00:00this video we're gonna be talking about
00:01how to be an alpha male and before you
00:05turn off the video and say what the hell
00:08this is not going to be one of those
00:10lame videos where I give you five tips
00:11on how to be an alpha male or how to
00:13appear more alpha we're gonna actually
00:15address in this video
00:16the alpha male controversy what what
00:19does it mean how does it actually
00:20biologically apply what is the true
00:23alpha male and then the behaviors that
00:26flow from your nature which really kind
00:29of indicate that you cannot become an
00:32alpha male at least by changing your
00:34behaviors and then we're gonna talk
00:36about some ways that you could actually
00:38change your nature and actually really
00:40embody these personality traits I'm John
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01:03on this journey just the term alpha male
01:05has been overused widely used widely
01:08criticized to today I would say in terms
01:12of what it means does it actually exist
01:15in nature you know it initially came
01:16from an observation about wolf pack's
01:19right then there was an alpha of the
01:22that's anthropologists that had
01:24discovered this recant then said whoops
01:27I was wrong and so a lot of people have
01:29used that to say oh there's no such
01:30thing as alphas right a lot of
01:32literature that you would read out there
01:34would say okay we're most related to
01:36chimpanzees or bonobos right it depends
01:40it's pretty pretty damn close and so if
01:42you look at the chimpanzees you
01:43definitely have an alpha male type of
01:45hierarchy you have most of those male
01:48dominant aggressive tendencies where
01:50bonobos are more of a matriarchal
01:52society and it's a little bit different
01:56there so here's the thing to understand
01:58we don't need to look at a biological
02:00component as far as the animal kingdom
02:03to know what an alpha male is or to know
02:06that there's such a thing right in in
02:09humans that we would call alpha male
02:12personality traits and those things are
02:14like social dominance it's really what
02:17we'd call masculinity being a man is not
02:19how women perceive you but how other
02:22and perceive you your status within the
02:24tribe right your acceptance by other men
02:26and the the value that they place on you
02:29as a valuable member of that tribe
02:31that's really where your dominance ISM
02:35as a man comes into place and that's
02:37really what I would say defines you more
02:40so as alpha there's a big controversy
02:41like I said on YouTube on the internet
02:44just in general about the whole alpha
02:47male beta male and then you throw in the
02:49gamma male stuff into the mix and I want
02:51to avoid all of that because it's it
02:54doesn't matter it doesn't matter what
02:56kind of labels that we apply right
02:58there's really just this embodied
03:00concept of being the kind of man that is
03:04is quote an alpha male let's talk about
03:06what is the true alpha male first of all
03:10what is a true alpha male is a man that
03:14is really in touch with his masculinity
03:16that has a purpose in life and goes
03:19after that purpose man should not be
03:21spending his life trying to impress
03:23women trying to get external validation
03:25trying to quote chase tail but instead
03:28should be spending his life focused on
03:29his purpose what is he trying to
03:31accomplish in life an alpha male a truly
03:34alpha male if we're gonna use that term
03:36is a man who goes after what he wants in
03:39life and doesn't take excuses he doesn't
03:42accept excuses he goes after what he
03:45wants he figured out what his purpose is
03:47he figured out what his objective is and
03:49he figures out how to get it and he
03:50doesn't let things stop him or things
03:52stand in the way by having that kind of
03:55tenacity other people will respect you
03:59because you will be taking chances
04:01you'll be growing as a person you will
04:02not let fear determine your actions and
04:05you also won't let emotion determine
04:07your actions I was that Elliott Hulse is
04:09grounding camp and one of the guys was
04:12asking about masculine he said you know
04:15I don't get why or I don't understand it
04:17seems like anger and aggression is a
04:19large part of masculinity is that true
04:22what if you've seen if you've seen the
04:24the Marvel movie Avengers who is the
04:27most powerful character in the entire
04:30series who's the most masculine and most
04:32powerful character I'm sure that you've
04:33guessed that it's it's Dennis what is
04:36about Thanos that when he's slaughtering
04:39like whole populations of people
04:41basically wiping out half the universe
04:43okay and just slaughtering people
04:45laughter right what is the one thing
04:46that you notice about it he's not angry
04:49in fact he's not emotional at all about
04:51he's just very logical and analytical
04:53about this maybe there's a few spots
04:55where he starts to I think in that the
04:57last movie at the very end where he
04:59starts to lose his cool just a tiny bit
05:02but for the most part what makes him
05:04masculine what makes him quote alpha is
05:06the idea that he doesn't get angry he's
05:08a really good example if you're looking
05:10at someone who is alpha and alpha male
05:13character he's an alpha male character
05:15okay he's got the power he's got the
05:18he's got the respect he doesn't have to
05:20prove anyone anything to anyone okay
05:22he's doing this because he's after his
05:25purpose right and and think about it how
05:27he's so driven for the purpose that he's
05:29trying to achieve which is the way about
05:31half of the universe he wants to get you
05:33know the Infinity Gauntlet and get all
05:34the the stones and finish stones and he
05:37wants to snap his finger and and
05:39basically wipe out half of the universe
05:42because that's his mission that's his
05:44goal all of these videos that you see
05:45and all these books that you read that
05:48teach you how to be more alpha focus on
05:51behavioral characteristics you cannot
05:54change your behavior if you try and
05:56change your behavior directly it's like
05:59stretching a rubber band okay I talked
06:01about this as far as like quitting porn
06:03and masturbation and to quit you know
06:06something like drugs any kind of
06:07addiction is you're pulling that rubber
06:09band back back back back okay eventually
06:12what's gonna happen is that the rubber
06:14band is gonna snap back the other way
06:15really hard and that's where you screw
06:19up and you go on a binge that rubber
06:21band kicked my this is human nature so
06:24if you were to say okay I want to be an
06:26alpha male I'm gonna start doing alpha
06:28male traits I'm going to no change my
06:30behavior in such a way as I'm acting as
06:32if an alpha male if you start trying to
06:34act dominant or act tough or act like
06:37you don't give a fuck okay you're
06:39actually investing and you're actually
06:41going to betray yourself because that's
06:44not you know it's it has to flow from
06:46your nature then you won't be able to
06:49won't be able to maintain that when it
06:50is not actually in your nature you're
06:52going to get found out what you have to
06:54do is you have to change your nature
06:55that means a few different things one of
06:58those things is changing your mindset if
07:00you have this sort of fairytale view of
07:03reality and relationships with women and
07:05you think that they're that they don't
07:07do anything bad and they're all just you
07:09know princesses and and you're putting
07:12women on a pedestal okay you're
07:14definitely not gonna be alpha at all
07:15because you don't have the mindset your
07:17behaviors are gonna flow from someone
07:18who believes that type of reality your
07:20growth doesn't stop there because a lot
07:23of it is what you think about yourself
07:25okay it's not just the way that you view
07:27reality but it's also how you view
07:29yourself and how you view yourself in
07:31terms of society and the way that you
07:33act if you feel that you are inferior if
07:36you feel that you do not that you do not
07:38deserve things if you feel like you are
07:40not entitled if you feel like you are
07:43lower status you will act in that way
07:45you have to be able to change that by
07:48changing yourself that's why on this
07:50channel the thing that I focus on is
07:52mindset right this is why this channels
07:53called bulldog mindset and this is why
07:56we dismissed the victim I said by the
07:57way if you want to see what your score
07:59is how much of the Bulldog mindset you
08:01have make sure that you take the quiz
08:02here I'll put a link up in the cards
08:05they'll also be linked in the
08:06description and that will give you a
08:08score that will tell you what your
08:09Bulldog score is and then I'll give you
08:10some videos and some help to raise that
08:12score but it's important to know where
08:14you start that's why on the show I focus
08:15on mindset first okay because mindset is
08:18critical when you feel like you are
08:20worthy you're gonna act in that way
08:23right that's why it's so important to
08:25have a purpose in your life and to be
08:27pursuing that as a man instead of just
08:30trying to get the second-order effect of
08:33yes it's great it's awesome you can you
08:36can do that but you need to work on
08:38yourself now some of you don't want to
08:40hear that right you want just these
08:41behaviors that you can emulate in order
08:44to be more alpha but you can't you can't
08:46do that in order to change behavior you
08:48must change nature in order to change
08:49nature you must change mindset you must
08:52change the environment and you must
08:54change inputs okay and those things are
08:56all very related in a psych cyclic
09:00dependency okay the the mindset come
09:03from the environment in the inputs okay
09:05but you because of that mindset you
09:08change your environments and you change
09:09your input so these things all kind of
09:11feed into each other the real focus the
09:13thing that you need to do is you need to
09:15focus on changing your mindset
09:18developing what I would call the Bulldog
09:19mindset that means accomplishing shit
09:21with your life it means having a drive
09:23and worrying about more importantly
09:26about accomplishing things think of
09:27accomplishing your mission having that
09:29mission having a life of your own let me
09:32know what you think leave a comment
09:34below and I will talk to you next time
