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All My Ex's Are Narcissists & Every1 Gaslights, Trauma Dumps Which Gives Me Anxiety, PTSD And Autism

Aba N Preach2023-10-27
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The video discusses the misuse of psychological concepts like trauma, abuse, and gaslighting in society, impacting relationships. It addresses the trend of armchair diagnoses and emphasizes the importance of balancing needs in relationships. The speaker warns against using triggers for censorship and projecting past trauma onto current behavior. They also debunk myths about narcissism and highlight the complexity of human behavior. The importance of communication, understanding, and avoiding simplistic answers in relationships is emphasized, along with the recognition of emotional labor to prevent emotional abuse.

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Distortion of psychological concepts in society.
02:08
Terms like toxic masculinity and emotional labor are misused and overused, affecting relationships.
Importance of recognizing emotional labor and avoiding patronizing behaviors for genuine connections.
Human desire for predictability and understanding, using astrology for control in an uncertain world.
Importance of balancing needs in relationships.
03:56
Armchair diagnoses like narcissism and PTSD encourage communication and seeking help.
Warped view of relationships due to online rhetoric promoting disconnection over communication.
Putting your own needs above others' wants but prioritizing others' needs over your wants is key.
Emphasis on communication, conflict resolution, and understanding the difference between wants and needs in relationships.
Misusing therapy tools for censorship and victim mentality is counterproductive.
07:47
Diagnosing others without consent can lead to misinterpretations and unproductivity.
Projecting past trauma onto current behavior can hinder understanding and nuance.
Allowing individuals to explain their symptoms to professionals is crucial for accurate diagnosis and treatment.
Not all partners labeled as narcissists are truly narcissistic.
11:27
Narcissists make up only around 5% of the population, possibly even less.
Having narcissistic traits doesn't necessarily equate to being a bad person.
Some narcissists can lead functional lives, marry, have kids, and manage their tendencies.
Narcissism is related to brain wiring and emotional empathy, and not all individuals with narcissistic traits act on them consistently.
Neglect in relationship due to lack of acknowledgment of emotional labor.
13:05
Frustration with partner's failure to recognize efforts, leading to feeling unheard and unseen.
Societal perceptions of sensitivity in men, specifically Ethiopian men, and encounters with labeling as narcissists or gaslighters.
Emphasis on importance of communication and understanding in relationships to prevent misunderstandings and conflict.