40needed a plan for the entire year and it
23:42took me ages to script videos because I
23:44would be so meticulous about it that's
23:46also one of my strengths because I was
23:47able to make very engaging videos and
23:49maybe you've seen it in this one so far
23:51it's a lot more free flowing and I'm
23:53really kicking myself to not optimize
23:56this messaging a bit better and I'm kind
23:58of leaning into that more free flowing
24:00taking action quickly and then adjusting
24:02from their mode the reason why I was
24:04able to tap into that is because I went
24:06to this Creator weekend retreat where we
24:09were about 10 15 people Chris Williamson
24:12was there ran Doris friend of mine that
24:14I had on the channel 2 Sam ens the
24:15founder of school Andrew Kirby a bunch
24:17of other people uh fascinating group of
24:19individuals it was really fun yeah we
24:21just rented out this nice ABB over a
24:23weekend and just hung out and I sat down
24:26with the ran I asked him hey what are
24:27your goals for this year like what's
24:29your what's your plan and he's like you
24:30know I uh I actually stopped
24:33planning I don't know if I can do the
24:35accent he was telling me in his Irish
24:37accent that he actually stopped planning
24:40and he doesn't think far into the future
24:42anymore only in short projects and I was
24:45like wait that is a bit of a slap in the
24:47face because I did not expect that I'm
24:49the type of guy who likes to set a
24:51vision and then at 12mon plan and then
24:53by this year we have we're in this stage
24:55where then we're going to build a team
24:56and then we're going to switch into that
24:57and he said was you know what plans
25:00change all the time is what he's learned
25:02over the years and I'm
25:03like I know he's right but I like
25:06planning cuz it makes me feel good and
25:08it makes me feel like I have control and
25:10it makes me feel like I know what I'm
25:11doing but it never works out never
25:16things always change like even me now
25:17switching to podcasts right yeah I was
25:20so fixated on this idea that I spent an
25:23extra year just okay let me try one more
25:26year to make this work where there Right
25:28audience fit with this style of video
25:30and we can actually get enough views so
25:32that people watch so I can pay the team
25:34I probably would have made this change a
25:36year earlier had I not been
25:39so plaintive I'm not even going to look
25:42it up it's not a word you know what it
25:43means I've been very plative and it's
25:46good to plan it's good to be prepared
25:48and I'm not saying that this is the
25:49right approach for everyone but when ran
25:51said that to me I was like I know he's
25:53right and I know I've been wasting way
25:55too much time planning way too much
25:58and the plans always change so what's
26:00very new to me now and even with this
26:03podcast and this year is that I don't
26:06have many big plans and I'm just kind of
26:09winging it which feels scary because I
26:11like to prep and like overthink and
26:13that's one of my superpowers and now I'm
26:15leaning into this new thing which is
26:16just let me just figure it out along the
26:18way I'm just going to record this first
26:20episode I feel like it's not going to do
26:22well and that's fine because I just want
26:24to get the first rep in the next one's
26:25going to be better the next one's going
26:26to be better my plan right now was just
26:28okay this month I'll do a weekly episode
26:31um maybe eventually I'll do bi-weekly
26:33where I have one guest and one without a
26:36guest and we do two episodes a week
26:38maybe I don't know maybe touch on
26:40current events in society as well lean
26:42into that a bit keep it free flowing
26:45conversational maybe I'll get a co-host
26:47and I'm really just building it as I go
26:50with you so I would love to get your
26:51feedback what you think tell me in the
26:53comments or just reach out to me on
26:54Instagram tell me what you think and
26:56what you want to see more of because
26:58this is how I want to approach it now
26:59building it with you with your feedback
27:01and just seeing how I feel so a big
27:04lesson in regards to goal setting for me
27:06this year is stop over planning and stay
27:08flexible because you can make changes so
27:10much quicker by just having a short
27:12project seeing how it goes and then
27:14adjusting very quickly the feedback loop
27:15is just a lot smaller and the third
27:17lesson is really one that Shields me
27:20against disappointment because you can
27:22probably relate to setting a goal and
27:24then you don't hit it and you feel
27:24disappointed and you feel just
27:25disheartened and demotivated that goes
27:27against the of the winter effect and
27:29just keeping the momentum going learning
27:30from mistakes and just continuing to be
27:32enthusiastic and so this year I'm not
27:35setting a measurable goal that is
27:36outside of my control I'm not setting a
27:38subscriber and view goal because these
27:40are so unpredictable you can make the
27:42same amount of videos and for some
27:45reason you hit a gold mine and it just
27:4810 X's or 100 x's in views where you get
27:50a 5 million view video and you just
27:52can't predict those and they can also
27:53set the wrong incentives I know how to
27:55get millions of views of videos but are
27:58the the videos that I want to make
27:59here's how you stop choking your chick
28:02like I don't want to make videos about
28:03noof fap I don't want to make videos
28:04about here's the five things on how to
28:06make the and I don't want to make
28:08negative content that just goes viral
28:10because it it rils people up and a bad
28:12goal can also set the wrong incentives
28:14where you set a short-term goal to get
28:16tons of views but then I have to dumb
28:18down the content and I don't want that
28:19so no subscriber goal no view goal so
28:22think about what are the goals that may
28:23set the wrong incentives for you and
28:25these three lessons lead me to what
28:27we've been building up to which is
28:28setting goals the right way because a
28:30few small changes in the way you
28:32approach them will make a big difference
28:34between a year where you set a bunch of
28:35goals and you felt defeated afterwards
28:37versus that one year that we all want
28:39where we look back and we see how far
28:41we've come firstly let's talk about how
28:43to set goals or how I like to set goals
28:46which is my Approach may work for you
28:48may not but this is what I've come to
28:50over the years there are a lot of
28:51contrarians in this self-help space
28:53where they say I don't set goals I just
28:55set systems it's a great way to Market
28:57yourself to sound different but to me it
28:59really is the same thing you know you
29:01have the people in the camp that are
29:02like oh goals is everything you have to
29:03set goals and then there's people who
29:04are like goals are useless you just need
29:06to set measurable things that you can do
29:08every day that then lead to the goal and
29:10so I'm usually in between and I'm just
29:12like why not do both they both serve a
29:14purpose the way I see it is that goals
29:16and the long-term vision is just to set
29:18the direction so you know where to go
29:21and you know what actionable items to
29:22set and then from there you reverse
29:24engineer and set actionable items right
29:26things that are fully in your control
29:28that you can take off and it's really
29:30just there to get you excited about the
29:31future and get you motivated get like
29:34tickle your pickle whatever you want to
29:35call it and on the other side you have
29:37the measurable weekly action items that
29:40are fully in your control it's not
29:41outcome oriented but instead of saying I
29:43want to hit 10K a month you say
29:45something like I want to put out x
29:47amount of videos so if your vision or
29:50goal is to this year make 50k a month in
29:53your business then an actionable item
29:55that is shortterm and that could be a
29:57system is like hey hey every week I am
30:00taking these action steps I reach out to
30:01this many potential clients I launch one
30:04new product a month in my e-commerce
30:06business and then that'll lead to that
30:07goal so it's really both and this is how
30:09I like to approach it I set the
30:10long-term Vision to just get me excited
30:12and then from there I ask myself okay
30:14what would I have to achieve in the next
30:1590 days just 90 days that would make me
30:17feel like I'm on track for that
30:19long-term goal whether it's one year
30:21longterm goal or a 5year long-term goal
30:23like what's just right now and so it is
30:27a good balance between planning a bit to
30:30have a bit of a project in a plan but
30:31not too much where you're not flexible
30:33so setting 60 to 90day Sprints staying
30:35flexible and then after those Sprints
30:37taking a week off and readjust and again
30:39long-term goals are really just to set a
30:42direction that excites you that gives
30:44you some idea on what short-term goals
30:46that you can set that may get you there
30:47for example it could be having a million
30:49bucks in the bank by the age of 30 and
30:51then you let the long-term goals Define
30:52what short-term goals you focus on I
30:54think it's very important knowing what
30:56you want long-term because imagine you
30:58work 20 years towards a vision and then
31:00when you realize it you're like oh this
31:02is I actually don't care about this
31:03oopsie wasted 20 years so I think it's
31:06important to continuously get more and
31:08more clear about what you actually want
31:09but I think that just comes with age as
31:11you mature as you learn things when I
31:13look at the goals that I set when I was
31:15in my early 20s it's laughable I don't
31:17know what I was thinking but I was just
31:19making a hypothesis and I'm like I think
31:20this is what I want and then you just
31:21adjust over time and of course I could
31:23tell you about all the like oh make it
31:25measurable attainable all that stuff you
31:27already know that stuff look it up
31:28online very simple make things concrete
31:30clear blah blah blah and then there's a
31:33habit that now I'm getting back into
31:35that for some reason I stopped doing but
31:37I think it's the most impactful one that
31:39I used in order to achieve goals that at
31:41the time seemed impossible I think most
31:44of you know this story when I was 20 I
31:45started my first business because I had
31:47a girlfriend in Australia and then I was
31:49kicked out of the country because my
31:50Visa had expired and I promised that I
31:52would find a way back and the only way
31:54that I found to make it back was to
31:56build a business that would make money
31:57online so could come back on a tourist
31:58visa cuz I didn't have money to study
32:00there I didn't have a degree yet so I
32:02couldn't get a job there that qualified
32:04me for another Visa anyways it seemed
32:06impossible at the time to start a
32:07business because I've never done
32:09anything comparable to that and I
32:12started getting into yeah the Law of
32:15Attraction all of that stuff like you
32:17visualizing things I was just desperate
32:18at the time I was like Hey anything that
32:20could get me there I'll try it my take
32:22on the law of attraction is I think
32:23there's a logical explanation for why
32:25these things work because if you think
32:27about what you want then you're probably
32:29more likely to go after it and see
32:31possibilities and so I started
32:33visualizing making it back to Australia
32:35with a successful business and I would
32:37visualize myself crossing the border the
32:39officer at the immigration desk saying
32:41welcome to Australia and I would be back
32:43in Sydney and i' would be so happy and I
32:44would visualize it over and over again
32:46to the point where I would literally
32:47have dreams about it and in my dreams I
32:50would be crying tears of joy like I made
32:51it back and then I would wake up in real
32:53life and I actually had tears down my
32:56cheeks because I was actually crying and
32:59so it definitely hit my subconscious
33:00brain in some way where my brain knew
33:03this is really important to you this is
33:05what you want and even to this day I
33:06sometimes have dreams of being in Sydney
33:08where I'm like wa this is awesome I made
33:10it I hit a point where I just knew it
33:13was going to work because I brainwashed
33:16myself that way because of all these
33:18visualizations and these celebrations of
33:20the success before it even happened and
33:22listen I'm a logical guy I'm not a I'm
33:24not someone who thinks there was like
33:26these love attaction frequencies no it's
33:29just simply I ended up showing up
33:30differently the way I took action and
33:33took risks and just fully went for it
33:35was because of this confidence that I
33:37had brainwashed myself with I was just
33:39going after it with full confidence I
33:41went all in I sold all my stuff to get
33:45as much money together I borrowed money
33:47from friends and family wherever I could
33:49the way I showed up to meetings or with
33:52people was just very different was just
33:53like it's a done deal and of course
33:55there was still these doubts and stuff
33:56but it changed me and having these ideas
33:59in the shower right or right after
34:01waking up where it's like oh what if I
34:03just did this these were just things
34:05that I don't know if I would have come
34:06up with them if I hadn't told my brain
34:09hey this is what we're going for and I
34:10did the same thing with my YouTube
34:11channel I visualized getting 100,000
34:14subscribers and through that I started
34:16acting like this is my job I mean watch
34:18my first videos the way I approach this
34:21whole thing is like this is going to
34:22work I'm going all in and when you act
34:24in accordance with it reality is more
34:27likely to catch up is it guaranteed no
34:29is there some magic woo stuff I don't
34:31know but I stopped doing that for some
34:32reason and I'm now getting back into
34:34that which is very exciting cuz it's
34:36actually very enjoyable books you can
34:37check out is psycho cybernetics or what
34:40else would be a good book I don't know
34:42start with that one it's a bit woo but I
34:45think it helped me so start small build
34:48momentum from there and just prove to
34:50your brain and yourself that you're
34:52someone who achieves things and then set
34:54bigger goals from there I think a lot of
34:55us have unrealistic expectations
34:58and when we have these ups and downs in
35:00discipline or consistency we beat
35:01ourselves up and we're like what's wrong
35:03with me but those are normal embrace
35:04them and I think it's all about just
35:06being able to notice it and catch
35:08yourself and just shortening the period
35:10where those happen so excited to be back
35:12see you in the next one stay driven
